Sorry but i just gotta say this

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yea guys im about to rant here, so if your not in the mood to read it, dont.these last few posts on here seem a little insulting dont you think? i mean, it was bad enough that there was a post about sexual turn offs, but now theres one about "your perfect partner". the worst one is about dating someone with a disability. thats TERRIBLE!. however, if someone made a post about if they find black women sexy or attractive (which WAS made, i just cant find it), they would get bitched at for it. for someone who has very little or no self-esteem, to come on this site looking for answers to questions they are too embaressed to ask in person, and to see these topics on here, is just waaay too insulting. the sexual turnoff post was just supposed to be a little fun, thats all. so now if someone is over weight, thats a major turn-off i suppose. the "perfect partner" isnt as bad as the "dating someone with disabilities" thread. i thought everyone was equal hey? im a little disappointed to read that post knowing that the person who made it is so offended over posts that involve race, but yet makes a thread about whether or not someone could lower their standards enough to date someone with a disability. (classy, i think the world of you, i just dont like that thread! xx)i dont mean to pick on certain people here, it just really disappointed me to read that post last night..i dunno if you guys made these posts to be serious or just for a few laughs, but i for one, find them insulting. im probably going to be bitched at or banned from this site now because of saying this, but sorry, i wasnt going to say anything, but i have a right to.maybe i am being a little over-sensitive over these topics, but im saying this on behalf of those people who wont say anything at all. i AM insulted from these topics, but i would say that there are more people on here who are more insulted than i am right now. i apoligize if im a little harsh here myself. i love this site, and i love everyone on it, im just really upset about these last few threads.

Haha, don't worry Ash, your post offers absolutely no merit for a banning.

The sexual turn-offs and perfect partner threads are for individual people's opinions. It doesn't give off that if someone doesn't fit into our strict criteria that they will never be with someone.

As for the dissability thread, thats a bit of a serious question. Probably one that people would be too Afraid to Ask in real life...

o good. i thought i was going to be completely ripped apart here for saying this. it was insulting, but i know its only a joke for the most part, but some people can find it REALLY offensive.i however really dont like that disability thread at all.

i completely agree with you hunni. i just dont want anyone to get offended by whats been said.

Ashley just roxx my soxx. Enough said.

It is really hard Ash...I spent a winter with a room-mate who almost literally turned green at the sight of a womans leg hair..He wouldn't stop trying to get in my pants, and grossed ME out so much, and wouldn't listen to my words, guess what I did? I quit shaving for the winter! I put more wood in my fire, and wore shorts too...To this day, I call it Sal-repellent.Yet, there was someone else buzzing around that I WAS interested in, and those hairy legs didn't bother him a bit! All it is is personal oppinions, and the "right one" is out there for everybody.I don't see any of these threads being directly offensive, just because it is say, a turn off, doesn't mean that there is any disrespect meant, just oppinions. By the way, I DID date a REALLY fat guy, its just that his body wasn't the turn on.

i respect what your saying there. i was most offended by the disability thread.

MWAH

Kisses

lol!!i cant help it if i roxx soxx

Actually, I have to agree with you Ashley. I think it sends a wrong message to the kids on this site. I think alot of the people that come here are kids. It may not hurt my feelings, but to a 14 year old, overweight kid, it will hurt thier feelings. And more importantly, it gives them the impression that they are unattractive. I mean, how many threads do we see in the Depression forum that are about young teens feeling ugly or fat or whatever? Of course everyone is entitled to thier own opinion, but I think these threads sometimes go way too far.

Sorry HelmsmaN, im not exactly new, well im not exactly a vertern either xD Just under a new name.. :P

thank you so much for understanding what i have to say. i feel the EXACT same way as you do. sure i find it a bit offensive, but for a child with so little self esteem to come here and read it, IMO is just a sin. :(

Yeah.. I just looked up your IP...Apparently you have have created 4 accounts in the past few months... I find that extremely irritating.. Pick one and tell me which one you want to keep.

4? thats strange because this is my 2nd ever account... Dont know where that came from...

Yeah right... Pick one of the 4.

What you mean yeah right?? This one....

Hi Ash; I'm certainly not going to oppose your right to voice your opinion, but I think you've got it a bit wrong here on all counts to be honest. I cant imagine what was wrong with Bobs thread about attractiveness, aren’t we entitled to say what we find attractive? I cant see anything wrong with my thread about sexual turn offs, aren’t we entitled to say what turns us off sexually? And I think you're just really missing the mark regarding CBW's disability thread when you say:"...thread about whether or not someone could lower their standards enough to date someone with a disability".She didnt say anything about 'lowering of standards'. I took her thread to be addressing the emotional and practical issues that would surround falling in love and marrying someone with whom it was not possible to enjoy an active sex life. I'm pretty sure I'm correct in that interpretation.

i know what you mean there hunn. its just i dont want someone to come on here, read it, and feel even worse about theirselves.like, if they dont look certain way or whatever, then their not good enough. thats how i thought of the threads. thanks for replying tho

That is not for you to control! We as members have a right to post whatever we want, even if it is not the politically correct thing to do. As I read through those threads and posts, none of them did not seem to be blatantly offensive. People have preferences, and I can't change that. I could give a shit if someone came on here and told me that he finds black women ugly and unattractive. Why? Because, like Starfish said, I could give a shit about what some anonymous person thinks of people who look like me.

Now, I'm going to say something here that may get me into trouble, but I don't care. This board shouldn't function as a place where people can come and build up their self-esteem; that is the job of the "real world." Our job here is to give advice to the best of our knowledge. And if they gain some self-esteem while on the boards, then that's fine. But we shouldn't be so hell bent on trying to protect someone's feelings by restricting what people can post just because they have a certain preference. The *real* world is much harsher than this place, anyway. It's also a place where we can express our views or interests, no matter how vulgar or offensive they are.

Now, if you had an issue with any of those threads, then maybe you were overanalyzing their intent. I didn't mean to imply, as you put it, "if people would lower their standards for a disabled person." I was just asking a question that many people go through when they fall in love with someone who is disabled.

Finally, the best advice anyone could give is this--if it offends you, then don't read it. Don't get so hung up about what goes on here. Like Helms always says, get out and enjoy the *real* world.

Quote:im a little disappointed to read that post knowing that the person who made it is so offended over posts that involve race, but yet makes a thread about whether or not someone could lower their standards enough to date someone with a disability. (classy, i think the world of you, i just dont like that thread! xx)First of all, me asking a simple question concerning abilities has nothing to do with race. I love how a few people on here try to point out how I'm supposedly hipocritical. I'm not offended by posts that involve race; I'm just offended by the stupid things people posts in those threads. I don't care if a white doesn't find me attractive; it's his preference. If you actually read my thread without the bias you have, you would have seen that I had no intent of malice. Quote:maybe i am being a little over-sensitive over these topics, but im saying this on behalf of those people who wont say anything at all. i AM insulted from these topics, but i would say that there are more people on here who are more insulted than i am right now.I'm sure I know who that other person is. Like I said in my previous posts, if it offends you, then don't read it. You are being overly sensitive. None of those threads were intended to do harm, especially mine. But, as you and a few others like to do, you over analyzed them and made them into something that they had no intentions of being. Nice going.