Okay so let me just start.I just started highschool...yes,fresh meat,dont beat me up too much . As I said I just started highschool and I dont have alot of friends. I dont really have close friends, I guess you can just say that I'm liked by everyone but I have no real friends.What my problem is, I cant seem to get guy friends. I have loads of lady friends...and a couple of guy friends, but I cant seem to get in the groups that guys form. I'm just really a loner. Girls always talk to be and try to be my friend. Could I be putting out a signal that I'm gay without my knowledge? I'm not gay, but because the girls like to hang with me, guys automatically assume that I am. I see and hear about hanging out with your friends but I've never had that oppertunitiy. I really am worried about my problem because I really would like to get more friends. I can never really relate to other guys.I'm not really into sports, but I am trying to watch more and get into sports a little more. I dont really go after girls alot, and I am uncomfortable talking about girls and the female body.Input welcome and any suggestions or comforting words is fine
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Trouble making friends..
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are you new to the highschool? did you just move there?
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No, Ive lived in my city my whole life.My highschool shares the building with the middleschool so I've seen the same people since 6th grade
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Well, guys aren't all about sports. For me, becoming friends with someone, you just need to click. You know, have a certain bond right off the bat. My friends are all of the guys that are usually nice, and can tolerate other people. I'm decent friends with everyone else. If you want to make friends with other people,and make new friends, I suggest you just try to talk with them. Such as in class, just start talking about some assignment that was previously assigned, or about something that has happened in the class, such as "did you see when so and so did that?" or "ughh, this english assignment is going to take forever". Since you said you were getting into sports, if your school has a drop in at lunch, I suggest you go to that, maybe start a small game with a few people. I find that makes instant friends. Also, if they are talking about girls, feel free to jump into the conversation.Don't worry if people think you're gay or something. I have twice as many girl friends than guy friends, and I don't see a problem with it. Just sucks to be the other guys =P
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I pratice talking to people in my head but when it comes to talking I just cant. I guess I'm just really shy and I need to work on my self confidence a little. I've been praticing with a mirror and hopefully when school resumes it will help.
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When you talk to people just remember to be yourself, and be friendly
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Dude dabomb your situation is almost identical to mine
I have tons of friends that girls but like none that are guys and it sucks because it makes me look stupid. I am shy too -
when it comes to making friends, remember not to try too hard to impress the wrong people. I realize it must be very frustrating, but believe me, the best friends come at times you would least expect it. relax, be yourself, and don't get too down about it.
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i feel the same way ( i just moved so i have to make all new friends) but in my old school i had a few guy friends one i know is gay, one to my surprise came out of the closet last year, and another announced that hes bi and most of my friends were girls and i am not gay or bi at all and i was affraid that ppl would think that. but even though im at a new school i cant seem to click with any guys, i mean i have guy friends but there not good friends. but im not athletic or all that interested in sports either i want to be more interseted in them but i cant pay attention at all to any sports games.