Hard to cum

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I have a problem where I find that I can't cum while having sex, but I can when I'm masturbating. It seems like i have to go fast sometimes to cum while i'm masturbating. I don't know if this has anything to do with it, but i was not circumcised and when I was young, my foreskin was attached to the head of my penis, somewhat close to the...corona? Anyways, it ended up coming off (ripping) when I was having sex when i was a teenager. The top layer of the skin was ripped where it was attached and it healed, but I've never talked to anyone about it. I also don't have insurance, so... It seems to me like I'm un-sensitive because of that ripped part when i was younger, but i don't know.Thanks,Mando

Hmm, not sure -- that area is packed with nerves but I doubt such a little accident could make things as bad as you make them sound.You could check, however, by touching-rubbing the area with your fingertip lightly, and take note if there's any part that feels numb.However, even if that area is affected, the rest of the head and the skin should be fine and feeling enough.Thing is, I accidentally did pretty much the same when I was in my early teens, and ripped mine during masturbation -- no adverse effects that I know of though.But I too have trouble coming during sex, and the related discussions on the forums suggest it has to do with being frustrated or anxious about performance. What I guess could help is not to masturbate for a good while before the, umm, events -- at least it makes the chances better on the physical side.

It sounds like you had a small adhesion that separated during sex - that shouldn't be a problem.

I had this problem for a long time until I learned to relax and enjoy what I was doing.Masturbation is sooo different from real sex. When you're jacking off, you control everything. But in intercourse, you interact. She distracts you; you distract yourself with her. It's a whole different experience.Also, when masturbating you're usually trying to get it over with quickly, either because you don't want to get caught or because it's generally a boring job until the orgasm hits. You don't usually have that need in real sex. So your pace is thrown off.I suggest just letting yourself enjoy the sex without thinking about orgasm. Odds are if you succeed in forgetting about coming, it will happen by surprise.