Recieving oral.

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Ok so I have posted before, that the only way I can achieve an orgasm with my boyfriend is during oral. He never learned to use his hand, and shows no interest in it (he fingers/teases me, but never to an orgasm). I have also explained before, that I rarely get an orgasm, because he does not do oral very often. Which is fine, since I last posted a thread about it, he has been taking more intiative to try and please me. However what has been bothering me and turning me off completely is that he doesn't seem to enjoy oral at all. It's gotten to the point where I can't really even orgasm, because all I can think about is him not enjoying it. He never seems to have any enthusiasm about giving oral and once he gets down there he doesn't do any teasing or anything. I have asked him before to spend some time teasing me, instead of going straight to it. Even if we have been naked and fooling around before oral, I still like some teasing etc before he goes straight to it, because it just doesn't feel great. He also appears to have a hard time breathing during oral (large nose or something - gets in the way). So I will ask him if he's ok etc. Normally when we are doing oral, it is on the bed. I'm lying down with a sheet over me and he's down there etc. I think it would make breathing easier for him if he wasn't under a sheet but he keeps his room like a freezer. The window is open and fan is on etc. I am a very cold person, all the time, where as he is always warm. When I take the sheet off I shiver (there is no orgasm coming lol) because I'm naked and its cold. He also complains about being uncomfortable. It hurts him to give oral in the position where I lay on the bed and he's laying down too etc. Which is fine, but the only other place we can do it at is with me sitting on a couch (this is rarely too, we're not let alone often). He is uncomfortable during this too. One more thing, he doesn't like the taste of me, and I really don't know what to do about it. He doesn't ever really volunteer to give oral, I have to ask. I don't ask him to give me oral after sex, and I don't ask him to give me oral unless I've just shaved that day. Sometimes he complains that even when I shave, the tiny bit of hair irritates his skin. I am very clean, I shower daily, sometimes more than once. I always make sure to wash down there. I don't ask him to give me oral, when I've just had my period or I'm a few days away from having it. I eat a fairly balanced diet too. I try to eat some fruit before having oral, I heard that helps. He tries to tell me that he doesn't mind the taste, but if you saw the look on his face . I was thinking about maybe trying flavored lube. I personally like the taste of me, I always kiss him after oral etc. Basically I am at the point where I don't even want him to give me oral at all. It has just become something that makes me very uncomfortable, because I know he doesn't like it.

I am not sure how much help I'll be with many of these areas considering I'm a gay man lol, BUT I might be able to give some advice on some of the positions that might be more comfortable for your BF.One is you lay at the edge of the bed with you legs spread and have him kneel down on the floor in front of the bed, this should give him full access without much strain to him.You can also simply try putting a pillow under your bottom; it'll help lift you slightly off the bed again giving him more access.As for the taste, i think you suggested a good idea with the flavored lubes Sorry if I wasn’t much help, but good luck to you

As a straight man Ill tell you that the best, or atleast my favorite postiion for this is to lay on my back and have her straddle my head. My ears stay warm from her thighs, she can grind down or pul laway as much as she likes, it opens it up some so you can lick it easier, if you r into it it leaves her asshole explosed to licking, and it puts her head right down by your dick. Its natural to start sucking it if its already there, even if he doesnt ask for it, your already there may as well return the favor.

I dotn knwo how well that would work out for gay guys, but it works for me and a woman.

Originally Posted By: GrvtykllrI dotn knwo how well that would work out for gay guys, but it works for me and a woman. A good position for gay males when it comes to Riming, otherwise you have to lower and angle your body some for a BJ.

Thanks for the advice. We do 69 sometimes, it just doesn't do anything for getting me close to an orgasm. However it turns him on a lot, so I like it because of that, I have given him an orgasm from it. But I doubt I'd be able to orgasm from it, at least not from him anyways, never been with any one else so I wouldn't know lol.

Keep trying the 69 and encourage him...he should, after some practice, get just as good at it in the position GravityKiller mentioned. Then, since you're pleasuring him at the same time, there's no reason to feel guilty about him not enjoying it. Tell him you're his own personal musical instrument and you want him to learn how to play you.

