Hi folks, I am new to this forum and would like to ask a question more for the girls here. My percieved problem is that I'm worried my penis may be to large for some girls. My last girlfriend was with me for over 2 months and in that time we never made love and I am worried this was due to my size. She made a comment once that "I hope you take things slowly when we have sex" which made me wonder...I know many girls enjoy a large penis but my concern is that if the size of mine causes problems in relationships then I need to know what can be done about it in terms of addressing the issue with future girlfriends because the fact it might've been the reason behind my last girlfriend not having sex really concerns me.Thanks for reading.
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Question about size
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She was probably wanting to take things slowly, sexually and not because of your size. If you don't mind me asking, do you know your penis size? And has this ever been an issue with you with previous girlfriends?Even if you were a bigger size, the vagina, when it's well-lubricated, could accomodate a larger penis.
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The size hasn't been an issue with previous girlfriends because until her there hadn't been any! No girls that I've slept with on one night stands ever complained but being drunk they're not exactly a good gauge! I am just over 10 inches long and 7 around. My main concern is that owing to my size perhaps she (and others to come) may judge me as the sort to play around and my history of no serious relationships may also give girls this impression too. Oh I dunno!!
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You have to start somewhere. Don't obsess about the past or about what might be. Deal with the now. Find a girl and make her feel that you're the best thing that ever happened to her, and hopefully she will also be the best thing that ever happened to you. When your relationship has progressed to the level of sex take things very slowly. You don't have to volunteer about the past. While your size is indeed larger than usual, given proper arousal she should be able to take your girth as most babies are that big or bigger. The length, however, may be an issue. But even then all you have to do is be careful not to bottom out and hit her cervix as that would be painful.
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I hear ya RTG. Cheers for your thoughts... and to CBW. Even as soon as our second date my ex was asking personal questions like "how many girls have you slept with" and about any past relationships. Later on she would snear about my one night stands even though there's actually not that many given my age. I tried pretending that I'm not as useless on the relationship front as I actually am, and made out some previous encounters to be more than passing ships in the night, because I didn't want her to think there's a problem with me finding someone who'd stay with me. But my uncertainty owing to the fact I was lying maybe came across as trying to cover something up and I reckon she mistook this and assumed I'd been around the block more times than I actually have. So there's a lesson to be learned about lying there - albeit with good intentions! I know how to have sex without damaging a girl and haven't touch wood (excuse the pun!!) had any accidents like hitting the cervix. It is genuinely good having a large willy and it feels good to be able to make girls happy in the bedroom, it's also nice for the ego to see their reactions when the moment arrives however I'm not into showing off about it as I'm quite a humble chappie really. Having thought about my worries a lot lately I have come to the conclusion that my ex was maybe a little prejudiced however, I probably didn't help matters by lying about lack of relationships. Do you think this is possible?
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Lying does nothing to strengthen a relationship. What she thought and where she was going with her questioning we'll never know. My best advice is to just be you. Obviously we've never met, but I peg you as a real sensible and caring guy. While the older you get the harder it is to find a (good) single girl, it's not impossible. Take it slow and let things happen as they will. And as Shakespeare once wrote, "To thine own self be true."
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Excellent advice for anyone.It's also important to remember that relationships are far more than sex. If the relationship is good, the sexual issues will be worked out some way.