Alright, I have a long list of problems and I really need some help. If you can help me with any of these, I love you. Okay, so here it is.I'm with the girl of my dreams right now, and I love her. The first time we had sex ... I couldn't get it up. I know it was because I was nervous, because now I can get it up. However, when I get it up it doesn't stay up for very long unless I'm stimulated, or I think of stuff that gets me aroused. Which brings me to my next problem.I use to watch porn all the time, and I got really aroused. I even stayed aroused because of teh images from the porn. I could look at some random girl and finding myself thinking of having sex with her. I stopped watching porn a few months ago, a little before I started going out with this girl. Now I don't get aroused very often. Like my mind doesn't think of anything to ... really get me aroused.MY QUESTION IS ... CAN ME NO LONGER WATCHING PORN BE HE CAUSE OF ME NOT BEING ABLE TO GET AROUSED AS EASILY ANY MORE?Also ... when I do get hard, my penis does not point up, it actually kind of points striaght, and slightly down. It's not a problem when I have sex, since it's completely hard ... but just wondering why? Could wearing pants while having an erection deform it in any way? Help would be greatly appreciated!
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No More Porn - Now Harder To Get Aroused
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well, technically, "needing" to watch porn to orgasm every time you masturbate means that your tolerance for that kind of thing is way high.
to stay sexually and mentally healthy, do what i do.
masturbate without porn once every 2 weeks and make a habit of it.
that way you know you can still produce natural fantasies in your mind without that staged pornstar celebrity crap.
not saying it's bad. haha.and no, having an erection in pants during the day for no apparent reason is quite normal and wouldn't AND couldn't "deform" your penis in any way. it's just genetics, that's how your penis grew!
hope i was of some help to you!
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I know what you mean about the fantasies. However, I don't need the porn to get fantasies. I now think the problem is something different. I just saw porn a few hours ago to see if anything had changed, but it hadn't. There has to be something else keeping me from being able to get aroused easily. Any ideas as of what?I can get aroused when being stimulated, but if my mind is not in the right place that wont even work, because I can't feel the stimulation. This may be part of the problem - A few months ago my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time, it was both our first time, however ... I couldn't get it up. I was so concentrated on trying to get it up that I didn't think about the sexual act, and I never got aroused. After that, each time we tried afterwards I always had the thought in my mind that that might happen again. I mean since then we've had sex before ... but now I find it hard to become aroused and stay aroused. Any suggestions or things that may help?
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I have the exact same problem, ive only had sex a few times i have succesfully had sex before so i know i have no problems down there.. Then one time for one reason or another i couldnt get it up and now everytime we go to have sex not being able to get it up is on my mind and i think thats the problem itself. Next time im going to talk to her about it and make it clear that i dont have any problems and the only reason i cant get it up is because im scared i wont beable get it up. That way i can relax and know she will understand so all the pressure will be off me.
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what do the admins have to say, I'm kinda interested myself.