Abstinence

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I want to stop masterbation and everything, I have been doing it too much, I do it like 7 times a day and I download too much porn lol. So do you people have any suggestions on stopping, I tried deleting everything, and throwing away all my dvds and everything, but it doesnt work I always come back only thing I can think of is destroying my computer, but i just bought it .

Hey bud, sure sounds like a bit of an addiction to me. Certainly sex can become very addictive. I'm not quite sure how to help you though bud, first...how old are you? How long has this been going on? Are you sexually active as well or is this all about porn and masturbation? I know, enough questions. I'd suggest that you can't completely stop all at once hopefully you can figure out a way to slowy and over time decrease the incidences of it....maybe set limits on time or sites visited etc. Also, to completely stop masturbating may not be possible, so you may need to set some goals. I do believe that 7/day is excessive for sure. I'll be glad to keep helping you through this if you'd like. Start by answering those questions and keep in touch, we'll see what we can do. Hang in there and good luck!

dood, you and I are kindda in the same boat. I dont masturbate all that much maybe 3 or 4 times a week, but i'd like to not want to do it at all.

yea lower the amount would be cool, maybe once a day or so lol. im 20 years old, i think it would be a great way to assert self-dicipline but its so hard to fix, yea i really think it is an addiction, i havent really hurt myself yet tho, i have been doing this for a very long time, the only time i stopped was when my computer didnt work and that was for 4 months , but then right after i got my computer working again i started up again.

I’m 20 too, I never feel like masturbating until I see something sexual... lately I’ve been trying to understand why I find these things arousing, I feel if I can understand it I will be able to easily control it.But when thinking about it on my own I don’t make the kind of fast progress I’d like to. I remember the first time I ever stared at a chicks butt (these other two girls in my class saw me and ratted me out so it’s a very vivid memory) ... and its strange cause I was very young I was in the third grade. I honestly believe its culture it’s the things that I head in songs at that age, also my older siblings would talk to each other about girls and the would say things like she has an awesome butt and all the things that guys say about girls. And I think that I made myself aroused by things like a girls butt and breast and all the things in between, and then from that start I believe that entertainment, and the media exploits it and now I’m where I am now. So now I find myself trying to undo all that and it’s hard.Honestly there’s no reason for me to be aroused by a woman’s breast and ass unless I absolutely want to… it’s not like that now and it bothers me…Maybe we can solve our problems by throwing around ideasbut anyway... I dont think throwing away and deleting yoru porn will help much an attitude change towards masturbation and sexuality is what we both need

Hey ogelthorpe...welcome! Those feelings that you have about breasts and butts and sexual things...those are totally normal and you really should get turned on by them. So don't kick yourself around for something so normal as that and then adding masturbation and or fantasy to it. For a very long time (about your age and for a few years) I struggled with porn and masturbation....tried to stop, got frustrated, tried to stop, got frustrated....you both get the picture. Fortunately I was able to work through it and so can both of you! Just gotta set some plans and goals, take it easy and understand that you're going to slip up sometimes. This thing is just like other addictions, takes some time. I'd be glad to help if you'd like...feel free to PM me as well if you'd like to.

Hey Lance it's nice of you to offer help. I'm just wondering if I can jump on that bandwagon! Although my gf and I are kind of sexually active (anything but penetration - she wanted to hold out until marriage) I still masturbate too often. Probably 5 times a day even though I work 12 hours or more. On days I'm not working it's even more, and to do it I spend time downloading porn. She's in Korea now and has been for 3 months, and we may not be together anymore I've been viewing quite a lot of porn and it just wastes time as far as I'm concerned.I'm 23 and have been masturbating since I was approx. 15. It's only become a problem since I've had a computer (4-5 years) and now I'm a network engineer I'm at a computer all the time which doesn't help.With anything else I'd usually have an extremely strong will, but with this I just fall to pieces. I want to cut down the amount that I masturbate and the time that I spend looking for porn.Just a question. I've heard that if you don't 'use' your libido on something you'll lose it. Is that true? Will my libido die off if I suppress it as such?

Hey bud, nope you won't lose that libido..its one of those innate things that we just can't get rid of... Its all about access bud, and you seem to have alot of that right now. And, with her being gone...that makes other satisfaction not possible either so you're frustrated and horny as well. And at 23 you're in your sexual prime. I personally believe that masturbation becomes a habit and we do it "just because" and at your age and for many years afterward I was at least once/day and often didn't enjoy it...just did it because. My porn stuff was tied to it sometimes but I didn't have access to a PC at the time...if so, I'd be in the same boat you are. Like I said it takes time and some goal setting. We'll keep in touch, glad to help if I can.

It's up to you to control yourself. There's no advice that would help you

Thats your opinion seven...but I disagree.

It's an opinion that he has to control himself?

Its your opinion that advice won't help, we all know he's going to have to learn how to control things....

i know i need to control myself its just hard to control, i wish i could be like oh ok well im control now i dont have to worry about this anymore, but its a bit harder than that. I beleive an example would be like a glutton, that doesnt want to stop eating, you could say, well he just needs to learn to control himself, there is no way to help him, but its a bit harder than that...

I've been busying myself with work. I've cut down to say 3 per day over the past week, but I've had other issues that've just kept my mind off it. Going OK I suppose. Still wasting too much time looking for porn I think

I'm also trying to stop/decrease the frequency I spend masturbating and looking for porn. I don't masturbate as much as some of you do though, I don't see how someone can masturbate 3 or more times a day or even once a day. To me there are more negatives associated with porn that positives. Lets go over some of the issues I have with porn...Positives:Its a way to releave yourself because sometimes you need a little relief.Kegel exercises?Negatives:Is an addictive habit.My self confidence is lowered.Look at women as objects instead of women.Feeling of guilt.Not as motivated to actually find someone, maybe due to lack of sperm... Anywho, i'm trying to reduce it to atleast once every two weeks. If not, then once a week and then work on two weeks...