Scared for taking too long to orgasm?

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I had sex for the first time on Friday night. Here's a brief summary of my timing/what occured:
First time, with condom, an hour and a half, didn't cum ;/

Second time, with a condom, an hour, didn't cum

Third time, 23 minutes, came, felt amazing. With condom

Fourth 1 hour, NO condom, felt unbelievably great but didn't cum, I could've, but I was concentrated on pleasuring her.

This was all in an interval of 3 days

Questions: Is this bad? I mean I'm really glad that I'm not one of those one minute guys, but is this normal that I can last this long on the 4th time having sex? there was a lot of foreplay beforehand for the record.

I'm just worried if this means I'm "secretly gay", even though I love women :smile:

SUMMARY: I'm scared I last too long in the sac.

>I'm just worried if this means I'm "secretly gay", even though I love women

Last a long time while having sex has NOTHING to do with your sexual preference, so don't even worry about that. Sexual orientation goes MUCH MUCH deeper than just that.

Secondly, you just have high stamina. Some guys simply can go a long time before having an orgasm. I understand how frustrating that can be because I'm the same way. As long as you are enjoying yourself and she's enjoying herself than you're okay.

Just one suggestion... regardless ALWAYS use a condom.

Edit: Also you might be thinking too much about it; stressing yourself out. Relax and enjoy yourself. :grin:

Good answer. Thanks , and no, I'm really enjoying it. The first time I REAAAALY stressed though. Last night was super, and felt much better without a condom

"Last night was super, and felt much better without a condom"Not knowing your age, I must ask if you have the capacity to support a child. If not, wear the condom, even if she is on birth control herself. Those few minutes, or in your case hours, of great pleasure aren't going to be worth a lifetime of responsibility you're not ready for. Think about it.

oh, I was going to pull out...

"oh, I was going to pull out...""going to" thats real effective, now isn't it.Come on... that's probably the least effective form of birth control there is. added: Fuck that, it's not a method at all.You seem to approach this awful cavalierly. How old are you? Do you have the ability to support a child? Do you have the stamina to endure what a child is going to do to your life?Think about it.

\>oh, I was going to pull out...
That's NOT even close to a form of birth control. You don't even want to know how many children are conceived with the "pull out" method.
Use a condom. It'll help not only help protect against pregnancy but also STD's.

Alright, now we completely drifted aside from the main topic of discussion.Also, what if I go in and out of her , let's say... 10 times, and then don't cum or anything. Chances of a child being conceived/10?

High. Pre-cum can have sperm in it. You are likely to sometimes ejaculate quickly, and it can happen before you know it.Trust me, you are playing with fire.

My main concern is the pre-cum, and you have all proved your points and stated your opinions on the matter. The unfortunate side is that almost no one answered my actual question, so how about it? Except now, I come off as an arrogant shmuck, so this won't end too well.

I don't know that it's possible to give any figures. I suspect no study has been done - it would certainly be difficult to do. Precum, as made, has no sperm, but it can pick them up on the way. How many it picks up is very variable.Also, often withdrawal fails, not because of sperm in precum, but because orgasm came more quickly than the guy expected.

I was addressing your "also" question. And you need to take seriously the possibility that you will eventually start ejaculating before you even know what's going on.Don't worry about how fast you ejaculate the first few times you have sex. Once you "settle down", it should get closer to the average, which is something like ten minutes. If you insist on not using a condom, though, you need to really make sure that the girl you're with is on birth control. (That may be obvious to you, but it's there in case some random person with similar ideas finds this thread.)

Alright. And yeah sorry I meant that other person who barged into this topic completely off topic. Also, I don't plan on continuing to do this. I just wanted to know if we ever don't have a condom, can we fool around if I am 100% certain I won't cum(don't bother saying "you can never be 100% certain").

Finally, my friend does the "pull out" method weekly, several times a week, it's been 7 months and nothing.

My previous statement in no way condoles the pullout method, I was merely asking if doing it rarely or from time to time is acceptable, especially if you don't cum, aka the precum is the only worry.

if I am 100% certain I won't cum(don't bother saying "you can never be 100% certain").You can be 100% certain: get a vasectomy. Otherwise you're just fooling yourself.> Finally, my friend does the "pull out" method weekly, several times a week, it's been 7 months and nothing.Some people can smoke for 50 years and not get cancer or emphysema. Some people can go through life driving without wearing a seatbelt, and get away with it. It's a matter of playing the odds. Your friend's girlfriend may be pregnant now, but they don't know it yet. Or maybe it won't happen for two more months. Or maybe one of them is infertile. (There are couples who have unprotected sex for years, without a pregnancy resulting.)> My previous statement in no way condoles the pullout method, I was merely asking if doing it rarely or from time to time is acceptable, especially if you don't cum, aka the precum is the only worry.Your premise is flawed. You don't see it because you don't have enough expeience. There's some chance of pregnancy every time you have unprotected sex, just as there's some chance of getting a bullet in your head every time you play Russian roulette. If there are blanks in the gun that won't happen, of course. But then you don't know that you're infertile.

it's been 7 months and nothing.What happens when it's 8 months and something? My wife played that game before she met me. She thought she couldn't conceive because she couldn't believe that she never got pregnant. The I came along. What did I get? Genital warts and a baby. We're still married after 17 yrs and I was much older than you. But if you're not ready for a kid, then you are playing with fire.

It's very hard to reason with people when you're trying to discourage them from doing something that feels good. Understanding of statistics flies out the window.

This is like arguing with 10 year olds. I stated several times you've all made your points and that I will have protected sex.

Let me repeat that, I WILL BE HAVING PROTECTED SEX.

I asked if she can get pregnant form precum if it's 100% certain I don't cum, because last time we did it, I didn't cum, thus me asking the "100%" certain, in no way am I saying that I have the power to control myself at all times.

Also, I was merely showing one extreme end to the other. Some of you say I can get her instantly pregnant, while others like my friend do it for a while.

I'm expecting another idiot to wander into this topic repeating the exact same thing "you're playing with fire",etc. I said I get it. You've proved your point. It's over. Now can someone address my main issue?

Let me retract that statemnt. I make it seem as in I called you all idiots, which is far from true. You're looking out for my best interest, but the point of the matter is that I understand, and those that continue posting off topic(aside from when I asked the question, which I thanked the poster for) are just wasting both of our times.

Particulary StevaA, you were a lot of help. Thank you for answering my main question and then the side ones.

You sure sound a lot like this guy.> Thank you...You're welcome.Don't worry too much about how long you last right now. You're doing a lot better than a lot of guys do when they're getting started. See how it goes in the coming weeks.

Negative, the difference between me and him is that I noticed I can have sex for over an hour without cumming, and the second I feel that feeling of intense pleasure(the one you get about 30 seconds before you cum, you know, the build up feeling), I immediately stopped. I did that several times when I did it with no condom, and didn't end up cumming. I don't plan to do this on a usual basis, it was more of a question will she get pregnant from precum due to last night.

And thanks for the answer. I wonder if I'll keep lasting this long, because the more I think about it, the better it sounds.