Hugs

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You should try the direct approach, just say; 'I could really do with a hug right now'.And Steve; the one thing that really surprised me when I was in America (New York and San Francisco) was the amount of hand shaking that went on, in New York in particular. I found it really peculiar, and what was oddest of all was that the Irish people I was visiting had fully adopted this cultural trait. I was in an apartment in New York and was introduced, by Irish people, to another Irish person. I said 'hello, nice to meet you' and all that and then went to turn to sit down, at which point this Irish guy stuck his hand out and there was this awkward moment of 'oh yes, we have to do the handshake thing'. I've never shook hands with anyone I've been introduced to in an informal setting in Ireland in my life, and neither had any of them I can be sure, then they emigrate to the States and all of a sudden are acting like Americans even when they are in exclusively Irish company; weird!

>>You should try the direct approach, just say; 'I could really do with a hug right now'.

I don't know if I could. I'm kinda the "strong one" of my groups and most people come to me when they need help, I don't feel like I can break down or show weekness infrount of them cuz, I don't know, they wouldn't like it I spose.

Hmm, oh well, I will try

So you're saying that you need to be someone whom your not in front of your friends in order to be liked by them? I.e., you have to be infinitely "strong" in front of them?

Hmmm, it's kind of interesting that you equate asking for a hug with weakness or breaking down emotionally. I'm not criticising you hon, just saying maybe it's something you should give a bit of thought to. hug!

No, I'm saying that they'd freak out if I went all sappy on them. I'm not a touchy feely person>>>Hmmm, it's kind of interesting that you equate asking for a hug with weakness or breaking down emotionally. I'm not criticising you hon, just saying maybe it's something you should give a bit of thought to. hug! Yes, I know I have a problem with what I see as showing weekness. I never cry infrount of anyone and definatly not in public, I don't show anyone I'm hurt etc etc I'm like a guy like that, must "suck it up" no showing weekness etcIt kinda sucks

There's a difference between showing weakness and hugging people. You don't need to go all sappy to hug someone, and if you hug someone, it doesn't mean you're all sappy.Even football players hug people.

Yes Steve, I have "issues" thanks for pointing that out.

Hey, no problem. Here's an electronic hug: ()

Lol. Cheers Steve

If you were hugged by a machine, like your dishwasher, it would look like this: -[]-

I don't think I'd want a dishwasher hug. It's kinda...shinny and clean and.....boxshaped...........