But I trust all of your opinions. It has been a while since I have posted anything here, and I have returned with another problem on which I need advice. I'm sixteen, and have a large amount of bodily hair on my chest (and other assorted areas). I trim my pubic area and everything, but I am most embarassed by my chest hair, and I don't know what to do about it. I've considered shaving, but I often wonder about stubble etc. and I don't know what to do about waxing or anything like that. I already have a low self-esteem, and my excess amount of hair only makes this worse (especially when dealing with the opposite sex). My embarassment also leads me to shy away from ever having to remove my shirt in public, even if I am with my guy friends, for they do not have th amount of hair I do, and I do not want to be judged for this particular trait. My problem mainly however, is embarassment in front of the opposite sex. Most girls I know find body hair to be supremely disgusting (however superficial [or not] that mays sound) but I can hardly blame them. Yet I find myself cursed with this problem, and I do not want to find a prospective female interest (which doesn't happen to me often, but that's another story) that will run screaming to the hills the second she finds out I'm a man-beast. I'm basically curious as to what your opinions and suggestions are about my situation, so feel free to make your thoughts known (and if you took the time, thank you for reading all of this).
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Didn't quite know wher to put this...
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I think you should keep the chest hair. Many girls will probably find it manly and attractive. Man-beast? Wait till you see my cousin...
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I know for a lot of girls chest hair is a turn on. Some just like the rugged look.
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My problem is that, from my experience (that is, what I hear) they think that having body hair is disgusting and whatnot, and I know that most of these girls are used to either the naturally hairless (there are some like that), and the must-be-freshly waxed guys, and I am decidedly neither. Often times I find it difficult anyway (with the women), and my original inquiry is posed on the off-chance that someone should take an actual interest in me.
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If a girl is genuinely interested in you she won't care about chest hair. Everyone thinks they have flaws, the thing is when someone likes you they usually don't see it as a flaw at all.
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I don't know about your country, but in Greece where I live, chest hair is thought to be very manly and respected, not laughed upon. Honestly, I wish I had more chest hair. However, it doesn't matter because a girl won't look at your chest first (this is the thing only guys do to girls). What matters is your personality, and how you approach a girl. So stop worrying about such a thing. And if it's so bad that it hurts your self confidence, why don't you try shaving once? It couldn't be that bad...
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the problem with shaving is you have to maintain it and the whole stubley thing to me is a real turn off id rather the hair be their than prickley .... some people are superficial but not all ... *i can remember being told the more u shave the worse the hair gets *grwos back faster**i guesss its easy for me to say u should be happy with what you are given but considering the amount we modify our bodies it makes it seem corny i guess ....to be honest i like a man who is happy with who he is .. so if it bothers you then wax or shave depending on your preference but dont change it because you are bothered with what other people think =)
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To the guy from Greece, I must say that what you have said is an intersting tidbit of knowledge, but I do not believe the people (whom I have heard speak of the subject at least) share the same views. To the latest post, why I do not shave is because I know that I would have to maintain it, and whereas chest hair is not always a definite turnoff for most (obviously) chest stubble most certainly would be a negative experience for any party involved. Similarly, I realize that self-confidence is a key and all that, but I am unfortunately lacking in the particular area quite a bit. I did originally post this because I was curious as to how to fix what I deemed a problem by my own standards, but I also wondered what I should do because of any influence it may have on teh opposite sex. In short, my own preference came first, and it's effect on the ladies came second. It's just hard for me sometimes for I am a self-proclaimed social retard, and I don't like not having some kind of insight into what people are thinking (especialy about me, however conceited or self-absorbed that may sound). Thank you all for your input, but I still really don't know what course of action to take, for the answer I seem to run into the most is "do what you want" but quite frankly, I can't.
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hey buddy
nothing wrong with chest hair
most women like it ( i think)
enough of this macho marine corp shave your chest shit, its not manly, its very feminine IMO
be glad that you dont have hair popping up in weird places
Chest hair is quite normal my friend -
I don't get this obsession with looking like little boys.Are we not men?!?Keep the chest hair.
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Tell you what, I don't quite understand why chest hair seems to be shown in such a negative light, and I wish I could say that I was perfectly fine with mine, but I just feel inadequate in some way to the guys that I see without. I suppose this is due in part ot the fact that they get a lot of chicks, and I have these insecurities about why it's not me in that position. The kicker is that I realize that it's most likely due to my lack of self-confidence because I doubt myself in everything I do. I seem to have used some form of circular logic to work myself to that point, but hell, it's somewhat relevant.
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Test your hypothesis. Shave your chest (and whatever areas you need to). That's what a lot of the muscle guys at the gym do. Then see if you also get all the girls. For that amount of time that will take, you can live with the maintenance issue. If that doesn't do the trick, then you're probably worried about the wrong thing.