Ok well my girlfriend and i have been talking about it for a while now and we are going to have sex. We are both virgins and i just really want it to be good for her, i know that the girls 1st time normally hurts her, But is there anyway of significantly recuding that? I mean of course i would be REALLY careful with her. Regarding lube. Is there anything i can use thats like around the house? Like moisturiser or something? Dont piticularly want to go into a shop and buy KY Jelly or anything...ANY suggestions would be much appriciated.Thanks
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First time
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The most important thing is lots of time spent beforehand, so she is comfortable, relaxed, and horny.
Unless you are larger than usual, natural lubrication should be enough. I would be careful what sort of stuff you put inside her. However a condom is a must, and if you can buy them, you should be able to buy some KY.
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Thanks for your help mate, nah im not bigger than usual so you recon natrual lube is enough?Anyone else with suggestions?
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You can help reduce the pain through fingering, working your way up from 1-2 fingers. That'll help prime the area and help her become more sexually aroused too.And for gods sake, don't forget the oral sex!If she is horny enough, there should be enough natural lubrication to keep things running smooth. However, pick up lubricated condoms anyways. Lastly, don't be afraid to use extra lubricant; also I'd recommend "O'my" over K-Y.
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I'm in agreement with Ineligible. Certainly you're going to use a condom and since you have to go to the pharmacy to get those, why not pick up lube while you're there? Hawker's points are good, too, but I vote for plenty of lube. Natural is best, but I'd be prepared with the synthetic lube as well. You don't want to ruin a good evening.
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to ur first question, regarding makeing it easyer for her id even work up to 3fingers when fingering to strech...my bf did that and it was still pretty damn tight the first time, ummm and personally for me, it helped my relax and be less nervious because he was talking to me and wispering in my ear...and basicly just made me feel safe....therefor i didnt tensen up as much and it was less uncomfortable. to your second question as far as lube around the house, spit is a good natural lubricant if things get dry....because she may be focusing on the everything thats going on that she may dry up a bit so i would actually have to recoment a little extra lube beond just her natural jucies....if you dont have any other option besides just her natural stuff...then if you can get her to orgasm a few times it will be wet enough down there to water the sahara...lol. but if all else fails use spit....one big no no though:....do not use oil based lubes like hand lotion or patrolium jelly...they can damage the condome then u both might run into some unintended conciquesces
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That's a great point about not using petroleum based lubes with a condom. It a recipe for failure. Be very careful about the stuff you put inside her. Use the lubes intended for the purpose. If you're mature enough for sex, it shouldn't be a problem to make the proper preparations: condom and personal lubricant.
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Cheers guys, well i already have condoms but i think ill run down to the pharmacy and pick up some KY just incase. Thanks alot