Sorry but i just gotta say this

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Hi Ash; I'm certainly not going to oppose your right to voice your opinion, but I think you've got it a bit wrong here on all counts to be honest. I cant imagine what was wrong with Bobs thread about attractiveness, aren’t we entitled to say what we find attractive? I cant see anything wrong with my thread about sexual turn offs, aren’t we entitled to say what turns us off sexually? And I think you're just really missing the mark regarding CBW's disability thread when you say:"...thread about whether or not someone could lower their standards enough to date someone with a disability".She didnt say anything about 'lowering of standards'. I took her thread to be addressing the emotional and practical issues that would surround falling in love and marrying someone with whom it was not possible to enjoy an active sex life. I'm pretty sure I'm correct in that interpretation.

i know what you mean there hunn. its just i dont want someone to come on here, read it, and feel even worse about theirselves.like, if they dont look certain way or whatever, then their not good enough. thats how i thought of the threads. thanks for replying tho

That is not for you to control! We as members have a right to post whatever we want, even if it is not the politically correct thing to do. As I read through those threads and posts, none of them did not seem to be blatantly offensive. People have preferences, and I can't change that. I could give a shit if someone came on here and told me that he finds black women ugly and unattractive. Why? Because, like Starfish said, I could give a shit about what some anonymous person thinks of people who look like me.

Now, I'm going to say something here that may get me into trouble, but I don't care. This board shouldn't function as a place where people can come and build up their self-esteem; that is the job of the "real world." Our job here is to give advice to the best of our knowledge. And if they gain some self-esteem while on the boards, then that's fine. But we shouldn't be so hell bent on trying to protect someone's feelings by restricting what people can post just because they have a certain preference. The *real* world is much harsher than this place, anyway. It's also a place where we can express our views or interests, no matter how vulgar or offensive they are.

Now, if you had an issue with any of those threads, then maybe you were overanalyzing their intent. I didn't mean to imply, as you put it, "if people would lower their standards for a disabled person." I was just asking a question that many people go through when they fall in love with someone who is disabled.

Finally, the best advice anyone could give is this--if it offends you, then don't read it. Don't get so hung up about what goes on here. Like Helms always says, get out and enjoy the *real* world.

Quote:im a little disappointed to read that post knowing that the person who made it is so offended over posts that involve race, but yet makes a thread about whether or not someone could lower their standards enough to date someone with a disability. (classy, i think the world of you, i just dont like that thread! xx)First of all, me asking a simple question concerning abilities has nothing to do with race. I love how a few people on here try to point out how I'm supposedly hipocritical. I'm not offended by posts that involve race; I'm just offended by the stupid things people posts in those threads. I don't care if a white doesn't find me attractive; it's his preference. If you actually read my thread without the bias you have, you would have seen that I had no intent of malice. Quote:maybe i am being a little over-sensitive over these topics, but im saying this on behalf of those people who wont say anything at all. i AM insulted from these topics, but i would say that there are more people on here who are more insulted than i am right now.I'm sure I know who that other person is. Like I said in my previous posts, if it offends you, then don't read it. You are being overly sensitive. None of those threads were intended to do harm, especially mine. But, as you and a few others like to do, you over analyzed them and made them into something that they had no intentions of being. Nice going.

i believe i have a right to think what i want. so i am.

>>I'm sure I know who that other person is

do you? because i dont, it was just a general statement.

>>But, as you and a few others like to do, you over analyzed them and made them into something that they had no intentions of being. Nice going.

actually no i didnt over analyze anything. i read what you posted and wrote what i thought of it. like you said, if you dont like what i have to post on here, then dont read it.

anyways, i do NOT want to get into this with you. you think what you want, and so will i.

This board shouldn't function as a place where people can come and build up their self-esteem; that is the job of the "real world."If you worked for me, your ass would be out the door and your stuff would be on the sidewalk. The insensitivity of the moderators here is surprising, but yours is truly shocking. I suggest you read the Docs terms of usage and purpose of this site before you open your ignorant mouth.First of all, it's not OK for people to say whatever they want here. This "press" is privately owned, and no one has a Constitutional right to free speech. If that were the case, if someone said "I don't find skanky nigger chicks" would be allowed to stand. It surely wouldn't.Madame moderator, you think the guy who created this site did it with the principle idea that you described? You're wrong. There are plenty of places people can insult classes of people over "flaws" in personality and how they look. It may make you feel better about yourself to put down the "flaws" of others, and it may amuse some people, but it hurts others. You obviously don't care, and apparently can't even understand.This place is mainly for people to get information on personal social issues and medical conditions. If you don't understand that, then look at the list of forums.You have the sensitivity of a cinder block, so you were of course the natural choice to be moderator of a place like this, where some semblance of human feeling is a requirement. If you had an ounce of ethics or common sense, you would never have accepted the job. I can't figure out why you still have it.

What can I say? It's the bitch in me that's starting to show!

Quote:actually no i didnt over analyze anything. i read what you posted and wrote what i thought of it. like you said, if you dont like what i have to post on here, then dont read it.Here's the thing, though. Instead of coming to me and asking me what my intent was, you create another thread trashing me and assuming what my intent was. That his how most, if not all, the shit on here gets started. But, it's typical a2a fashion. So, I'm not surprised.

i wasnt trashing YOU. i was saying i didnt like the thread YOU made.

Okay, that's fine. It would have been the right thing to do to ask me personally instead of assuming what my intent behind it was.

OR, you just could have just not posted the topic to begin with.

I'm going to post whatever I please, just like any other member on here. If you don't like it, sweetie, then don't read it. Plain and simple.

I too am gonna post whatever I want.I like to slap around young bloody cunts! Freedom of speech rocks my 5 year old slave boy's penis!!

Quote:'m going to post whatever I please, just like any other member on here. If you don't like it, sweetie, then don't read it. Plain and simple.Why do people keep saying this? People can ppst what they want, on either side of a disagreement. It goes without saying that no one is obligated to read anything on a bulleting board site.It seems to be what people say when they have no other way to respond to a criticism. What it really says is, "Go fck yourself and leave me the fck alone".What concerns me is that you don't seem to understand what the kerfuffle is all about. That makes me feel very sad for you. I hope you never get a job as a counselor, family physician, or psychoanalyst. You need to do some work in the compassion and empathy departments.

hmmm... OR you could be considerate of other peoples feelings on here and think before you type.plain and simple.

I like to slap around know-it-alls and PC extremists I like having my bitches cook naked, too.

i catch what your saying, and i agree. nobody should say anything that wouldnt be appropriate to say to someone face-to-face. now maybe some people will argue that they would say that stuff to someone standing right in front of you, but if you seriously would say that black people turn you off or fat people are ugly to a black person or fat person, you got issues. theres a fine line between honesty and insult. while this is a very open board that covers topics full of controversy and opinions, its not supposed to be a downer. just be considerate of others, because even though we have a big wall of anonymousity protecting us, you can still hurt someone whos just looking for a bit of help. coming to this board finds answers without getting laughed at, and if an overweight person sees a post degreading overweight people, what was the point in the first place. just be careful what you say.

Yes, child You guys crack me up.Ashley, you never gave us your opinion on dating someone with a disability. Do you care to give your opinion in the thread?

mhmm. thats whats i was trying to say on here. i just hope that when you would say "you" you didnt mean me, cuz thats what im defending lol

>>Yes, child

so now your attacking me personally are you? look, i said i just didnt like the thread, no need to call me a "child" or anything.

i think i gave enough opinions for the day. seems to me that no matter what i say your gonna have something ignorant to say back at me.