i am afraid of going down on a guy and handjobs, and i dont know why... but i have had sex and i have let them do thing to me, why would i be so afraid of giving oral? i dont have any reason it confuses me
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Phobia help
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i dont know o.x do you think it might be some psychological thing from the past, or do you just find it distugsting? even if its cool if they do it to you, and it just discomfrots you to do it to them?
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Ever consider your jsut simply not ready to do that yet? fuck you may not ever be ready. Dont be forced to do something yuor not comfortible with.
Id respect a girl alot mor that refused to do something she wasnt ready for than one that did it just to get it over with. -
I considered that too, I figured it didnt really matter if she was 13 or 30 since not ready is tto ready. Abstinence isnt realistic with kids anymore.
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Thats exactly why Im glad I had no daughters, the whole step daughter thing last summer when I called you fucked me up enough, I want to lock them both in a closet till they turn 30 or Im dead, what ever comes last.
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um...i am 18 and no its not something that happined in the past i cant really explian because i just dont understand it myself
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One theory I have is perhaps it's your unconscious bringing up learned behaviour. IE: The penis is dirty, you're a pervert for touching it, don't stick that in your mouth.Really it depends on what you define as fear: If you just don't like it, that's one thing; that's just distaste for it (You are not the only woman who doesn't like giving BJ's) If you happen to be irrationally afraid (Showing signs of distress, panic, etc) then that would be a true fear.You seem to be okay with having sex the conventional way; frankly that really doesn't fit in with the phobias I've seen (Granted, I don't have a copy of the DSM-IV handy, lol)
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I tend to agree with Hawker on this but let me ask a few more question or at least reiterate them.First, is this a "fear" you want to get over? Do you want to be able to do these things for your guy. If you do your going to have to isolate why you are afraid of doing it and set those fears to rest.Second, is this really a fear or, as Hawker suggested, is this just something you've been conditioned to find offensive and dirty or see as being deviant?Does the idea of sucking your guys dick disgust you?Does the idea of sucking your guys dick make you feel subjugated?Does the idea of sucking your guys dick make you feel like a whore?Does the idea of sucking your guys dick make you feel immoral?Does the idea of sucking your guys dick make you afraid it might get around or that someone may judge you for having done it?These are all just questions for thought. Do you think any of them apply to you?I assume you want to get passed whatever it is that's keeping you from engaging in and enjoying oral sex. If that's what you want then your going to have to find the root of your fear. Think about it and let us know, that's if you want more constructive advice.