the last post i made was about my frustrations with an imporforate hymen that was making sex difficult... but i did end up talking to the gyno, and lo and behold it was truly left over scar tissue from an operation that was causing problems with penetration.anyway, i got over it, and for christmas i gave my virginity to my boyfriend. we've been having sex pretty regularly since that time, and im beginning to wonder when its going to start feeling like i had imagined it would.since i lost my virginity, my ability to orgasm has gone down the toilet, no matter what i do. its pretty frustrating. i get satisfaction from sex, but its more of the type of satisfaction you get from a back rub rather than anything else.my vagina went closed up and unused for 18 years due to my hymen, and im hoping that those muscles/nerves havent atrophied to a point of nearly-no-return.we've done just about every position we can fit ourselves into, and i do get that "i have to pee" feeling occasionally, but its not really wonderful or anything.is this going to feel good in my future? do i just need more practice to wake up the nerves, or am i just screwed?
Im still a beginner, but when will it feel better?
Wake up the nerves? I was 20 when I lost my virginity, my girlfriend was 21. Nerves don't just die due to lack of stimulation.
The fact that you waited until 18 to give up your virginity has nothing to do with you not experiencing orgasm though sex. Though nerves stay sensitive practically forever. There's something else going on. See PM.
its less like "waking up the nerves" than it is getting over the physical stress thats gone on in the area.
the hymendectomy left me with some scar tissue that has been causing me problems. also, having been closed up for so long left me with pretty painful endometriosis.
while these problems can and are being dealt with, id like to find what i can do in the meantime to make having sex more pleasurable.