Am I crazy I never have sex and I think I'll wait

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well one benifit for waiting is that you wont have to worry about getting an STD. if your wife in the future does, well thats a different story, but be proud that you are a virgin still!

I wasn't saying everyone feels that way, but if you look at the latest statistics developed by the University of New Hampshire Health Services and SHARPP program, 43% of 556 residents of one dorm building said that when it came to their virginity, they wished they had waited. Now, statistics aren't 100% correct but it shows the idea that still having your virginity at the posters age (around 17 I believe) is special and highly regarded in some cases.I too agree that it's up to the individual. Just stating the facts as I know them. I can't speak for older folks... and I wasn't trying to. My apologies if what I said was taken the wrong way.

Ah, statistics among young people. I'm sure if you asked a bunch of older people you would have gotten a lot lower percentage.

Waiting to have sex until marriage... I don't necessarily have a problem with it.Why wait?Religious reasons? Fine with me. Whatever floats your boat.

"I wasn't saying everyone feels that way..."I know, I was just making a counter point.>>>"...University of New Hampshire Health Services and SHARPP program, 43% of 556 residents of one dorm building..."That seems high to me. Is that a study of the residents of "a dorm" or "people who sought their counseling in a dorm?" As a rape and sexual harassment prevention organization was the survey careful to weed out any organization prejudices? I'm not asking in any attempt to try and impugn the findings, but rather to sight the possibilities of error in such a study and seek out any clarifying details, if possible.>>>"... said that when it came to their virginity, they wished they had waited."Assuming they were safe, used precaution and rolled the dice and didn't come up pregnant or disease ridden, I'm left wondering why. What does one experience have to do with the other? What is gained by waiting for "the one?" How does engaging in sex in one relationship lesson it with a person in new relationship. Or, How does losing your virginity to "the one" heighten the experience. I completely fail to understand this or find in it any logic.I always found sex to be rather mechanical and only through familiarity with it was comfort and romance achieved. If the statistic sited are do to the fact that people wanted their first time to be a special romantic moment, I don't think that, with who it is chosen to be done, is going to make much difference. It will still be unfamiliar and awkward.>>>"the idea that still having your virginity at the posters age (around 17 I believe) is special and highly regarded in some cases."I can only rationalize this as an artifact of some idyllic immaturity, perhaps still feeling a bit stung by real life instead of "the first time" being a passionate Hollywood moment. I think this represents a group of survey respondents still young enough they're not yet fully awaken to the often unromantic realities of life. That's not to say that those realities are bad but, more likely than not, they aren't the romantic ideal. Might that be it, or am I completely off base?Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating promiscuity but I think as much, probably more, can be said for experience as can be said for virginity, given that those engaging in sex are mature enough to handle it and its possible consequences.

Kudos to you!Not only are you normal, but you are wise.And please don't fall for lines like "everybody is doing it" and "it's not possible to wait".Everyone is NOT doing it, and it IS possible to wait. You are showing character by making that decision and discipline by sticking to it.I would give my left nut to have had that kind of character and discipline at your age.

Self-righteousness is not a good reason to wait. If YOU truly want to wait, then it is your decision, you can do whatever you want. But you are not better than those who choose not to wait, especially if your reasons for waiting do not come from you, but from someone else. (Something that's used often to criticize those who don't wait, that they give into peer pressure. I feel this is no different)

Someone sounds a little bitter.Who said anything about being self-righteous? If you are equating character and discipline with self-righteousness, then that's a real problem. Speaking of problems, what exactly is your problem with someone who makes that decision for whatever reason? If they make it because they are a Christian and that is moral code they have subscribed to, how is that any less of a reason than any other reason. Let them have it.

Quote:yes always but iI don't see the reason people can't wait for that but somebody told me that once you star doing that you can't stop Once you start, you can stop. It's all in your head.I didn't wait because I am enjoying life as it is thrown my way. That doesn't necessarily mean I'm going to be immoral and do drugs and etc etc etc. I find sex to be a natural healthy thing to participate in.

From someone who is 20 years old and a virgin, this is all I have to say...Be who you want to be, don't let society around you guide the way you live. Be proud of who you are and follow your gut. Follow your instincts and do what ever makes you happiest (with the happiness of others still in mind). For whatever your reason, enjoy being a virgin or an experienced individual. There is no right and wrong when it comes to giving up your virginity other than the morals and feelings you perosnally hold.Good Luck and enjoy life, don't worry about the little things!And to 'OldFolks', the study I refered to was done by an advisor, another student, and I, in my dorm (550+ freshman). Where we single-handedly passed out 3 questions and recorded the responses. We already had data to deal with social class, majors, race, religion, and so forth. I was just informing Parlons to the knowlegde that I've aquired and know. You have just the same right to express that you have a different opinion. I know if I was to ask Parlons question, I'd be looking for all reasons of both sides. I hope you didn't take offense to what I said, but I am also not going to try argue or devalidate anything you have said. I am happy that you are happy you gave up your virginity in your younger years. "What ever works, works."

Just to clarify, Wildcat, I have in no way taken offence to anything you said. It's just my nature to question such things also, and mainly in this instance, I was wondering why they feel the way they do. I would still very much like to know that.Does anyone have any motivation for why this, or any group, wish they had waited, assuming they experienced no negative outcomes such as a STD or pregnancy?>>>"I am happy that you are happy you gave up your virginity in your younger years."You consider 21 young to loose your virginity?I would also still very much like have anybody's thoughts on this.Quote:What does one experience have to do with the other? What is gained by waiting for "the one?" How does engaging in sex in one relationship lesson it with a person in new relationship. Or, How does losing your virginity to "the one" heighten the experience. I completely fail to understand this or find in it any logic.

Well I would hate to realize I shared myself with someone wasn't worth my time or my body. I don't think sex makes a relationship special, I think people do that and this is one of the reason why I choose to not have sex. Having sex with just anyone doesn't really appeal to me nor does it make me feel has if the guy cares anymore about me than he does any other random woman on the street. None of the things you quoted are my reasons for not having sex. I think experience in life would make sex more fullfilling. I want to let the "projections" fall off and get to know someone and people in general so I can share my body with someone who is worth having me. I'm in no rush to loose my virginity, so far I've seen a world full of one too many people I wouldn't even want to spend a minute with.