Ok basically im just wondering whther im just being protective of a friend or just being jelous. i know this girl and after i got to know her a bit i discovered that i liked her (as one does). i knew, or at least had it in my mind that she didnt and never would like me in the same way. im a really really negative guy as far as negative goes, but i was pretty certain. and then she found out cos someone sent a text from my phone telling her which was really sociable of them. she ignored it. for a while things were really awkward but i got over her after a few months. now id probably say that im her best male friend so she always tells me whats on her mind. but i started to like her again which is really weird and frustrating cos she always says she'd never go out with a friend which really gets to me, even if it wouldnt ever happen. and whenver i find out that shes been doing things with other guys i get quite depressed and probably a bit jealous.thats basically my life story in a nutshell. like i said ive tried to get over her before (which worked) but the feeling keeps coming back. any ideas what i can do.cheers
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Cant get rid of it
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Yep, become distant. Move on. If she runs after you, be honest.
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yeah this was like my situation about two years ago .. like seriously the more u try to stay away the more u like them and the harder to get over them .. u just gotta take rejection in the face .. tell her and if she rejects u and ur still friends then she as a friend to begin with .. or it can be like what happened to me .. u tell them and get rejected and ur no longer friends... that is a true test of friendship there. but dont avoid .. avoidance makes is much worse
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Even after rejection, we were still friends. Depends on the people. It took A LOT before we weren't friends anymore.
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yeah i've tried becoming distant but whenever i go into town with friends and stuff she always seems to be around to meet my friends which doesnt really help. so then i start sort of ignoring her and she gets all upset about it like im in a bad mood with her. i do think she knows how i feel and i often hint at it and she either ignores it or just rejects it by saying something like 'nobody i WANT to have a crush on me has one for me' which is q depressing in a way. i just dunno how rid the feelings cos ive done it 2x before but it keeps comin back
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You're caught up in the same loop I was in. Lucky for me, my friends stopped talking to her too. They were more my friends than hers, and when we stopped talking it was evident. She was hurt because she thought they were her friends too... They were, but mainly because I liked her. Do your friends know how you feel?
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yeah they do and they always say things like 'oh just got out with her' or 'she blats fancies you' or something like that. they say it in a friendly/jokey way but i always think to myself 'yeah i wish' etc... also seems likes shes had a thing for all my friends and evryone i know except me.
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Quote: also seems likes shes had a thing for all my friends and evryone i know except me. Oh, that's kinda messed up too.