Fingering!

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hi everyone! i know the topic of fingering has been covered alot but i wondered if i could have some specific advice.i had not done nything like this with a girl before but my girlfriend has been fingered and given a handjob.last week she gave me one, so i took it that i cud try with her. after groping a bit a nd leading up to it i tried, but after a while she stoped me. afterwards she said that i was doing it a bit to hard n it hurt. we tried again last nite and after a while she stopped me. i asked if it hurt n she said no but she thought i was getting tired. she is up for it but its pretty clear that what i'm doing isnt getting her anywhere. she also said that after a while it hurt abit.that made me think tht i was been to gentle n taking to long so eventually it just started to hurt. but i didnt want to go harder/faster coz last time she stoped me because of that.im just using 1 finger and i'm not jsut going in and out, but im not going near her clit either( its hard to find alrite!)i heard that u shudnt keep doin the same thing, but if i keep changing between her clit and vagina will it not just like not build up enough? as in like it starts to feel good on her clit and then i move on so she never has enough stimulation?i dont no what to do =[shall i use to fingers so she can feel it more and then go to the clit then back again?she enjoys it but only like 'thats nice,. , ' kinda thing as aposed to 'thats really really good!'any help from a few knowledgeable people would be great, i jst want to make her feel good.thank you

I wish you had said how old you both were and how long you had both been sexually active with eachother.......however, i feel from what you said that shes maybe not ready for it......i don't think its got anything to do with you not doing it right.

were both 17, and it was last week that we started.i was kinda thinking she wasnt ready but then again she kinda took it to the next level, not me. and shes happy for me 2 do it to her, its just im not any gd =[

I think she is ready too. And it is not necessarily that you are not good ! If you are very close to her and feel comfortable with each other, why don't you suggest her to guide you ? She will then show you what she prefers ! There is nothing wrong in showing what we want, cause we don't all like the same things. For instance I prefer being rubbed then fingered.

we do kind of talk about whats good i guess. i think i must have said something along those lines tho because i remember her saying something like i wouldnt no coz i dont do it 2 myself, but then she did it with her last b/f. maybe its just a case of practicing more and getting to know eachothers bodies a bit better. we are more open about it and each other every time so i guess just more practice?

Yea, more practice, lots of communication, and really getting to know each other's bodies and what you both like the most. You will learn together !Don't worry, don't try too hard, just enjoy the time you spend with your gf and it will all fall into place.

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im just using 1 finger and i'm not jsut going in and out, but im not going near her clit either( its hard to find alrite!)

Take the time to find her clit. You might want to spend some time on your own here: [The clit: a Magic Sex pleasure Button]http://www.infosex.com/clit.htm[/url] before you attempt to finger your girlfriend again.
Find her clit and you will both enjoy it. Most women don't orgasm through penetration alone (your finger or otherwise); clitoral orgasms are far more common.

the key with fingering is to take it slow. by the sound of it you are rushing things- if shes saying its 'too hard' odds are she isnt well lubricated enough. Apply some water based lube to your hands if you have any, and make sure to get her wet by gentle, sexy stroking, lots of passionate kisses and running your hands around the curves of her body. Its not just a case of sticking your fingers in there- spend whole minutes gauging how shes feeling, getting in tune with her needs, taking your time. When you're confident that shes definetly ready, start fingering properly- youll know shes ready by her heavy breathing, maybe sweating a little, grinding her hips a little in time with your hands. Gently rub the clit with your index and middle fingers, and with your other hand use the index and middle fingers to gently slide in and out of her. Give it time, and be honest with her- if you let her know that you want her to guide you a little, you can both have fun getting better at it. Practice makes perfect!-ak

If she's saying it hurts or he's doing it too, she's probably right. Maybe she needs him to be more gentle. Girls can be different than guys when it comes to masturbation and such.
I also agree he should spend some time learning about the female anatomy.

It sounds like she is not wet enough. Spends sometime with alot of for play, gently touch her legs and back. Then finally touch by first gently pushing a finger in just to get it wet, then move to her clit. Once she is wet don't even put a finger inside, just rub her clit. She may also not feel comfortable b/c she doesn't want to show you what to do. Just my 2 cents

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