im feeling really happy, but confusedi have a new girlfriend, to be honest the first real girlfriend ive ever had (ive had plenty of one night things and when i was 12 i had a few 'online gfs' but considering i was 12 i dont really count it) shes so beautiful, and i love being around her, but, there are a few issues-for one thing, we go to the same school. She is in atleast one of my lessons every day, in fact mostly 2 or more a day. Plus im around her all of lunch, we go home the same way, we go to the same club on friday nights, im gonna be around her a lot. How do i make sure us being together so much doesnt ruin things?and plus, we where good friends for ages. very close friends. when i first got to know her i never thought id get this far- i fell into the geeks trap of having no way of talking to a girl except for telling loads of jokes, and then discovering that this would land me a spot right in the friend zone. But then in the past few weeks, i tried being more aloof. If she started babbling a little id flat out ignore her. And i wouldnt laugh out loud at her jokes unless they where really funny. Then the other day we where sitting on a bench waiting for the train and i kissed her. It was magical- we havent made out yet though, just lots of tender kisses.i really want this to last, but how do i make sure it does? i play it cool around her but im worrying. any advice is welcome.-max
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Congratulations, Max! I'm very happy for you!Now I'm looking for the day when you realise you can just be yourself and that's plenty good enough.
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the only advice i can think of is be yourself hon, seriously, trying too hard is the only thing i can think of that will ruin things......beleive in yourself, its YOU who she likes, not someone you might pretend to be, its YOU who she likes being with not someone else, YOU. Enjoy being together and who you are when you are with her.
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one more thing id like to add....just be honest...dont play mind games....they get messy really fast...and as far as the makeing sure being together so much dosent ruin things....dont just focus on being physical and lovey dovey all of the time make sure to preserve the friendship aswell...its important to be friends with your lover aswell as just lovers...thats wut will get you through rough patches in the relationship...which every relationship will encounter...and also a bit of long term advise...if you 2 get into an argument...dont say things out of anger...cuz there are somethings that you just cant take back after they have been said...so basicly just be honest and be yourself :)....good luck too you