my bf and i started haveing sex like 3-4 months ago....he likes sex and i like it too the thing is that im always feaked that im goning to get pregnant or something bad is going to happen and that i will have to deal with it alone....i know he loves me but he zones me out when im talking to him about what we would do if we got pregnant or if something else happened...he will just kinda stare out the window and try to change the subject...its different when im telling him that im scared....he cares that im scared and trys to listen kinda but he basicly will hold me and tell me that everything is fine....i just feel like im handeling the stress on my own...cuz he will hold me and tell me not to be worried but it sill feels like hes not listening to me...that hes just on auto pilot trying to make me feel better, and sometimes i feel like he does that just to get me to stop talking about it. im turning 18 in a few months and i want to stop haveing sex for a wile, (cuz after im 18 i dont think that my parents would mind the whole situation then i would have them as more of a support system on this issue)...like i wouldent mind doing stuff other than that in the meantime...like oral and other sexual acts...just not sex....but im really scared that it will screw up our relationship. i dont think that it will if we can stop without it being wierd...just so the stuff that we do other than sex....im really scared and freaked out and to make it worse i went to planparenthood to get a pelvic today cuz down there has been goin a little haywire for a bit (as those of you know who have read my previous posts in female genitalia)...and i have bacterial vaginosis and a yeast infection, not due to sex but to being in chlorinated water many times a week for extended periods of time (for work)...and they billed my parents insurance for the meds they gave me..im so scared that my parent r gonna bring it up...i prolly could make an excuse such as i was embaresed and my friend said that planparenthood could check without telling my parents...and that wut i had was due to chlorien...they would believe me...and its part of the truth...i just am really freaked and feel alone...as soon as i got out of the apointment i called my bf and i started crying.....i felt fine till i started talking to him, i just made me really sad cuz i knew i couldent talk to him about all the stuff that i wanted to and was scared about cuz he wouldent be able to respond cuz he was at home or he would just zone me out again...so i got off the phone and was really upset and scared so i called my best friend and cryed to her and she made me feel better...cuz she actually listened and responded and told me help full thing not just "ur fine"...i just dont know what i should do....please help, i really need advise
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Im really really scared
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Ill tell ya what you dont want to hear.Lose the BF.He isnt capable of providing the attention and meaning in a relationship that a relationship is really about.I only zoned out on girls that I didnt want to hear and didnt give a shit about. If what you wnat is a stable, loving, relationship with someone that cares about you for more than some dick wetting, your with the wrong person.
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see if talked to him about it and he said that he knows he does that and that he's sorry... thats how he deals with stress...i can tell hes trying...and i just talked to him he said he was fine with stoping haveing sex as long as i needed to so i know im not just a sex toy to him... im not going to leave him....im just worried that hes not mature enough to handel this type of thing therefor we should stop haveing sex?...i dunno...im so confused
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If thats how he deals with the stress of just talking about pregnancy, I'm curious to see what he's like if it actually happens!
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Thats nto dealing with stress, thats avoiding it, or not dealing with it.Thats putting you off and keeping his sex around for a bit longer while she brightens up and realizes hes a piece of shit.Trust me on this, Iv been around a bit. Shit Iv been that boy a few times
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don't be scurred lol just use protection and be safe=)
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Every time people have sex, there is almost always the possiblity of pregnancy. It seems that these days, either the mother or father of the child is not fit for being a parent. You have a good reason to be scared.Is there something you can do about it? Well, he can use a condom and you can go onto some form of birth control.You're both pretty young. He may just not know what to say about such a thing. I can see why some would imply that he would not be a person to be with as far as a child is concerned. If he gets silent about such a conversation or just tries to change the subject, it is quite possible that he doesn't want to be attached to you in such a committed way.
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hey everyone,i just got off the phone with him...and i explained everything to him..like about y i was scared, and how i was worried that if i got pregnant he would flip out and not be there as emotional support for me, or just would be all weird and couldent handel it. i basicly told him everything that i was feeling that i already put in this post im inclind to agree with websexinfo on that Quote:You're both pretty young. He may just not know what to say about such a thing....he helped me understand a bit more on y he just lookes out the window and seems to be trying to change the subject, its just that he cant look ppl in the eye when they r on an uncomfortable subject, but his intention is not to change the subject...it made me feel better to understand a bit more....i am on bc pills and we use condoms....it just that alot of shit has all hit at once in the past month in a half and the added possibilty of my life goignt o hell in a handbasket over something as preventable as pregnancy was just the straw that broke this camels back so to speek...i feel better about the situation now...but i still think im gonna take a break from sex...cuz i flat out told him that i needed to talk about this stuff more b4 i am comfortable starting up again...he said that he is perfectly fine with it and wants me to be happy and feel safe.....i just wish i had a crystal ball or something that would tell me how things will turn out