I'm a student, and I moved into halls this year, I've gotten close to a girl. She recently confided in me some things and I'm looking for some advice on how to help her:
She told me that over the summer, she had been at a party where she thinks she was spiked by two guys(she says she had only had one or two drinks, they went back to theres(she knows the guys) and then she has blank memories, She says she woke up not remembering anything, but that she hadn't drunk much, and that when a friend challenged the two guys what had happened they had said they had both slept with her. She doesn't remember the night and doesn't want to go to the police or anything, but get's upset thinking about it,also straight after it happened she got quite alot of shitty treatment. E.G ( Pharmasist giving her the 3rd degree when picking up morning after pill and nurse saying you were proably just drunk) She keeps trying just to put it away and forget about it. When she first told me I promised to look into getting her someone to talk to, but I've found it difficult, I mentioned the university councilling but she doesn't want to go there because she thinks there only equipped for homesickness. She doesn't want to visit the GP because her GP is in her hometown and last time she went they gave her the 3rd degree,
ok also I should mention some background, She comes from a small town so is worried about making it into a big deal as everyone knows everyone, so I'm looking for the help here ( in the city ) away from all that.
Also more recently she also confided in me that she does cocaine, She say's that in her town the majority of young people do. This shocked me quite abit as I regard it as quite a serious drug, but I don't want to show that too much. I'm really worried about her and want her to talk to someone but I need to find someone who can provide comprehensive councelling for all the problems and isn't judgemental, I can just about with alot of pushing get her to go see someone but even then she's quite scared, and she hates talking about it, so I'm trying not to bring it up all the time (is that the right way?) Also I could use any advise on how to help her myself, she seems willing to tell me things she won't talk to others and especially strangers, but with no psychology im not sure if im offering the right response's