Im so sacred, the world is falling apart around me

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omg...i have no idea what to do. my heart is breaking. this is a long story but here i go.my big brother got involved with this lady like 7 months or so ago (she alrady has a 12yr old son). but she was addicted to crack (he didnt know this when they got involved)but ne way...she started acting all cycotic and her ex bf started makeing death threats to my brother. so they broke up. now about 3 weeks ago she came back into the picture nad shes about 7 months pregnant ...so there was a posibility that the kid was his...but he didnt think so because the math didnt quite match up... any way last weekend they got into an argument and the next day she acused him of rapeing her son.

i know he didnt, for multiple different reasons,...but the most pressing thing that is scareing me the most right now is that they arrested him a week ago, and he is on alot of different perscription medication...some for depression and for ADHD and for cronic back pain. his doctor faxed the perscriptions to the jail, with explicit directions to make sure that he receves them on time. its been a week and they are still refusing to give him his medication. one of the medications you CAN NOT stop takeing cold turkey....and he is going threw serious withdrawls...and haveing breaks with reality....

my mom called the jail and told them that all of this is going on, and that he NEEDs this stuff inorder to fuction and to assist in his own defence. their responce was to tell him to read the inmate handbook. he has fricken ADHD...and has been denied his meds cold turkey for a week....HOW THE HELL DO THEY THINK THAT HE IS GOING TO BE ABLE TO READ IT, AND EVEN PARTIALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS SAYING IN HIS CURRENT MENTAL STATE???? and they wont let my mom or i even see the damn handbook to see if we can find anything to help him. i am so scared that he is going to freak out...because they are seriously trying to fuck with him...he called my mom this morning and is so scared that he is going to flip out, right now he cant even tell what is real and what is a dream.

*side note* my mom adopted him when he was a baby, his birth mom did a shit load of hard core drugs durring her entire pregnacy with him. he was born addicted to alot of different drugs...including heroin, and alcohol. so he has had behavoral problems from a very young age. but the meds control it. now they took them away from him....and he wants to behave, and to comply with the officers...but most of this he cant control.

i am so scared that they r gonna keep fucking with him...he will react or do something, and they will use that as an excuse to beat the fuck out of him, or even shoot him. my world would end if anything happened to him, he is one of those people in my life that if he got hurt or died i would not be able to move, or breath or function at all, i would want to die. i dont know what to do to help my brother...i would give him the world. one thing that sux especially badly for me, is that i have enough money to bail him out...but its in a trust that i cant touch until i am 30. and no one else in his life has the money to pay it,and it seems like getting him out of jail is the only way to get him the medical help he needs. techniquly my parents are the only ones that could get the money out of my trust(they say its not even an option, that money was meant for me and that neither my brother of them want me to use it), and even if they did they could go to jail for it because of how the trust is written...(there were alot of things written into it to safeguard againt it being used by ne1 but me).....my heart is breaking...i feel so helpless

I am sorry things are so bad for your brother. It is wrong what they are doing to him.

Your brother should have an attorney. I would get a hold of the attorney and see if they can do anything.

Listen, i'm sorry to hear about this. That's really crap. I am with pepsichaser on this. Get a lawyer. Talk to him. Coz i've got a friend sorta like that...and let me tell you...it can get ugly.Best of hope

I certainly agree. A good lawyer is the only answer. And what that lawyer needs to do is make a very clear threat to those who run the jail that they will be held personally reponsible for the consequences of their actions, as well as the municipality that has jurisdiction over this jail. The threat of a multi-million dollar law suit can work wonders. In addition a lawyer could petition the court to intervene. Surely there are some sort of minimum requirements in any jail regarding medical situations. Withholding prescribed medication seems pretty hard to defend.

yeah we have the best criminal defence lawyer in the state on his case....but i dunno, someone is dropping the ball some where in this thing...in my opinon there is no excuse for this...oh yeah...and 1 more wounderful bit of new that i found out just a bit ago....they have him in 23hr lock down...in a fricken concreat room with a thin pad to sleep on, by himself 23 hrs a day. the only time that he gets out is to call us...and he pretty much only can call us when the gards let him...and that usually isnt until he is damn near ready to break down, they said that hes in there for his own pertection...

