Endurance Trouble

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i am 18 years old and have been having sex since i was 16 masturbating since 11(went through puberty at 10) but even over the years ive never built up any endurance and always seem to cum to soon wether masturbating, having protected sex, or unprotected sex(alot faster) i always thoughtwith time itd get better and id actually be able to last long enough to please a woman but it hasnt im still lucky to get in 5 - 10 minutes if that =( i can go multiple times without rest but after 3 - 4 times it no longer becomes pleasurable for myself and more of just a quest to please her which pleasing my partner is my main concernthis also makes it difficult for me to find a new partner who i can be sexually comfortable with if i needed toaside from that im about 7 inches long when erect which i think to be average but in girth im somewhere between 2-3 inches which i believe is rather small and being i went through pubety 8 years ago i thought i would of grown by now but it hasnt is that normal?what can i do i always thought the best thing to build endurance to somethign was by doing it but its clear to me thats not true is there some sort of exercise or technique or something i can do to lengthen the amount of time i can go before cumming and is there any natural way to increase my girth

From what I have read and understood the average man lasts 5-10 minutes during intercourse, so please understand you are normal there.You can try the stop and go method of masturbating to help build control and to help you last longer.Also when you are having sex and you feel you are about to orgasm stop and give oral sex to your partner. This will also help you last longer while keeping your partner stimulated.Hope that helps.

do you remember where you read that 5 - 10 minutes is average i think itd help me alot if i could see that im not doubting your integrity i just would like to see it as maybe there is something else in it that would prove useful to me

I would recommend actually measuring your penis girth. Just take a sewing tape measure or a string, and wrap it around the middle of the shaft.

I can't see how you could be 2-3 inches in girth.

5-10 minutes is about average for most guys.

There are techniques you can use during masturbation called the stop and go method. The title pretty much explains the jist of it; you build yourself up JUST before orgasm, then taper off and continue masturbating (You could do it during sex, but it would be a lot easier to set off the 'oops' button) After a painfully long time you'll begin to notice a positive change.

Another, basic one is to masturbate before sex, just to get the pre-emptive one out of the way. You've stated that you have the ability to keep going for a couple times; so this shouldn't present you with a problem at all.

Kegel (sic) exercises may also help; that is a rather broad topic well worth searching google for.

I'll see what I can find, but if you search this site you'll see many other respectful people also state this is normal. I think they might have even mentioned a source.Just remember women LOVE foreplay (At least so I hear LoL) so make sure you do plenty. You won't hear them complain, I'm sure, if you stop intercourse to go down and pleasure them orally for a bit.

well i may be bigger in girth it just seems small to me i dont have any complaints about size from my fiancee just i know she has to hate the endurance thingshes a small girl and was a virgin when we met so i think her being so tight has something to do with why i cant last so long but then again i cant complain about that because id prefer it that wayand ive never heard of those excersices ill definetly look into them

Eh, with you or damn near anyone else, she'd get a 5-10 minute run; I'm sure it dosn't bug her. Besides, like it was said, women like oral sex a lot

As one of my favorite sex authors says:
"The tounge is mightier than the sword!" - Ian Kerner

wel lthe thing is being she was avirgin and she hasnt been with anyone else but me then she doesnt really know thats all shed get with anyone else if thats the case so she still may think less of it.... but hey i guess its time to work on my oral skills probly my most in-experienced skill not because i dont want to just because i havent much anyone have some tips for a newby to oral?

well, idk what to tell you, i have the opposite problem. maybe a problem now, since im not interested in having vaginal sex yet. but i can go about 15-20 mins sometimes. why is that a prob? cause my gf, well old gf, didnt have the stamina herself to make me cum. and it really got her down. basically, every man is different, so its all in how you look at endurance. id be happy with your "times"

if only we could pick and choose sadly we cant

What's that old saying about the grass always being greener on the other side? Damn those sayings stick, eh?

yeh sadly i never realized anyone could want less endurance guess i didnt see it from both sides.... honestly im just embarassed by it so i couldnt see anyone elsewanting to be that waybut now i need to practice my oral that and shesa little embarassed to have me give her oral but i guess shell get used to it i think im going to be doing it more than sex cant really say though

Us guys are funny people; we're usually insecure about any, and everything regarding our sexual performance.

so is there any advice for oral anyone can give me or should i just start a whole new topic on that

Eh, moderators choice, I guess.As far as oral sex goes, there are a vast number of ways to do it.Basicly make sure - she is in charge- Start of slow and light (And SLOWLY work your way into more intense actions)- Don't go for the clit like a dog for a bone- Lick and kiss areas she dosn't except (My girl goes wild for the 'behind the knee kiss'- Vary the angles of licking (side to side, maybe spell out a message using your tounge against her I love that one)- Tease like an SOB; if you can get her to GRAB YOUR HAIR AND FORCE YOU INTO HER, then you know you've done a good job Lastly, I highly recommend the book "She Comes First", by Ian Kerner. It is a literal bible for oral sex with women; done up in a striaght-forward, respectable manner. I think it goes for like $10-15.

ok so they make books for this stuff maybe i have a chance :smile:

It's a great book to read regardless of your oral pleasuring skill level. Ian Kerner kicks serious ass; if you can drop the hint/book to your GF, get her reading his most recent book "He Comes Second" which, although I haven't read it, should be more than informative; which means you'll reap the dividends of her reading it :smile:

yeh well i dont think giving my fiancee a book on how to please me would og over to well she may take it as me saying i dont like what she does which would be false

Eh, how about this then;After you wow her (over, and over again) with some of the fun tricks you learned; she'll probably be inquisitive as to where you learned it all from. If you like your ego to be stroked as much as your...anyways, then just tell her you had the inspiration to do it; it was all you.Otherwise, you could tell her who the book was written by and PERHAPS slip in the fact that he wrote one for women to read, as well

ah of course be tricky with it well in theevent i manage to talk her into readingthis book i hope the person who wrote it knowswhat hes talking about id hate for her learning new tricks to ruin what she does now..i know its possible to ruin a good thing by beinggreedy so im asumeing the same carma is involved with sexual favors dare i tempt fate and try ot improve a good thing or leave it be at the risk of losingit