Birth control

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probably a really repeated question so im sorry if you people are sick of this lol but i have to make sure im being safe and answer all the doubts in my mind.me and my gf have been going out for almost a year now were both 17(dont care if you think thats too young) and we want to have sex. now i want to do the first time w/o a condom and hoping that she could be on the pill. where can i get the pill is it only allowed through the doctor? i have friends that are 18 that could get my over the counter birth control pills. i will pull out but i want to be extremely safe. also when should she take them and if shes taking them for the first time will that make a difference?if all else fails i will use a condom but for the first time id rather not.

What do you mean by "over the counter birth control pills"? There's no such thing in the U.S. I hope you don't mean the morning after pill; using it for birth control is like burning down your house every time you cook dinner.Your girlfriend needs to get an appointment with a gynocolegist if she's going to start having sex. She can get a prescription for birth control pills from him or her. If she can't or won't go to the doctor, then a clinic like Planned Parenthood should be able to set her up.By the way, birth control pills are not effective immediately, so if you want to have sex now, then you need to use a condom. Keep in mind that a condom alone is not a foolproof form of birth control.

i was wondering how safe if we use just spermicide and i pull out i just want it to kill any precum. diseases arent a problem with us btw. the pill seems like a hassle to get at our age. and remember that we will only use the pill once for the first time and then most likely condoms after that.

we will only use the pill once for the first timeThen forget about it...don't even think about using the pill. It's possible, but not likely, that your first time will be amazing for both of you; I wouldn't only concentrate on birth control methods.In any case, since your girlfriend is going to become sexually active for the first time, she should get a gyno appointment, if she hasn't already had one.I'm not sure what spermicide you have in mind, but if it's the stuff that comes on some condoms (nonoxynol-9), it's not effective, and it might not be healthy.

In reply to: and remember that we will only use the pill once for the first time and then most likely condoms after that. Yea right, every time I have to go back to a condom I can hardly feel a thing. You won't want to go back.Just using spermicide is playing with fire. This is your first time, you have no idea how long you will last and if you will manage to pull out on time. If you want to go without a condom get her on the pill long enough for it to be safe, then do it. Otherwise just stick with condoms.

right sorry i didnt mean it to make it sound like i didnt want to use a condom cause i wont get pleasure out of it. i know it wont be amazing the first time its the philosophy behind it. cant explain it but to each their own. i read spermicides are fairly effective if used correctly. and its not like i wont be able to control my self and just cum inside her. i know when im about to cum i will pull out when i just get the feeling. so dont worry about me cumming in her. but spermicides are said to be pretty effective and im hoping itll be effective to just kill off pre cum sperm. and please dont give me your opinions if you do not know what spermicide is i want facts from people who know/have expirence with them. the spermicide on condoms dont do anything probably makes the condom worse cause its just another thing to break them.i could talk to my mom about it since she is a doctor but everyone knows those conversations are awkward as hell

In reply to: and its not like i wont be able to control my self and just cum inside her. i know when im about to cum i will pull out when i just get the feeling Well if you are like a lot of guys your experience probably won't last that long then.Sure, spermicides may decrease the chance of pregnancy but you still have the risk there. My personal philiosophy would be to never wear a condom, but it isn't practicable. I do know a lot about the effectiveness of various birth control methods through my work, and it is definately not as effective as condoms or the pill.

Nice 'tude, dude. I guess when you seek free advice from amateurs on the Internet, you never know what you'll get. Why don't you tell us what spermicide you have in mind? Are you talking about the squirt-in stuff or suppositories?> i know when im about to cum i will pull out when i just get the feeling. so dont worry about me cumming in her.You've just proven you haven't a clue, and you'd better have that awkward coversation with your mom, or someone you trust who actually does have a clue. Many babies have been the result of men who have relied on the pull-out method. Even experienced men.Do you understand about statistics? Different methods will give you different posibilities of having a pregnancy, but the chance is never zero, no matter what method you use, unless you know for certain that at least one of you is sterile.I suggest that you do some research on the Web. There is a ton of information about birth conrol methods and their risks, and it will be easier for you to have a discussion about it once you know more. Also, if you can swing it, a visit to a family planning clinic with your girlfriend wouldn't be a bad idea.

sorry bout the attitude im a little jumpy when people are trying to guess whats best. yes an internet forum is a bad idea and im not so sure that this idea will fly by my mom that hot. ive been reading and it says that the pill will prevent pregnancy the first day it is used but after that it should be used for at least 7 days 2 weeks recommended to have sex again without it. i honestly cannot see whats so hard in pulling out but i guess its not safe to do so where can i find this planned parenthood thing? i really do not want to consult my mom just yet about this. can you give me more info on planned parenthood please?

