What do you do when your parent (singular) tries to control something in your life that is truly your own decision to make, and it has to be your heart involved, but they try to overrule something or disallow you to make that decision because they are your parent?This is in regards to dating someone.I asked a friend about this, and she asked... why one parent, and can they really stop me. my reply is below. it is one parent, because one is dominant the other recessive (just kidding about the recessive part, lol) but yah...and honestly, can they relaly stop me? yes and no... they can stop me now, but they wont be able to stop me in the future. it just makes it really hard for right now if they try to restrict me / stop me now.any help or advice?
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Parent and their "involvement" (or control)
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I understand you are 17, anondude. Will you be able to make your own decision at 18, or will it have to wait until you are financially completely independent?
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Ineligible, I am actually 18. It's been a while since I actually posted on this site (the time that i mentioned that i was 17). I really value my relationship with this parent (and both for that matter) so I don't want to just go out right and leave the house just because I don't agree on this one issue. Morals and family values are very important to me, so I dont want to sacrifice those things. And again, I dont really want to be completely independent either, even though I am easily financially capable of doing so.-anondude
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Thats really strange. It sems they are being overprotective adn dont want their "little child" to grow up.
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Unfortunately it's quite common that parents have trouble letting go, Thatguy. It's often worst for the youngest. Guys can try growing a beard to make it harder to be classified as "their baby", but often the only solution is to leave home.In any case, leaving home is something that should be done eventually. In my opinion, anondude, there's nothing immoral or against family values to leave home when you are capable of doing so. It's what is supposed to happen, and I think it's unhealthy to stay in the nest when you are capable of flying. I don't believe it's right to give up a serious relationship solely because parents don't like it. If they have serious reasons against it, let them be heard and considered.My wife has a female relative whose father never let her date, just so he had someone at home to cook and clean and look after him - which she did until he died in his late nineties. I don't consider that acting appropriately as a parent.
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I would approach both of my parents and have an intelligent discussion. Think about what they say. If you find that they are being unreasonable and they're on some kind of "parent power trip", then move out.
I moved out when I was 18. I'm sure you'll even like living away from the parents soon enough.
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Originally Posted By: websexinfoI would approach both of my parents and have an intelligent discussion. Think about what they say. If you find that they are being unreasonable and they're on some kind of "parent power trip", then move out.I moved out when I was 18. I'm sure you'll even like living away from the parents soon enough. Sorry, its been a while since I posted this, but I thought I'd come back and reply to it again. The "powertrip" or whatever isnt both of my parents. It's just my mom. They are married and NOT divorced, and my dad thinks that my mom tries to be really overprotective sometimes, but I try to deal with it. Do i get to do the things I want to do? yeah sometimes. My mom doesnt approve of my girlfriend, even though she has really high morals and she's almost perfect. My dad and family think she's awesome though.And no, I don't want to move out when I'm 18, or before I go into college. College is so close that that really wouldn't be worth it. I think that sometimes I just have to stick up for myself when the time comes (sometimes) in order to get what I want or get something that will benefit me and is good for me.Thanks for the comments btw guys =D