Ive had enough.

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of my shitty relationship with my girlfriend. i know i posted a topic about this but id rather make a new one because its a different issue really. Im tired of being pussy-whipped and im tired of feeling like the girl in the relationship. Im a guy and i dont like being walked all over or ignored by someone i trust my heart with.So, first thing on monday when i see her im gonna tell her off. Im going to tell her that im sick of putting in all the work in this relationship, and having her do nothing. And that i want it to work but things have to change or we can end it now. However, i feel like when i do say this shell either give me a look like im an idiot, or say whatever or some shit like she always does. I honestly dont know why shes still with me, she ignores my myspace comments, never talks to me on msn, gives me the cold shoulder at school, i have to initiate any physical intimacy and when i do she usually ends it quickly in an 'ugh he wants to kiss me again, better make it quick' manner. To be honest i see it clearly now. She told me a while ago she was definetly going to sleep with me, but in 26 days (at the time it was 26) at our friends party. I guess this put pressure on me to keep the relationship going which was actually corrossive to things. If i left things as they are, she'd probably cheat on me, or just dump me or wait for me to dump her. I guess im taking a gamble with this but its death or glory. And a word of advice to women- if your going to cancel on plans, just cancel on them. This girl is 'cleverly' avoiding sleeping with me as she promised, shes changed her mind and lost attraction to me i guess, by saying she 'may be unable' to come to the party. Of course shes keeping it maybe to avoid suspicion but when the time comes she will say 'turns out i cant come, sorry'. This kind of lie is the most transparent one imaginable. You're better off telling me you have to go on a rocket ship journey that day while looking at your shoes and stammering a lot. Anyway i know it isnt appreciated that i post so many threads but im serious about this- i simply want everyones opinion. Am i doing the right thing? Does it even seem possible to salvage? Thank you in advance.-max

I'm going to continue to give you free advice cos I'm kickin' rad - despite you seeming to ignore it.Get rid of her now. She's NOT worth it. I know a guy JUST like you who was with a girl but he wouldn't let her go despite him not having seen or spoken to her for FIVE weeks.Every time she spoke to him, it was usually "I'm busy will call you later" which would put him in a security blanket and he'd feel all loved again. She never called him, but because she even spoke to him he was content, because he didn't want to be alone.At least when you're alone there's only yourself to put yourself down. Not yourself and some self-indulgent bitch who couldn't care less about your feelings.Call her up. Tell her it's over. Tell her it's her loss and that you should have done it ages ago. Then if you wanna be really harsh ask if any of her mates are single that are going to that party!Don't listen to anything she has to say. In fact, I suggest that once you've got your point across you hang up immediately so that she can't get a word in - no doubt she will try some evil female manipulation. If she calls back (which she will only do if you've really bugged her) then don't answer back.Ignore her from then on. Don't accept any opportunities to get back with her with promise that she will try harder. It wont happen.

Africa, sadbuttrue is damn right.I don't want to sound mean, but.. What the hell is the matter with you? Doesn't it suck though? A kick in the nuts. Having you give it your all, only to be circumsized by a selfish, not appreciative, not knowing bitch. She has no time for you? Shit, then why should you have anytime for her?Women, (not all, but most, and I appologize right now if I affend any women in here..) work their little satan magic and talk all impressive to their friends and know they can walk all over a guy like you. They are probably laughing at you right now. No matter how good a girl can play a game, a guy can play it 10X better, and that's a fact. That's if your willin to dance. The most important thing to a guy is his pride, and this is a situation where you do NOT toss it away. You play this chick with everything you got, and I'll bet the house she'll crawl back on her hands and knees. It's ok to be miserable sometimes, it's up to you whether to inflict that anger into play.Hope you grow a pair, and stand up for yourself and let your prescence known that you aren't a ragdoll. Go for it

well, i dumped her. and, just as was predicted she wants me back. this is confusing- i mean if i abstain from going back out with her, i keep my pride, but i dunno...part of me still likes her.

Keep your pride. If you give in, it will say that you have a weak will. Keep your balls hanging, and don't take her back.

STRONGLY agreed.She's just feeling annoyed because you did it before she got the chance, which makes her seem like the one at fault - which is true.If she had got the chance to do it to you, she would be straight to her mates who she would then make up stories about you to.Pretty soon everyone thinks you're weird and no-one will go out with you.She will still make these stories up even now that you took action, but you will retain credability. And as long as you don't resort to the same tactics, you will seem like a respectful dude.I sincerely hope you manage to stay strong. By getting back together with her you are basically signing away your dignity.I'm proud of you!

Well said!!

Kudos to you bro. Way to keep true to yourself by not getting treated as a doormat. Again, kudos.

Well said sadbuttrue ! Africa in time you will find someone that you will like just as much if not more. And you will see what a real relationship should be like.

Good luck !

yepp...i do really regret not having slept with her though. i do feel like im missing out there.

I know how you feel, but you have to remember that she more than likely would have left you straight away, and you'll have regretted that you'll have done it with such a manipulative person.Now YOU have the choice with whomever may appear in the future, and now know that you need to be confident in yourself and the relationship to be happy.Just stay headstrong and don't let people walk all over you. You've taken a massively positive step here. You've done way better than I ever did. Keep it up!

yeah, i wont lie though. i didnt dump her and leave it be. she texted me saying she loved me and needed me to love her. i did try to talk to her about things- and by the end of it she was like 'ugh stop begging'just before you get too proud of me...but oh well the point is we're not getting back together so its for the best

hunni, you can do waaay better than her. come to newfoundland :wink: :eyes:

What? Afirca was with someone worse than a Newfie?? Wow, good move dumping her!

DOOOOSH!

Just buzz'n ya! I love Newfies!

damn straight! im just so lovable ^_^