Go with it or way too fast?

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Is this girl that I barely know and just met last Sunday moving way too fast? How do I know if I like her or not or if I'm just reacting to one of the first girls who has displayed a major interest in me?I met her Sunday. Wednesday I see a movie with her, nothing happens. Thursday: after a movie she pins me down and ferociously starts kissing me like wildly, ferociously. and she tries tonguing/french kissing.I was so taken aback. I didn't know what to do or how to respond. I tried kissing her back, etc. First time something like that has happened tome. Farthest I've ever gone with a woman happened that night.Friday:she insists on sleeping over in my bed with me . all she wanted to do was make out with me and touch me. im not terribly comfortable with either. I got NO SLEEP with her in the bed even after we decided to go to sleep I couldn't fall asleep.Shes 3-4 years older than me and has quite a bit of experience whereas I have almost none. She is making ALL the moves. She finds me really cute, while I'm not sure how I feel about her. She defintiely likes me more physically than I like her.-I know almost nothing about her I've known her LESS THAN A WEEKthere was no getting to know her perioudlWHAT should I do?

You don't sound comfortable in this situation, and if you arn't then put a stop to it......as i would tell someone in the same position no matter what gender they are, never let someone make you feel uncomfortable..........tell her its all too fast and how you feel if she doesn't like it then thats tough.

My last "relationship" was like that.Met her on a Saturday. Meet her after work on Wednesday and she jumps on me and kisses me. Then later she leaps at me and eats my face off.By Friday however she had left me.Fast and intense NEVER works for me.If you wanna hear about FAST, you should hear about my first girlfriend.Meet her in town. 2 hours later we're all over each other. 1 hour later she asks to come back to mine. 1 hour later she's making me massage her breasts. 1 hour later i have my fingers inside her and 30 mins later I have my tongue inside her, all cos she wanted me to!So in less than 6 hours we go from strangers to her telling me to have sex with her. I couldn't do it. Was SO not ready for that one.That relationship lasted 6 months, but all 6 were AWFUL.My advice is to get her to back off or run a mile. Quickly.

1st rule of being in a relationship is being comfortable with the other person, and you really don't sound like you are. If you're not happy with how fast things are moving then you shouldn't just sit there and take it. Suggest to her that you want to slow down, and only knowing her a week gives you a perfectly acceptable explanation should you not want to mention your lack of experience.

And if things don't work out, send her my way. The girl sounds like a kinky bitch!

If you aren't comfortable with how things are going, TELL her that! If she doesn't know she'll continue pushing, and that doesn't sound like what you want.

And if she doesn't listen, doesn't want to compromise and let you have a say in the "relationship," send her packing!

Quote:Shes 3-4 years older than me and has quite a bit of experience whereas I have almost none. She is making ALL the moves. She finds me really cute, while I'm not sure how I feel about her. She defintiely likes me more physically than I like her.Does this mean you lack a physical attraction toward her?You're not accustomed to anything that's happening and therefore it quite natural that you don't know what to think. Haha.Do YOU think she's going way too fast? If so, then let her know how you FEEL. Emphasis on "feel" because that's the way women communicate. They want that rapport. She may remember a time when she wasn't as confident as she is now.

Well she seems infatuated with me, thinks im really cute - so much so that she made all the moves.I don't think shes extremely attractive - but shes not bad looking. I know - not what I should be saying.You know - sometimes you are immediately physically attracted to people and other times it develops over time as you get to know a person.I wasn't immediately phyiscally attracted to her and I DONT KNOW HER AT ALL. :PShe likes me right now more than I like her. That is for sure.---------But a girl kissing me and touching me - I didn't know how to react. First time that that has happened to me.Should I try to get to know her more and try to get a relationship out of this? I would end up with a lot of experience.But as of right now I'm not that crazy about her. I guess it would be horrible for a big reason of going out with her to be to gain girl experience.I'm 18 she is like 21 or 22.

Haha, you don't even know how old she is! Thats brilliant!

why would you be with someone like this i don't get it, you don't feel comfortable with whats happening so why accept it, if you were a girl and a guy was treating you like this people would be shouting abuse and rape etc......its no different, just cos you are a guy and you should think yourself lucky a girl is wanting you, etc, what she is doing isn't right - but hey your choice if you let her or not.

well i figured out that she was pretty much using me as a makeout toy or whatever.i told her i wasnt interested - didnt want to persue anything further.i told her that i didnt even know her. that i like to get to know girls and become friends first. also told her that i dont even know if we have anything in common.All she wanted to do was makeout. She only liked me for my looks. While hugely flatering - i know NOTHING about her and I don't find her very attractive.So that is the end of it.SO HAPPY i did this because she got all bitchy on me. "why cant I find any REAL MEN" was something she said. whatever.She said "You've been avoiding me for like a week!" When I had only been doing so for 3 days. I've only known her for 1 1/2 weeks! :P lol crazy chick.

good for you hon, my faith in the male species goes up a little

Can't say I'm surprised about the outcome of this one. I had a feeling that's what she would end up saying.

Ah well, you dodged a bullet there. Good stuff :smile:

Sometimes people just want to get their rocks off, and if they find an attractive partner, so much the better. Such people come in both genders. As long as they find a partner of like mind, all is well. If not, then hopefully the partner will realize that they're being used as a sex toy, and put an end to it.I agree with you -- when a relationship starts with one partner wanting to jump right into bed, it's not likely to last. On the other hand, I know a couple who's been happily married for years, who started out that way, so you never know.

Quote:SO HAPPY i did this because she got all bitchy on me. "why cant I find any REAL MEN" was something she said. whatever.LOL. I suppose she thinks "real men" would have had sex with her and then left. She's got some growing up to do.