So I feel like I am really easily turned on. I was wondering whether it is expected that when a girl is dancing with a guy (grinding for the most part) that the guy gets aroused. Is this expected, accepted, creepy? I tend to be really uncomfortable dancing at parties because I'm afraid I'll get an erection and the girl will think I'm a pervert or something. Any thoughts or suggestions? Mostly curious what the girls have experienced or feel about the issue.
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I think it's pretty common, esp. if your grinding. Besides most girls would most likely take it as a compliment. I mean come on it sexually suggestive dancing what do they think would happen. If a girl is going to get offended or creeped out by a guy sporting wood when they are engaged in such dances perhaps she should limit herself to something like square dancing... that should make any guy impotent for life... then she'll have no worries.I guess what I'm saying is, in the unlikely event she got creeped out, the problem is hers not yours.
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Ugh, it happened to me once. I was freaking (i think thats what its called...) with this girl at a school dance my sophomore year, and i was managing to hold off an erection, until she grabbed my hands and pulled them down until they were touching her zipper. I got so embarassed because i didn't want to pull away for fear of someone seeing (in retrospect, they probably saw anyway), and i didn't want to keep dancing cuz, erm, yeah. In the end i ended up just dancing until it went down. She probably knew, but she didnt care, or at least didnt act like it. So, IOW, I agree with OldFolks, don't worry so much about it :smile:
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Grinding, or "freaking" ;p is sexual dancing. If your grinding her from behind you've got a hard on a mater of centemetres from where the jackpot is, its soo teasing, girls know that, id say if u didnt get hard that'd be insulting.Fookin' love it!
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What about while doing something like the Tango. It's not as explicitly sexual, but there is definately the suggestiveness and closeness. In either case that is a relief to hear, I still dunno how comfortable I am with it though, I like to dance I just wish grinding wasn't the norm of the day.
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Grinding is great. If you're in a nightclub or at a party and you're dancing with a girl you're interested in then the erection is fine. If you're dancing with friends, then no. Yes, I dirty dance with my friends, it's all fun. However I only do it with my single friends when I'm single too.
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sigh... grinding is not dancing! understand this. say this with me actually. GRINDING IS NOT DANCING! I don't care what anybody says lol it's just not. Dancing has been so distorted it's ridiculous. Coming from a person who's been dancing all dances since she was like...5 it's annoying when people categorize grinding with dancing. It's far from it. If the girl is grinding on you she OBVIOUSLY wants a physical reaction from you because that's the whole point of grinding. I know. Believe me! I'm a good girl though I just watch I don't do anything...
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See I tend to like "good girls" and its hard to find a girl randomly at a bar or something who wants to actually dance and not grind. I totally agree, JapanFan, I wish grinding was rare and most people actually danced. Really dancing can be so much more sensual and fun. Anyhow, Ill stop before I start to rant. Any advice for people who shy away from grinding?
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I don't think your gonna find that many people who are going to do anything other than grind. Grinding is simple easy and takes no thought or education so most people feel more comfortable doing it. Other dances take a little more effort, most people have never been taught or have no interest in learning.
If you are looking for people who want to do something other than grind, I would suggest looking for a Latin dance club instead of just a dance club. Depending on where you are that may be pretty hard to find, believe me I know. Remember generic clubs are for the masses and the masses don't know how to dance anymore... thus the grind.
As for sporting wood while dancing what I said earlier I think still holds, esp. for Latin dances. To me a lot of Latin dances are a hell of a lot more sexy and would turn me on even more than any grinding. I say she still would take it as a compliment.
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exactly. I rarely dance with boys nowadays. Most of the times I dance with my girl friends which most of the time turns into a dance off but other than that like at occassional parties and what not I don't grind I just have fun with them doing dances we've learned or made up etc. People forget what dancing is lol. I remember when I was at my friends sweet sixteen I was dancing with her and some random guy whom I had never seen before in my life started grinding me from behind. I said "Do I know you" lol I almost slapped him. That was rude you can't just go up to a girl you don't know and grind her I mean come on.
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If I were to approach a random girl at a club with the intention of grinding how would I go about it? Like if a group of girls are on the floor dancing and I'm interested in one, what's the best way to let a girl know you want to dance with them? I've been to enough bars and clubs with my friends, I just have always been shy and so never really thought about how I'd go about it.
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introduce yourself and ask them to dance lol don't worry it's not that hard
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Hehe well if I ever do I'll let ya'll know, thanks for all the advice.