I'm worried about asking my friends this because I don't know how they'll react and also what the chain reactions would cause. Anyways, onto the topic. I'm in grade 11, I have a girlfriend in gr 8(please, don't say anything, I get enough from my friends, I'm not here to learn once again how wrong that is) Anyways, we've been going out for over a month. And very few of my friends know(if any), yet all her friends know, she has bragging rights, she's going out with a grade 11, i on the other hand cant really brag. Anyways, i've started to like a girl in my own grade, and I have the feeling she likes me aswell. This girl doesn't know I have a gf though. I really like my gf, but shes just to young and I can't even tell my parents cause im too ashamed. And i do like the girl in my grade aswell. What should I do? I have no one to talk to about this, i realized that i used to post here a bit, so i came back looking for some good advice and no insults.
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Need help
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so, your ages are about 17/14... that's not a big difference and it's also legal in Canada so that topic doesn't bear further discussion. I was in exacly the same boat at your age. Actually turned out to be my first major love and my first major heartbreak. (and I did lie to friends and family about her age)
You might be bettor off with someone your own age if you are having those trpidations about your g/f's age. It would probably be less stress because you could be more open with your friends and family.
But, you know in the end that it's your decision. Also remember, the heart is rarely sensible -
ok well first off. if your ashamed of your own girlfriend i think that answers the question of what you should do regarding the other girl. she is pretty young, and i mean, to be honest you would probably get along better with the older girl, just because shes the same age as you. but then again, age is nothing but a number. so if you still have feelings for the girl in grade 8, stay with her. but dont be ashamed of it.
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Yea, it has been stressful, and to be exact, there is a school dance today where you can bring guests... Imagine my luck were the rules state only kids in high school. She is 13, and elementry school. So i lied to people who asked and said shes a niner from another high school who didn't want to go to my dance cause she didn't know anyone. I have even tried to bring this up but she doesn't understand how it's such an issue for me. I do think I should break up with her, but how would I go about this, I sometimes don't even see her in a week. Over msn or the phone seems like a no-no for such an issue. And sorry we've been going out for 2 months* edit: Yea, im also ashamed of me being ashamed of it, this is all driving me in circles.
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sound like you're already leaning towards a decision. So, best to get it overwith sooner than later and, yes, in person is best. Just be honest but gentle.just for the record, she's actually below age of consent. I'd hate to have to deal with her dad if he caught wind of things.
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Oh, that was the part that suprised me. I've talked with both of her parents and her dad drove us to the movies on our first date. They both don't have a problem with me. That was very suprising. And yes, i found out 2 weeks ago about this law. One of the other reasons why I feel so awkward about this. How would i go about breaking up though, what would i say?
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I can't write a speach for you. All I can say is be gentle and NEVER mention that there might be someone else.might be better if one on the youn women here were to suggest what might be somewhat comforting to hear (somewhat)
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13 is just a hard emotional age. You wish you were one of the little kids out riding bikes and playing in mud puddles, yet, you want to grow up. It sucks being stuck in that middle place.
There isn't much that will comfort her. Maybe she will understand, if you just tell her it is the age, and ask her if she could go out with a 5th grader? Tell her that your close enough to leaving High school and then your not going to be around. That you want her to find a boyfriend that she will be able to date for a long time, and be able to graduate near the same time with, and have a happy life..IDK, it is going to be painful for her no matter what.
Like Mr U said DO NOT mention another girl. At that age, it will tear at her building self esteem. But if you can do it, and blame the age all the way, she will find other boyfriends, and will get on with it.