Ok, I like this girl, but don't know how to take on the situation.Long story short, I auditioned for a play, [musical] I get a really good role, 2nd to main character. and so I make a ton of new friends, especially girl ones, and so a ton of them like me now, but one of them I'm not sure of. k so I like her an all, but I'm not sure what I should do.I'm 14 and she's turning 16 soon, I'm also turning 15 the same month as she is turning 16. anyway, I like her a lot, but I'm not sure if she is just either reeeeaaally friendy, or likes me too. She's told me "I love you" but of course all girls I know say that to me...so nothing special, but she likes to write on me, and like...touch me, if I'm standing there, she comes to stand next to me, even if she is standing across the room with her friends, she comes to sit next to me even is there is no space next to me, she takes the space. and as for the touching part goes, she likes to randomly slip her arms through mine, hug on my, lay her head on me...you know.but something stabbed my heart today, I was on the phone with her and she said, "hold on....I have to call my boyfriend.." I say ok, later, and hang up. So I stand there for a sec and go "well fuck...she has a boyfriend.." So then after 10 seconds she calls me back and says "I was just kidding, I didn't know you'd hang up that fast" So I don'y know if she was kidding about the having a boyfriend part, or the calling him part. So that's where I need help. I don't wanna ask if she has one cuz that'd be weird, but I don't wanna pursue her if she does have a boyfriend. What do I do!?!?!
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Alright so I like this girl but I need help
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> I don't wanna ask if she has one cuz that'd be weird
Why would that be weird? Shes given you the perfect excuse to bring it up.
So, if she doesn't, then what?
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Well maybe not as weird as I'd like to think. But if it turns out she does, I'll be uber sad. If it turns out she doesn't then I'll most likely have to deal wih her asking me why I was asking then I'll have to tell the truth cuz I'm not one to lie. Either way I'm kinda screwed.
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If you weren't planning to do anything, then you're not screwed, because it didn't matter in the first place. So if she just randomly came up to you and said, "Cap'N, I'm single", what would you do?
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Well in my mind I'd be all like "SCOORE!!" but to her, I'd prolly be like..."Oh really? That's nice. :wink:"
I'm just nervous of how she'd react to finding out I like her.
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You'll never find out if you don't try. Otherwise, you'll still be single when you're 60.It does sound like she's interested in you, but as I said...
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Should I ask her on the phone or in person?The next tim I'll see her is at her 16th birthday, on Dec. 1st, that is if we don't set up anything to see eachother before that
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In general, in-person is better, but if you don't want to waste a couple of weeks, then call her up, and try to casually mention it. ([She says she has no boyfriend.] "Oh, blah blah blah. Blah blah. By the way, you wanna go [do something] Friday?" [Or something like that. Don't say, "Oh boy! Oh boy! You wanna be my girlfriend?!?!?!?]
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>In general, in-person is better, but if you don't want to waste a couple of weeks, then call her up, and try to casually mention it.
I think I'll call her sometime this week, possibly tomorrow, I don't wanna risk any contraversy if there could be anything on her birthday.
>Don't say, "Oh boy! Oh boy! You wanna be my girlfriend?!?!?!?]
lol, I'm not one to do something like that. :P I might do it to one of my guy friends, but not a girl. :P
Thanks for the talk man. Means a lot.
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No problem. Good luck!
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Hmnm she said she had to call her "boyfriend" then she called you. I dunno maybe it was a hint? Best of luck anyways.
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Then she said she was kidding? Either she was kidding, or she's jerking him around. There's one way to find out.
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Call her up and set yourself up to hang out with her. Casually bring up conversation like, "So you have a boyfriend right? Are you happy with the relationship?" If she says she doesn't have a boyfriend then I would move in. If she says she has a boyfriend, feel out what she says about the "are you happy with the relationship?" part.
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Women are wierd man..
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I definetly think the whole fake boyfriend thing means that she likes you, and that you should definetly go for it. Ur obviously talented if you got the 2nd lead in your school musical, and if she's serioulsy flirting with you, my advice is for you to ask her out to a movie or something. Even if she wasn't orginally interested in you, asking her out, or letting her know that your interested in her might help da situation