I feel horrible about what I'm about to say, but it's the truth and I cannot help the way I feel. My brother married a crazy, psycho bitch a couple of years ago and when she came into the picture so did her two bratty kiddos (one little boy and one girl). Needless to say, their marriage has been one wild rollercoaster ride from the get go and several alarming thing have taken place over the last couple of years (such as the lying skanky whore cheating, trying to stab my brother several times with a knife on numerous occasions, and so on), but we've learned to deal with it and except his choice in staying with her, there's really nothing we can do right? Well my problem is not just her, but her annoying kids! I detest the little assholes! They have no manors, they have no respect for other people, and they no tact what so ever! The boy I can kind of stand, but the girl, I could rip her hair out! I mean I'm nice to them, I treat the fairly and lovingly (although on the inside I don't want to) and although I don't like them, I treat them as though I do. I love children, but these two I cannot seem to like because they're hellions and they destroy anything that is not their own, and gah, I don't know how to explain it. What kills me the most is the fact that they adore me and I can't even fathom a way to make myself 'like' much less 'love' them and I feel like a complete asshat because of that...
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I feel bad about how I feel...
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Why the fuck would you feel bad about how you feel towards a woman thats done all this shit?Fuck her.The kids are her fault, its how they were raised.It may nto make it thier fault, but its them who have to suffer with thier behavior and how ti affects them socially.Thers alot of assholes inteh world, maybe its not thier fault they are that way, but it doesnt mean you have to like the fuckers.Wanna feel bad about hwo you feel?fell bad about hating someone because of the color of thier skin, or what music they listen to or because they are muslim instead of christians. Dont feel bad about hating someone because of thier actions.
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Oh, I don't feel bad for hating my slut-in-law, I just kind of feel bad for disliking her kids because, well, they're kids.
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They are, but even if its not thier fault they are rotten bastards, they still are rotten bastards.I hate people because of who they are, I never feel bad about it.FUCK EM, if they see the error in how they are they can change if they so choose, I simply encourage them to see what a piece of shit they are and then they are better able to make the choice to be something else.
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maybe yoru family has to make it clear to her that her and her kids are not welcome in your presence until they clean up their behaviour.
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Katie,I understand what you're feeling. Unfortunately, the children are a product of their environment. They act out that way because of poor parenting skills. At that age, they are huge little sponges absorbing everything that is said and they are really a mirror image of what they have been taught and learned.Youre much stronger than I am about keeping opinions to yourself. I'm one to just get it out there and hope they understand that is just how I am. I don't think you can do anything about their relationship except lend him a shoulder when needed or to help him hide the body. It's okay to tell him your concerned about him and don't like her but make it known that the kids behavior is out of line and as a parent he should be helping to control them and teach them manor and respect. If she won't let him discipline the kids then I would make it clear that they are not welcomed at family gatherings unless he comes by himself. That is where the family has to come together.As for you and the kids, I would recommend that when they act out or do something wrong, call them out on it and explain to them what they did wrong. Let them know if it happens again give them some kind of consequences like you'll make sure they don't get to watch TV or no desert or they will have to go to bed early. I would take it upon yourself to parent them. If their crazy bitch mother says anything tell her you are sorry, but someone needs to parent the kids so they don't turn out like her. Parents should be role models. It's difficult to do sometimes but knowing that helps keep you focused.I would let your brother know what your intentions will be and ask for his support if the crazy bitch starts to dump on you.Good luck and let me know what happens. I'm here if you need to talk.
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Well, Katie, there is NOTHING you can do while the kids are with them, however, everyone has "house rules", I am a mean bitch I suppose, but EVERY child, who comes to my home, is told what the rules are.Basically they are also informed, that if the house rules aren't fallowed, they can't be in my house. Too often, a kid finds themself sitting on my stoop crying, begging to be let in because I "kick em out" THEN, I break out the ice cream, and video games, and basically torture the goof, mean while, the "bad" kid, get his reward of PB and J's and water. Since everything in life is earned, it works LOVELY. Eventually they learn to respect you, and they EARN it, and the fun stuff you have to offer. (Just have to remember to do the cool stuff when everyone has been good too)
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Well I was honored with the chance to babysitt the little pricks and since I've been feeling a little bit bitchy and on the ill side I got fed up very quickly! I asked the oldest child, my neice, to clean up the floor in the bathroom like her mother had asked me to have her do sometime during the day while she was at work. Well things were going smoothly for a few moments and then she decided to throw a walleyed fit and I hit the roof! I said "No, no, no! I do not think so young lady, I'm am not your damn dog and I will not be treated like that! You are 9 years old, and you are by no means an adult, and I will not having you acting like a little fool trying to throw tantrums while around me. Your momma may put up with it, but I'm not, so either you suck it up and do what you need to do or you are really going to see my mean streak and do not think I'm playing with you because I'm not" and then I stood in the doorway until she did what she had to do and then she had her butt on the couch and all her 'fun time' taken away until her mom came home. I was fed up!!! My nephew decided he didn't want to get on my bad side so he was actually an angel for the rest of the day
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That sounds like it would put the fear of God in anyone.
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That is great Katie! :smile: I think you handled the situation very well.
I always let my kids know that the babysitter is the boss and what she says goes. That mom should do the same for her kids.
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Way to go Katie! I have one of those kids, not for my raising, but I guess genetics. She is not going on a feild trip this week, (because she wouldn't bring home the permission slip) and she has to earn a ball back that she popped when she wasn't supposed to be playing, AND she has a dozen eggs to "pay" for because she raided the hen house at my bosses, and threw the eggs. She isn't going to have fun for a WHILE... SOOOO, I totally get where your at, thank god they aren't yours though! It is a tough gig to have hard headed kids EVERY DAY!I was blessed with one angel, and one .... well, Satan was an angel too huh?
