"If its annulled, it officially never took place, the marriage license ceasts to exist and they were in fact, never married."So if the marriage is non-existant, what is being disolved?Also, anyone know is an annullment from the church automaticallyaccompanied by a divorce in the legal sense?
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Marriage
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It exists until it's anulled, after which it doesn't and has never existed. It's interesting that you have to take some action to make someting that doesn't exist not exist. I guess if a spouse has a marriage license in hand, the other spouse needs a piece of paper that shows that the license is null and void.
It would probably be much more difficult to get a legal anullment if children are involved, but not impossible. The children would revert to the state they would have been in if their parents had never gotten married.
Religious anullments are another issue. How they're handled depends on the chuch. What a church recognizes and what the state recognizes are two different things.
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Quote:Hypothetical situation: A 30 year old woman and a 30 year old man got married 10 years ago. In the last 5 years of their marriage, both man and wife are unhappy.In your opinion, should they remain together or get divorced?Since you asked, my opinion is they should get divorced. I think life is too short to remain in a relationship that is causing you to be unhappy. I guess the problem with my opinion on this is I do not surround marriage with an idea of romanticism and sacredness that it seems most others do.I think change is the only constant in this world. Therefore, who you married 10 years ago may not be the same person you are married to today. Personality change isn't as abrupt when people are wise; wisdom tends to come with age.This is the root of my theory to the reason why many young couples that marry do not last very long. Perhaps their personalities are perfect for each other when they first come together. I think the problem is that young adults tend to go through a stage of finding themselves, and in the process many changes occur. With enough changes comes personality change.In the scenario I've given, the couple is 30 when they have found each other. In this case, personality change may not be as abrupt... but it still happens.
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At 31, I feel much wiser. I feel much more solid. I am in an interesting relationship now. We click on a more grounded level, there is less "infatuation" and more, genuine concern for the "rights and wrongs" of living. There is more respect for each other. Sex, money, wanting kids is not what this one is about. Our goals, are more realistic.Having married at 16 and again at 21, I think I did it, because of the emotional high I was on, more than I did it for "life partner". Though, I thought both would be. Time, I do beleive, does/can bring wisdom and with it, more informed, more solid choices are made. Many people just assume, that once the marriage is official, they are just gonna be together forever. Too many do not realize the compromises that MUST be made for it to last forever.If only one realizes, it is doomed prima facie. It is but a given that the one who DOES sacrifice, will get tired of being the only one working on it, and the one who does not, will wonder what the heck happened...
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That's a wise post in itself.
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You may be correct, but convince young lovers of that!
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Young lovers are more often to hear than listen. Haha. If the relationship is going well, then I wouldn't have much to say anyway.Enjoying your time with each other is what it's all about. In my opinion that's regardless of being married or not.
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I am one to always wish the best of luck. I am always disheartened to see a good thing fall apart. Yet, if I hadn't been through my own experience, I wouldn't appreciate what I have now nearly as much...Though, his ex wife is gonna get her come uppins here real soon!! lol
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Originally Posted By: JapanFan14to me when I see my mom and dad and my sis and her fiance I adore marriage. it's like.. this official bondage of love between a man and a woman. Why does marriage only have to be between a man and woman. Why can't it just be between two people?
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People have their ideas of what marriage is appropriate for and what it is not. In my opinion, if it's two human beings and the two of you want to get married then go head and do it. I won't stop you. It doesn't have to be between a man and a woman. That is recognized in a growing number of states as we speak.