So yeah, I have not been stretching - mostly because I was HOPING to get a circumcision. No clue how long that is going to take - probably another six months (assuming that the doctor says that it isn't a cosmetic thing and it is causing me problems and assuming it will be covered fully by insurance) so I figured I'd try a little stretching to see if I could at least get half way down. Well, I did the dirty and afterwards I decided to take a shower and I was able to get both index fingers into my foreskin (well, sort of) and was pulling opposite directions and pulling outward for about 5 minutes. After the shower I was trying to do the same thing (pulled back about half way, then put my fingers onto the head and let the skin roll back onto my fingers) but it was harder and I wasn't able to get in there as easily as before. Anyways, I can basically get about half way down when flaccid and you can see my ferilium (sp, afaik thats what its called), its just a tick below my urethra and when I retract as far as I can the skin spreads out on the bottom. Note that I can only get about 25% down the head after a few minutes out of the shower (once the head gets dry). Also, my head is grey but around the urethra and the ferilium it is red and the urethra like puffs out . its odd. I'd take pictures but no camera. I guess what I need to know is would I be able to fully retract in the next 4 months if I spent 10 minutes or so with two index fingers up in there pulling outward/apart? Would that ferilium pose a problem? Should I just forget it and get a circumcision ASAP (god knows how long, I'm American). Bleh, it sucks being a sexy 18 year old male with an unusable penis. I would've had sex a LONG time ago if I wasn't so self-conscious about it (really its just embarrassing that its so different..)Also, is it weird that at the base of my penis its thinner then the middle of my erect penis? Like, I can fit my hand around the base of my penis no problem, but the middle of my penis is thicker and its surely noticeable to me. haha.
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Short ferilium
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It's hard to know if your frenulum is short if your foreskin is tight. Work on loosening the foreskin first. Your description doesn't contain anything out of the ordinary - the colour of the head can be very variable, and the frenulum does normally attach below but quite close to the urethra.It's not so weird for the base of your shaft to be thinner than the middle. It's quite a common variant.
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Alright. Well, I guess only time will tell. If I don't see any noticeable change in the next four months I'm going to try and get my insure straight and just go straight for the snip.
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So yeah, I have not been stretching - mostly because I was HOPING to get a circumcision.Heh, still, you could have been wasting your time trying at least and see if it works :P> No clue how long that is going to takeMexican friend of mine is about your age (little older) and fixed a completely unretractable foreskin in less than that. Depends on the attitude, depends on diligence, and depends on how much the skin wants to cooperate.> I figured I'd try a little stretching to see if I could at least get half way downI think we've actually been telling you to, too! :P> and I was able to get both index fingers into my foreskin (well, sort of)Excellent! Three-four should be enough for retraction.> I can basically get about half way down when flaccid and you can see my feriliumFrenulum. And half way down is really cool, keep working on it.> around the urethra and the ferilium it is red and the urethra like puffs outSounds normal. Some people's urethra puckers like lips, some other people's is more "inwards".> would I be able to fully retract in the next 4 months if I spent 10 minutes or so with two index fingers up in there pulling outward/apart?Pretty likely -- in fact, spend some more minutes on it, for example when you start playing with it / masturbating / whatever ya wanna call it.> Would that ferilium pose a problem?Could, yah. But if you focus on that too, it will grow as well. Grasp the tip of the skin and pull it up (like, to cover your penis even more), as much as your frenulum allows. Hold it there for a couple minutes, just like when you're stretching the skin normally.> Should I just forget it and get a circumcision ASAP (god knows how long, I'm American).I don't see a reason not to try to fix it yourself, and I don't see why it wouldn't be fixable, either. Also, consider just having the frenulum separated or removed -- could fix pretty much all the problems and meanwhile you'll keep all the skin, the head covered (it's just not quite as comfortable with the head out as with it in), etc. Know two people who had the latter a while back, worked quite well for both.> it sucks being a sexy 18 year old male with an unusable penisAh come on > I would've had sex a LONG time ago if I wasn't so self-conscious about it (really its just embarrassing that its so different..)Keyword: self-conscious. I think you shouldn't be, but I'm aware that it's easier said than done.> Also, is it weird that at the base of my penis its thinner then the middle of my erect penis?Penises come in all shapes and sizes Sounds fine to me.Good luck
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thanks for the reply. I'll give it my best shot. GOD KNOWS I'm not totally for the snip but I feel like it'll be the only sure fire way to get myself in the game. :]
edit: Hmm, I can't seem to get my fingers unto the foreskin. I'm trying to but all I can really do is get the skin to roll over my fingers (the end of the skin still being on my head) and I can stretch that way but thats not going to get my head out. How should I get a finger into there? it seems to tight for that but I can get it almost half way down my head..
edit2: oh snap. I've heard of smegma but never actually seen it until now. I pulled back as far as I could and then used my finger to roll the skin further down around the uhh.. I forget what its called but I saw a little bit. then I roll skin down on the left side of my head and there was just like a batch of it. I rubbed some of it off. there must be a ton of it further down around the edge of the glands/under neath the glands. It doesn't smell all that bad, I don't know why I hear such a big deal about it. ~_~
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re: edit2: gahaha XD Yeah, my Mexican friend was like that about it. Well, with a little more practice you'll be able to wash it -- or, until then try this: pull out the skin on the bottom, and aim the shower head into it so it flushes stuff out inside. Alternatively, when in a safe place (i.e. shower), try to keep the tip closed with your fingers and fill it up with pee (and then of course, release) -- also helps a lot against smegma.> I don't know why I hear such a big deal about it.I don't either -- people seem to be scared shitless of it; and of cock smell.re: edit1: Well, the method I recommend is to just grab the tip of the skin and pull it out and pull it open -- kinda like you do with a sock when you want to put it on your foot. Of course fitting fingers into the skin is probably even more effective, but until one can do it, ya gotta look for other ways to stretch. But from what I understand, you can put the fingers into the skin, but not when the head is also between them -- obviously then you would be able to pull the skin behind the head, if you could... So try to pull the skin out (=up), insert a finger, and then slide the other finger next to it; that should work with a little practice, and the head won't be in the way either.