im pretty sure im going to be having sex with the kid ive been seeing next weekend. the only thing that is stopping me is that i am not good with pain and i am so scared that its gunna hurt. my second problem is that he thinks im not a virgin. how hard is it to hide that fact that i am?what can i expect from my first time? thanks for the help.
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Extremely nervous
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You have to tell him. It's called honesty and it's important. I don't see a reason for hiding that.It wont hurt for long, relax.Just try not to be scarred i guess if you're sure thats what you want.
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He thinks that your NOT a virgin?
Your lying to a potential partner, what makes you think your ready for sex?????
It hurts like hell, the first few times, and you bleed like...well anyway its a mess...you can't hide it.
PLUS if your hymen isn't broke. if he isn't a virgin himself, he might feel it in the way..
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It is imperative that you tell him you're a virgin.
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alright....one thing is clear you have to tell your partner...because he will need to be gentler with you and he will need to go slower....my first time wasnt all that painful...i mean yes it was a little uncomfortable, a pretty accuate thing i would compare it to would be the feeling of putting ur fingers on either side of ur mouth then pulling in oposite directions...its like that tight feeling.....but its not unimeginably painful. it actually is a little irritateing to me when people tell virgins that its "horribly painful" cuz jezzz thats going to scare the hell out of anyone....and i think that you need advise not fear. the thing is that you need to realisticly look at the situation....unless you use a dildo (and judging from ur nervoiusness id say that u dont) nothing as big as a penis has been inside your vagina...so its going to need to be gently streched out to fit. if your partner knows then he can be gentle...the thing is it feels really good for gyes when they go fast...it gets them to orgasm quickly....so if he doesnt know that ur a virgin then he may just go at it fast and hard and not think that hes causing u discomfort...u owe it to him to have this information so as not to cause u pain....also if ur not good with pain and he starts going fast....it will hurt, and he will be able to tell....and it will scare the shit out of him....cuz i doubt very much he wants to hurt you. iv only had sex a few times but we hadent had sex for about 2 weeks and my bf entering me hurt like heck cuz he wasnt going slowly...but as soon as i told him he slowed down and everything was fine.....also i want to tell you that it dosent hurt for very long....it took probably only 2 minutes my first time for the majority of the discomfort to go away...i apologise if this is an amazingly long reply but i thought that all of this info was important to ur situation....best of luck to you .....oh one last thing....if ur thinking its going to be painful then u will tencen up ur musels down there and that will make it more uncomfortable....so be honest and try to relax