Girl that I Like Suddenly Ignores Me

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So, there's this girl that I really like. I don't know if she likes me, but I've had suspicions that she likes me too. The thing is that I'm just pretty shy, and she's pretty shy too. So I won't ever say anything to her about me liking her unless I know for sure that she has the same feelings. And, if she does like me, she probably has the same thoughts. But that's a whole other problem, and I won't really get into in detail. This post is about another problem:So, recently, she just randomly started ignoring me. It came out of nowhere, and I am really confused. A few days ago she just kind of stopped acknowledging my existence. I didn't do anything wrong, I don't know what's going on. The day before everything was normal, and we were hanging out and having fun. The last time I saw her before she started ignoring me, which was the day before, we ended the night together on a high note. There was no reason for her to be mad or upset with me. Everything was fine.Then, the next day, I come across her and try talking to her. I ask a few questions about what she's doing, and she just kind of mumbles back at me, as if she doesn't want to talk to me. She said one word to me, and I left, being able to take the hint that she didn't want to talk to me. I thought that she was just a bad mood or something, so I just decided to leave her be for a while. But then she still ignored me for the next day. And it's not like she's just in a bad mood, because she's only treating ME this way. Around everyone else she's happy. In fact, she seems HAPPIER and FRIENDLIER around EVERYONE else. If someone walks by her, she'll say "HI" and act much friendlier than usual, while saying nothing to me. She literally has not acknowledged me AT ALL except that one word she said to me when I first noticed that she started ignoring me.So while she's treating everyone else even better than usual, she has not been acknowledging me at all these past few days. This really hurt me the first couple of days (and it still does). I was confused. What did I do?? I thought of everything, and I just couldn't think of a reason for why she's ignoring me.So, then I thought that maybe she's just toying with me. I've kind of done this stuff to her too, though not in a long time. I used to kind of ignore her to see how she'd react (would she be sad that I'm ignoring her??? Would she start acting depressed??). It was very stupid of me, and kind of a cruel experiment. So now I was wondering if this is her kind of taking revenge. But I don't know.I just find this very weird. I know that she's doing this on purpose. It's so obvious, and she's just acting so differently around me and she's never treated me this way before. I'm just very confused. I didn't do anything, believe me. I know someone might just be thinking that I forgot about SOMETHING that I did or that there must be SOME reason she's ignoring me. But I thought of EVERYTHING. There's nothing I did. I had just been hanging out with her, and we were getting along perfectly, and then just suddenly she started ignoring me and pretended like I don't exist. I can be a pretty sensitive guy, so I've really been kind of depressed over this. This is torture. I just felt like I needed to tell someone about this, and ask for advice. Does anyone have any idea of what she might be doing?? Does anyone have any advice?? I'd appreciate any comments.

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I won't ever say anything to her about me liking her unless I know for sure that she has the same feelings.
I think you will have to get over this. Why should she have to be the one to take the risks?

The problem is, you are asking us what she means when you should be asking her. She is the one who knows. For all we know, she might be doing this specifically so you will do the right thing and talk to her and not take her for granted.

Of course, there are many other possibilities. Perhaps someone has bad-mouthed you to her. Perhaps she has just decided to give up on you, since you don't seem to be doing anything. But unless you ask her, you won't find out.

You could, of course, ask her friends. But surely that would be avoiding the fundamental issue, which is that if this is to get anywhere, you have to move forward. With any relationship, to stand still is to move backwards.

Of course, there are no guarantees, and the result may be distressing. But that's life in general, alas. Good luck!

... Maybe she is one of those gals who thinks the man must always make the first move. I'd say if she is going to act like a child until you do something, then move on. It will only be like this further down the road if you two end up getting together - she will expect you to initiate everything, which is not fun. And she will use this same tactic over and over again to get what she wants out of you, and each time you will be freaking out trying to figure out what she wants.If she wants something from you, she should say it. If not, she is not the type of person with whom any real person could have a successful relationship anyway. Do you really want a relationship built from the start on poor communication?LQ

Thanks for the advice. And, a couple days ago, I confronted her about it. I asked her why she was ignoring me, and why she wasn't talking to me. I asked if she was mad at me, and she said that she wasn't. So I kept pressing for answers. I told her that there had to be a reason that she wasn't talking to me. She didn't answer. I asked if she was mad at me again. At first her answers didn't sound angry. They were just short answers like "yes" or "no" or something like that. As I kept pressing her for answers she started getting annoyed. She then said (in what to me sounded like a forced angry tone) to leave her alone. So I said "fine" and walked away. I've decided to just leave it be. If she doesn't want to talk to me, fine. At first I was pretty upset, especially when I posted on here about the issue. But I'm pretty much getting over it, and moving on. I'm still very confused, but if she's going to act this way then I don't think I really want to be with her anyway.

Typical woman. She just wants some guy she can whip. She's pissed you won't let her do it to you.Your gain.

I know this topic is old, but I had to reply, because right now I'm in the same situation as the girl OP described. Quote: I've kind of done this stuff to her too, though not in a long time. I used to kind of ignore her to see how she'd react (would she be sad that I'm ignoring her??? Would she start acting depressed??). It was very stupid of me, and kind of a cruel experiment. Tell me honestly: do you really think that girls (those that are obviously not stupid and are capable of genuine feelings) will accept that? The guy I liked did this to me, and I will tell you this: it hurt alot! I realised that maybe he was shy or, perhaps, has a rule for himself or he prefers to test a girl first. The important thing is: if you do that - be prepared to act and move the relationship forward if girl still wants you after that. I decided to still give the guy I liked a chance. I waited for him to show/tell me that he cares about me. He didn't. Probably because... Quote:So I won't ever say anything to her about me liking her unless I know for sure that she has the same feelings. But how can she show her feelings if she's been hurt by you and now has trouble trusting you?So, next time don't expect something that you have never given yourself. In this case - honesty and affection free from cruel experimenting.

Quote:So, next time don't expect something that you have never given yourself. In this case - honesty and affection free from cruel experimenting. Well said. Experiments will sometimes blow up on you.

Originally Posted By: LittleQTypical woman. She just wants some guy she can whip. She's pissed you won't let her do it to you.Your gain. its good for you .