ok..i like this girl for some time. i asked her friends to see if she has a bf and stuff. and i found out she only wants to b friend. i liked her alot and its been sometime now, and i am just trying to get over her. but nothing seems works!?.....so, anyone got any tip on this??
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Getting over..need help!!
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I've had that happen to me. Sorry to hear about it, but it happens. And if you've never tried or asked you'd have always asked yourself if there was a chance. At least now you know. Not knowing can be worse.As for the help, I'm not sure I can recommend anything more than to just keep busy. Just do things that keep your mind off it. Organise things and go out with friends, or just get busy with your favourite hobby, things that keep you interested and that don't remind you of her.I used to go out bikeriding and fishing a lot when I had to clear my head, but it gave me time to think about it. This was a good thing for me, as I usually do like to think about things, have a cry etc and I'd get over it a little quicker. For you though, I think you'd go better if you kept busy with other things to occupy your mind.Post back and let us know how you're doing. Keep your chin up and remember that there will be more.
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Yep, the girl I am with now caused me alot of heartache before we got together so I know all about this!Just keep yourself busy as the dude above said, with time you'll forget! I promise.Time is a great healer..
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Getting over... never an easy thing, but if you're serious, let me give you the "M.C. Recipe."First off, like the last guy said, time is a great healer, but it's also a matter of what you do with that time. You do need to stay busy, but it's kind of hard to figure out what to do, when you're mind keeps drifting to some girl. so here's how the recipe works:Step 1: Create a long term goal of who you envision yourself to be, or how you see the man you are meant to be. This can change, because we're all still growing.Step 2: Create a number of short term goals, like you want to have this much $ by this time, or be in this shape by this date. It can really be anything, but the key is that it's a goal to get you through the day- like getting through the last few hours of work to get that paycheck when you sign off.Step 3: Use any of the goals in Step 2 to help motivate you to work towards Step 1. Trust me when I say this: It may seem real simple, and not much of a task, but in time you'll notice that all this work will build you into someone you will probably be happy to see in the mirror.Then suddenly, someone will find this attractive, and you'll wonder what the name of the previous girl was that turned you down.Basically, keep yourself busy doing this constructive for yourself =)
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some good advice here im in a similar situation too atmi think a key issue is coming to terms with it and accepting it. its not easy, but let yourself know that there is not going to be a future with that girl, so dont spend time thinking about it. key issue: time
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well. the dodgy part is. i never really gone after her. i just been burying my feelings deep down, and never really did anything....and like wat said above. i kept asking myself if i hav any chance in the future with her....and that question is always unsure.
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Keep this in mind... the more time you spend wondering if you have a chance with a girl, the less time you'll have to ACTUALLY take a chance with the girl. Opportunities are never missed- there's always someone waiting to take the chances you don't.