Originally Posted By: thorKeep trying the 69 and encourage him...he should, after some practice, get just as good at it in the position GravityKiller mentioned. Then, since you're pleasuring him at the same time, there's no reason to feel guilty about him not enjoying it. Tell him you're his own personal musical instrument and you want him to learn how to play you. I'll try. I think it has something to do with how his tongue touches my clit at that angle etc. It's just not good, then having so hold myself up, and focusing on him takes away from getting close to an orgasm. I like 69, it turns me on, I like making him happy etc, but it really doesn't do much for me lol. Hopefully I get this worked out.

in the postion I described I dont want my woman holding herself up, fuck that shit let it get smashed right down onmy fucking face, grind that shit into my mouth and head. Thats aprt of the reason I like that position.

Originally Posted By: Grvtykllrin the postion I described I dont want my woman holding herself up, fuck that shit let it get smashed right down onmy fucking face, grind that shit into my mouth and head. Thats aprt of the reason I like that position. Hmm maybe I've been doing it wrong lol. I always hold myself up. Who knows.

Fuck it, grind that shit into his face and drown him in the shit. If he complains, fart in his face and tell him to be a fucking man and eat that shit.Half the time Im grabbing her ass and pulling it tighter against my face.

Wait a minute...are we talking about scatology?

I think you mean coprophilia?Scatology is the study of feces.

In one sentence, "shit" was mentioned three times, as well as "fart". Then he mentioned grabbing her ass and pullling it tighter to his face.Sounds like scatology to me, which in a sexual context, "refers to sexual acts conducted with human (or other) excrement."

uhhhhermmmmm.Nonor was i talking about eating shit. I was simply talking and using shit as a fun word to say. Im pretty open to new, sick, disturbed, kinky shit, but I dont cross that poop line. No poop for Chance, no fucking guys or being fucked by guys either. Anything else Im pretty much open to trying atleast once if its what gets her off.to make it plain and simple to understand, I am NOT Cartmans mom

Damnit...From Merriam-Websters dictionary: Coprophilia 1;marked interest in excrement; especially : the use of feces or filth for sexual excitement Scatology1 : interest in or treatment of obscene matters especially in literature 2 : the biologically oriented study of excrement (as for taxonomic purposes or for the determination of diet)

You call ti what ever you like, correct, incorrect, I dont care, just remember to not associate my name with poop, unless its shit talking or a fart joke.

Princeton's WordNet's first definitition for scatology: a preoccupation with obscenity (especially that dealing with excrement or excretory functions) That seems pretty fitting.In psychology, and obsession with poop, according to the dictionaries, is "scatology".That also seems pretty fitting.The colloquial term for playing with poop for sexual excitement is "scat" (not copro).Technically, coprophilia is a better choice if you're strictly talking about poop (or "filth") for sexual excitement. However, scatology is fine, and most people will know what you're talking about.

Steve, are you going to make me go to the DSM-IV? In either case; let's agree to leave Gravity Killer and his coprophobia out of this, lol.

Hey you can even have a theme song associated with your scatology... Scat Man

OK Im curious, so Im going to click that link, but first I have to say, I am not into poop !Im all for kinky twisted disturbed sexual cravings and Im probally willing to go further across the line than most people, but I have a definate line drawn that I wont cross at the poop in sex part.No poop.None.NONE!Im willing to indulge any sick fantasy she has, atleast one time, right up till we get to it invovling shit, or me and another guy. then Im outta there.Now I have to go click your link because, hey, it might be something really horrid I can send to a buddy and fuck with im to a greater degree than you bastages (I love Johnny Dangerously) are fucking with me, you Fargin Iceholes.Im very disapointed, I was hoping for somethign disturbing and disgusting.and I prefer scatman Crothers, I especially liked him in The Shining (original film with Jack, he was over the top and it was perfect !) the remake with the guy from wings, pfffft, the original though gave me fucking nightmares, especially the naked old lady. The twins were creepy, but that fucking old lady naked inteh tub, jesus jumped up fucking christ, it still gives me the shivers.