Alright first of all im a girl and for the past few months i thought i had a crush on one of my friends (who is also a girl) and Ive also had a crush on some guy who i met only a few months ago and in my friends case ive known her for ...hmm 7 years maybe. Well I found out she liked me too, so we decided to go out, but then the next day...that guy asked me out.. Im not exactly sure about my sexual orientation which causes a problem so i dont know wat to do in this situation..I want to avoid hurting anyone but..I dont know! AH!..
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Confused
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Firstly, welcome to the boards.You are in a difficult spot at the moment because you have a combination of two normal problems. Choosing between two possible partners and choosing between a possible partner and a friend.The latter problem is usually solved by picking the friend, as friendship often outlasts relationships, especially young ones. As for the second problem, that is completely up to you to decide.In my personal opinion, since you have already started a relationship with your friend, I think you should stay with her. Its only just started and who knows where it could go. Tell the guy that you're currently unnavailable, but should your situation change that you'd be happy to go out some time. How old are you? I feel that its important to know that many girls in their teens go through a phase of being attracted to other girls and it passes without any effects on their future relationships. This isn't to say that you will just get over this attraction, or that you are straight, bi or gay, its just something you should be aware of.
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Im 14, i know it could be a phase but mind as well just go with my attractions till I know for sure I guess right?
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Thats right. So, have you decided to stay with your friend or go out with the guy?
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I have stayed with my friend. And its going pretty well (the guy and I are friends still so its all good)
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Well thats good, I hope things work out well for you.
