so there's this girl named jessie, and We both admitted to each other that we were bi and stuff. And she told me she liked me, and I told her that I liked her.The problem is, that we want to go out, and I think she likes me more then i like her. But thats not the main problem.The main problem is that I can't come out to my best friend, and jessie is mad at me for it because she doesn't want to have a secret relationship.Neither do I , but she doesn't understand that my best friend wont accept me for who I am at first, and I am not at a good time in my life to lose my best friend of 5 years.I really like this girl, its just so complicated.
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Coming out.
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If she won't accept you for who you are, she IS NOT your best friend.
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If I was to tell my friends I liked it in teh ass, they may well be taken aback and shocked, but they would still be my friends.
If they wouldnt, they never really were to begin with.
Actually, we drink, and we talk, and we used to fight with anyone on aregular basis and then drink and laugh some more and in the wee hours of the morning in a dope smoke and booze fille dhaze you find out alot about people, shit that you didnt want to know and normally they wouldnt tell you.
My friends know I like a finger in my but when Im with my girl, one time I told them about how good of a job I did scrubbig my pee pee in teh shower that moring and it is cleaner than any other part of me. Iv gotten fuckered and naked and pissed on the hood of cars of people that pissed me off while thye sat inside and did nothing. My firends have seen me at my best and my worst. and they still are my friends.
One of them came out in fucking -3 degrees f sunday night to help me change a fan belt that we had to spend an hour on on the side of the freeway. This after being woken up and driving to the 24 hour autozone near his house, then 20 miles to meet me on the road and help me out. My friends would do any damned thing for me they could do, and I for them. We are friends because of who they are, how they are and that we align on enough shit to have common interests. If any of them told me anything it wouldnt change the fat they are my friends.
aside from my woman, there is only 3 people I share that close of a bond with, 2 men and 1 woman. One who will be having a baby later this onth with his gf I gave about a grand of shit to help them out, and am going to wire in 220 to his garage for free so he cna run his compressors. another I gave a fucking car to because I didnt need it, was going to sell it and he needed it and was out of work and money at the time. The girl I paid for a ticket back form st louis after she moved back to get with her family and that worked out about as well as a turd in a punch bowl, gave her a place to live for a few months while she found owrk and got a car and shit.
I did it because they are my friends, I know shit about each of them that is worht alot of money should I choose to blackmail. none of what they said ever made them not my friend.
I trust those fuckers with my life and my money.
If you cant have that type of relationship with your best friend, than maybe shes more of a fairweather friend than a real one.
If yuo have to have a secret relationship with the other girl, than you sure as hell dont value her as a friend either.
Make your choice, but make it for te right reasons.
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Originally Posted By: z4ch4ryIf she won't accept you for who you are, she IS NOT your best friend. People are entitled to their beliefs.
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No offence intended Dragonfly, I know we're all entitled to our beliefs and opinions; but any 'friend' of mine who didn’t accept my sexuality would be entitled to fuckoff.
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I have to agree with Chance. Your true friends will take the good with the bad and they are still there with you. They'll bail your ass out of jail and would even help you hide the body if you needed helpI say do what is best or right for you. You and what your feeling is all that matters. Do what is best for you. True friends will always be there for you either way. They might not like something youve done or did or that youre about to do, but they are still in your corner to support you and be there for you.I would give the shirt off my back any of my friends if they needed it. Only you know if they are infact a true friend. But follow your gut feeling before doing something you will regret. Only you can determine which is the right way to handle things.Just an FYI:I think Chance is an awesome man. He is good people. This world should have more people like him. He offered his home, his couch to sleep on and to put my ass to work just to help me out. Uncondioonally. Now That, is a true frined!
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Alright so heres an update.One night i was chatting with my best friend online and we were talking about when our friend told us that this girl i liked was going to ask me to a dance where its girls ask. like sadie hawkins. Well my best friend was like "ew" and i totally flipped out and was like "so if she's ew i must be ew too" and i was like "are you homophobic?" and yeah she tried to give me guilt trip and stuff. but now she's all trying to take it seriously. But now there's a different problem. the girl i like is a lot of drama, like not with people just her own personal life about her dead dad and stuff. And she's confused on what she "wants" as in if she wants me. or wants to be single.i got drunk and asked her out over the phone, and my friends totally make fun of me for it.i started to think a few days ago, when i was with this guy greg.. i always had this "feeling" that it was right between us. and i had that feeling until the day he moved, and even afterwards until we decided to break up. I really miss that feeling, and i think thats what i've been looking for when i like people and thats why i tend to go through them so quickly is because nobody can compare to how much i liked him.