Am i obsessed?

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Im confused. Am i obsessed or am i in some sort of deep love?About a year ago i started to like this girl i met 2 years before. I really liked her, but i knew at the time she didnt feel the same way about me. So i kept trying to puch it out of my head, then about 8 months ago it came back, but i liked her more than before, we started talking, and we got really really close. i had heard from a very unrelyable friend of hers that she liked me aswell. She told me she liked me in a SMS Message on the way back from a school trip and then in summber break she asked me out. It went ok, but i got grounded by my parents for a week on the same day she asked me out, my parents keep to their word when they say im grounded so i had no choice but to only talk to her on msn. well, a week later she dumped me, then another week had passed she she was dating somone else, i still loved her and i had to start the awful process pushing her out of my head again.The whole getting over thing was goin well until we had a argument and i was so angry a threatened her. Quickly i apolagised but she ignored it. The next day i logged into msn and found out that she had convinced alot of her friends to ignore me and start spreading my phone number about. I started getting alot of SMS Messages and phone calls of abuse. i ignored them, and she asked if i was making her life hell enuf, i said yes, can u stop ppl from texting me. she said no and blocked me IIRC. anyways. she got dumped by her boyfriend and came to me strait afterwards. I thought maybe it was time to put everything behind us and listened to her talking, and she said she was sorrt for being a bitch towards me.Anyway. Here i am. i still like her the way i did when i dated her. i cant get over her. Am i obsessed?

It's been shown that being in love and having Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder have a lot of biochemical similarities, so perhaps there's no difference between being in love and being obsessed.The more important question is "what do I do?", and, given this girl's tendency to be nasty, I think the answer should be "nothing".

I'm not sure what you did to threaten her but spreading your number around and telling people to send you verbal/textual abuse is not cool. That said girls can be evil sometimes. When you break up with a girl and they know you still like them they tend to be extra nasty, especially if they don't know how to deal with you and are uncomfortable with the fact that you still like them. I'm not speaking out of experience or anything. Anyway, it depends on the situation, its really hard to separate emotion and be rational sometimes, especially if this all took place in a matter of weeks. Go with your gut if you like her and she treats you well. The second part is important, if she's nasty to you and you can't bring yourself to break up with her then you have a problem. Respect yourself foremost.

Call her a bitch, and tell her to piss off. Seriously. I don't care if she's sorry, no one should hand out your phone number like that, in fact, I'd tell her I recieve any more msgs or calls I'm charging her with harassment.A little aggressive perhaps, but nothing would annoy me more than randoms call me up and abusing me.

Originally Posted By: kmrobinsCall her a bitch, and tell her to piss off. Seriously. I don't care if she's sorry, no one should hand out your phone number like that, in fact, I'd tell her I recieve any more msgs or calls I'm charging her with harassment.A little aggressive perhaps, but nothing would annoy me more than randoms call me up and abusing me. Dont you think in my position that would seem a little harshe and be hard to say? We're pretty much really close friends and i couldnt do anything like that on purpose to anyone without constant annoying and abusive comments. The only threat i made to her was (and i remember this word for word) "If u dont stop im gonna smack ur head into a wall"Plus that was followed with "Im so sorry" , "I just lost my temper"Yeah she is pretty sweet and kind but she has this ability to just, change.

People change alot throughout their lives. Changing from a sweet girl you are friends with to crazy bitch is not normal though. I think you know your relationship better than anyone here, I'm sure you'll be fine if you just respect yourself as much as you respect her.

Your obviously nto close friends, if she is spreading your number and abusing you like that. You don't make the same mistake twice, thats like cutting of one arm and then doing it to the other. the answer is you stay away from her, shes poison. And when you amture some more you will see why you made the right choice, or wrong, but it's up to you what that choice is.

well first off, since you got 'really close' im suprised she liked you in the first place. no offense but whenever i get really close to a girl its usually a one way ticket to the friend zone.and second, she spread your phone number around? take some pictures of her snatch and send them to her grandparents. See how she likes it. What an evil bitch.