He treats me different around his friends

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My boyfriend treats me different around his friends. When he is around his friends and me he either says a comment 2 them like "yea i don't like talking 2 my girlfriend, o yea i shouldn't have said that with her right there" "Did i tell u u can talk?"(thats when i say sumthing trying 2 join the conversation) and sum other stuff, there r times when i think he is just playing, but then i get confused sumtimes if he is being serious or not. And sumtimes it seems he likes 2 showoff n front of his friends that don't have a girlfriend and decides 2 makeout with me or touch my boobs or butt right when his friends are right there. I got alot of mix thoughts about that. I don't want ppl thinking im a whore or sumthing, so i tell him sumthing when he starts grabbing me like that around ppl.We have been dating 4 the past 11 months, and he use 2 never do this. He just started acting like this like 2 months ago.But yea.....so wut do ya'll think?Thanks!

You need to tell him what you told us. Tell him you don't like the way he's been acting and you liked it better when he didn't do all that. If you're not comfortable with him doing that stuff then he shouldn't be doing it, but make sure he realizes you don't want him doing that.

When he touches me, it doesn't bug me, it just only bugs me when he does it around other ppl. I don't want ppl getting ideas about everything we r doing.Thank u 4 the reply!

It sounds very immature. I wonder why he has started acting like this? You could try asking him.

I agree with Ineligible. Very immature. He deserves an ass whooping to get him back in line... not by you, maybe someone he looks up to would be the best person to talk some sense into him.As far as what you can do on your side... tell him you don't appreciate the way he treats you around his friends and give specific example. Don't get mad at him when you tell him this. Do that girl thing. Establish rapport and tell him how it makes you feel.

The term needed here is "Neander-think"Basicly he is showing off his ownership of you as a prize to his friends. His dominance over your body and voice show his peers the control he has over you; thus, it displays how much of a powerful Alpha-male that he is. On the flip side, it also says that he is afraid you will betray or leave him. It's not an unusual instinct, but it's not mature or healthy over-all.For example, for about a better part of the first year our my relationship with my gf; anytime her and I would be around other guys at all, I'd have my arm around here, and hold her tightly. I was a victim of age-old neander-think "This is MY woman, stay away!"In my case, my gf told me straight up that it bugs her a bit, and she asked me why I did it. After a good period of thought I had realized the answer and produced it to her.It'll just take a good honest conversation, and some soul-searching on his part to help him get over it. If he continues to produce this behaviour, you may have to take further action.

>>>>>>"Did i tell u u can talk?"

**woah, mates of not he would get a slap right there and then for saying that to me!!!! *growl*

Hon, you have to tell him how you feel and if he doesn't change then don't hang around with him and his mates..........you deserve respect, don't put up with less. **

Quite honestly, if my guy even so much as thought about treating me like that I'd be off. I couldn't stand it. He said something to me jokingly one day in front of his friends like "yeah you can go now.." I got so pissed with him... I said to him "don't ever speak to me like that again.. f* off" right in front of them, then wouldn't return his texts or calls all night. Eventually I answered my cell and he was apologetic, explaining he was joking... he's never, ever said anything like that to me again. He knows what would happen if he did.. :sunglasses: Let him know where he stands and that you can't be treated like that, or be made to feel small in front of his friends. Ask him how he'd feel if you did that in front of your friends.

omg. you are NOT the one that should worry about how others think of you. its HIM that should worry.. thats just being disrespectful and VERY rude and inconsiderate of your feelings.hes just making himself look like an ass. tell him how you feel, and if he doesnt change, kick him to the curb. no woman should have to put up with that garbage; thats just degrading.

I'm sorry honey, I read your other thread before I read this one. With this new information I take back what I said on the other thread; I dont think you should tell him how you feel, excuse my language, but I just think you should tell him to fuckoff. He's trying to play the big man at your expense, and any young woman deserves better than that. I know it's hard to accept, but if he genuinely cared for you he wouldnt do that, end of story.

Thanks star for reminding me that those two posts were the same person (I didn't notice) I also take back my advice to say this...He's a dick-head, ditch him.