We can't really give you information not knowing where you live.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

If you live in the US you can find a centre through that site. Otherwise try googling your country with things like "family planning", "planned parenthood", "contraception clinic" etc.

The issue is not so much of guessing, as much as your providing sketchy ideas of what you have in mind. It sounds like you need to learn a lot more about birth control, and you need to get your girlfriend involved in the process.The BC pill is only immedately effective under certain conditions; otherwise your girlfriend might have to wait up to a full menstrual cycle.> i honestly cannot see whats so hard in pulling out but i guess its not safe to doBecuase pre-cum can contain live sperm (although it's rather unlikely to cause pregnancy...but it's certainly possible), and sometimes you can start ejaculating before you even know what happened. When you're about to orgasm, you're judgement is not at its most acute. But what's important is that, statistically, the method has a high rate of failure.Unless you live someplace very rural, you should be able to find a Planned Parenthood (or equivalent) clinic in the phone book, either in the physical one or on line, or has been mentioned, on Planned Parenthood's Web site.

One of the problems with the pull out method is that you want to stay in as long as possible because it feels so good. And, if you're like most guys, when your ejaculation comes, it happens rather quickly. In other words, it's a fine line.As to your question about the pill. Reading your posts I am wondering if you are thinking that you'll have your girlfriend take a pill the day you're going to have sex and then no more pills. I don't mean to be insulting, but that's not how the pill works. Once she starts, she takes it regularly.

i will pull out but i want to be extremely safe. Being exptremely safe would be her on the pill AND you using a condom............and drop the attitide, why the hell should anyone bother replying............Just a warning, i have 3 children, 2 of which were concieved when i was on the pill, i was on the pill for a long time, took it same time every day, but got pregnant anyway, its just one of those things............the pulling out method is notoriously lame...............

Like Angel, I also got pregnant while I was on the pill, but in my case I wasn’t using it properly. If your girlfriend does go on birth control just make sure she knows exactly how it works, otherwise there's no point taking it; and even so, as Angel's experience proves, the pill is far from infallible.The cap is prescribed with a tube of spermicide you're supposed to line it with before fitting over your cervix, (at least it was when it was prescribed to me years ago) but I'd have my doubts as to how competent a virgin would be in placing it correctly in her vagina.

"if all else fails i will use a condom but for the first time id rather not."well would you rather look after a child?? serioulsy now...get her to go on the pill..and you use a condom. if she has to scarafice taking the pill everyday..then the least you can do is wear a rubber. its only fair isnt it?

"i honestly cannot see whats so hard in pulling out"try masturbating and stopping just before ejaculating. that will give you an idea.

No offence here, but, how do you know when you're about to cum if you've never had sex before? ... it's a completely different experience to making yourself cum, and, secondly: pull out? oh how I laughed: there is a reason it's notoriously unreliable... come the point of no return, there is no way on this gods great earth that you are going to wanna pull out, believe me... it's almost impossible to stop yourself, in all honesty, from the way you're going on, you'd be better off just using a condom and being done with it... remember, even the pill is not infallable, there is still a small chance that your gf could get pregnant, same with a condom... it's a risk we all take every time we have sex!!Oh, and, don't answer back with another comment about you know what your body will do blah blah blah, sorry to have a go here, but, if you've not had sex before, then, you really have no idea, I'm not trying put you down in any way whatsoever, merely to point out, that until you do it, you have no idea how your body will respond... most men, on their first effort will probably cum anywhere between 3 seconds and 10 minutes in, which is probably a lot less time than it takes to masterbate... but there's a lot more sensation there, so, it's to be expected!!Anyway, please, for your sake, your girlfriends, and, all of your families sake, take on the advice given here, we have a good bunch of people with a wide range of experience in many different things, and, I know you're totally worried about the whole experience, but, once you've got all of this sorted, concentrate on what your gf wants, and make sure you both have a memorable first time ... wouldn't wanna think it was all wasted effort after all this lolCya all soon, have fun, and, remember, be safe!Dan

The pill is actually very easy to get if you go to a teen health clinic or planned parenthood. It took me virtually no effort at to get it, just a couple visits and I recieved three packs per time, then i wanted to just get a years worths so I didnt keep having to come back, and they gave me 15 packs of bc. I would suggest using a condom the first time, if you're not going to wait a full cycle after you girlfriend gets on birthcontrol.