Bullying problem....

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I'm new to my school and I'm having the worst time fitting in. I know a few kids who I thought were my friends earlier in the year but now they completely ignore me. I'm getting bullied by some other kids who I could probably take in a fight but the thing is, I already got suspended this year for fighting because I snapped. The kid was younger than me so that only added to the list of things to make fun of me about.

The kids in my grade who bully me were making fun of how I walk, talk, and act. Everyone thinks I'm gay even though I'm not. They make fun of the way I wear my clothes and everyone ignores me (even my teachers). I usually have nowhere to sit at lunch because everyone says that seats are taken even though no one is sitting there yet. I try to defend myself but its too overwhelming. One more fight and I WILL get expelled.

I'm sick of this and I really just wanna leave this new town and go kill myself. I'm sick of trying to fit in and trying to stand up for myself. I want to just finish middle school and high school and go to college and get on with my life, but this is holding me back. I already noticed my grades slipping and me struggling with focusing on my homework since I fear going to school every damn day. I faked sick before out of not wanting to face the people at school. I used to enjoy school but now I hate it and no it's not because of homework and tests.

Anyone that can help me deal with this would be great. Oh and going to a teacher to snitch isn't going to help my case!

I feel sad for you. I absolutely hate bullying. More than just about anything in the world.Bullying is about power. They have power over you in some way. Sometimes it's physical. A lot of times it's social. The trick is to find a way to stand in your own power. That's not something that comes with a formula. And as helpful as the good folks on this board might be or want to be, we don't know you enough to tell you how to do that.So...my advice...Is there a counselor in your school or someone that could help you navigate through this? It wouldn't be like snitching to a teacher (although I am a big fan of that too. that's a way to have power on your side...remember, it's all about power)...it would just be having someone who you can help to understand the situation and who will have the wisdom/insight/education to help you strategize and figure out how to approach it all.Don't let these jerks get you off track. You deserve a good school experience as much as any of them. Maybe even more. Find your balls! Find your power! Wield it like a sword!

Is there any clubs or after school activities you can join in your school ? Is there any sports you enjoy ? you can try to join a team in your school ? That would be a start to make some friends with similar interests to yours ! Also, you are right in not wanting to fight them, whoever bullies you is itching for a reaction from you, whether it be fear or fighting back, that is what the bullies expect from you. Don't show any fear ! Try the unexpected...If they swear and act mean towards you, turn around and say something nice to them, that will certainly confuse them ! Bullies feed on their "victim's" fear ! That is a way of showing their "superiority" when i reality they are very insecure and feel that the only way they will get attention is by acting tough !When you show them that you don't care, that you are not intimidated and that you are not a victim, they will lose interest and leave you alone ! If things get really bad and violent, you should ask your parents to speak to the teachers !

I agree with these guys, it's all about a power struggle when it comes to bullies. As they've said, bullies feed on the fear their 'victims' show. All they're looking for is a reaction, for you to show either pain or fear, and they lap it up. You have two choices when it comes to bullies...

1> you talk to a teacher or counsiler about it (which isn't being a snitch) because you deserve to have the best education you can get without someone else making it difficult.

or

2> you decide that you're going to stand tall and let all their remarks roll off your back. Don't show them that it bothers you; be kind to them too because it'll confuse the hell out of them! They'll leave you alone because you're no longer allowing them to make you a 'victim'

Are there any clubs, after school activities, or sports in your school?

get involved in something you enjoy.

as long as you're enjoying yourself you can tell eveyrone else to fuck off.

To be ahonest I would do this: when you ask someone at lunch if you could sit there and they say no sit there anyway.and if the bullies start talking smack to you look at at them and either a) with your eyes wide open and point at the same time and screach in the highest pitched voice you can. or b) point at them and laugh hystericlly. that ahonestly worked for me. I shit you not. it freaked the shit outta them.