which i think is partially true...this cycotic crack head that accussed him is tight with alot of people in this jail...and is feeden them a bunch of shit about my brother...so a fair population of the prision where he his would kill him if givin the chance....it seems like they (the police) r fucking with him on purpose to a certain degree because of what his charges are....my mom and i can keep him kind of grounded when we talk....and it helps him alot...its just he really needs this stuff, and it breaks my heart to here him try to not cry over the phone...he is so strong and careing and loveing....but this accusation is destroying his life and i have no idea how to help him...

he feels so bad that this is affecting all of our lifes aswell as his...we got to visit him...but we only got to see him over a tv and talk to him on the phone. he dosent want this to affect his family at all..but now my parents and i take shifts staying home so we can make sure to pick up if he calls, cuz he can only call landlines, and it scares him really badly if he cant get ahold of ne1....and my parents and i r really the only reliable ppl around 24/7 for him...i just dont know wut 2 do

oh...and 1 other thing that really sux about this situation is the fact that it is sunday...so his lawyer isnt even in the office....im scared that our hands are pretty much tied till monday...but im worried that it will b 2 late

People who are accused of crimes are now treated as guilty until proved innocent. The old safeguards and principles of justice are breaking down in the English-speaking world.

what is the evidence that it is supporting the charges? does she knows that reporting a false rape is a crime? has the lawyer filed a notion to dismiss the charges based on lack of evidence? what kind of defence strategy does your brother have? has the lawyer talked with him numerous times? has he been in toach with you about what is happening? i don't care if he is the goddam best lawyer, if he is not working really hard for your brother and showing a zeolous defence i wouldn't want him to be his lawyer. well that is my advise. if your brother is not getting the medications that he needs he is simply not getting a fair trial- which makes me wonder where is the procecution in this case? they more than anybody know that an unfair trial means acquittal as it has been in many monumental cases in the judicial history of this country even if the defendant is really guilty, but because of the acquicision of evidence in illegal ways will be grounds for the exclusions of such pieces as evidence against the defendant.

i have only met the lawyer 1 time...and he seems to kind of brush my mom off when she calls him or talks to him...he seems kinda like a pompus ass to me...but my parents say he is the best....he seems to know the law and be "the best" at this...he just dosent have the zeolous peice down..i dont know what to do about it though...ud think that if you were being paid a freaking $10,000 retaining fee to do ur job...u would at least try to fake inthusiasm.....hell if my teachers paid me a $10,000 retaining fee to do my homework...i would dance everytime they gave me more...

Most lawyers don't want to defend child molestation cases. The emotions are too high, and they are seen as just as bad as paedophiles themselves for defending them; and it's worse if they win, the public assumption being then that they have helped a paedophile freely walk the streets. They therefore don't really want to win, and they just go through the motions.

Originally Posted By: Ineligible

People who are accused of crimes are now treated as guilty until proved innocent. The old safeguards and principles of justice are breaking down in the English-speaking world.

This is so true. But the most frightening aspect of this is the attitude of the general public. Far from finding it scandalous, people believe that it should go further. I think in the public view an accusation and guilt are synonymous. People don't really believe in the right to a defense.

Well, it is Monday, I hope someone got a hold of the lawyer. Usually, if you have someone aggressive enough on the outside, and attorney will get off their butt and do something. ESPECIALLY if it is about getting your brother the meds he needs. Right now, it seems that is the biggest issue. If he can get his head on straight again, the attorney can do his job better.

OMG i have just read this now....how are things hon? has anything changed with your brothers medications etc......

well, humans are part of the judicial system. there have been many cases where the guilty person walks home, and the innocent goes to prison for a long time before they are exonerated. there is a big line of difference between legal culpability and the real world. the law is an ever changing system for the society to slap itself in the back as they say....anyways, any good lawyer at least should have something clear, and that is: your client is all that you care about, and you are to look for the best interests of your client and advise him at the best course of actions, and not take any agenda that you have as your own in the case. and to always give the best zeolous representation that you can muster!they are supposed to have clear heads, and know the situation, and always advise the client of all the choices he/she has even if it is satan or osama bin laden. it is part of the judicial system, and we as people should be served nothing less!and as always, it is twelve people that decide to free that alledged rapist, and not the procecutor or the defence lawyer. bottom line it boils down to twelve people. law doesn't concern with what happens in the real world, but the legalities, and the technicalities that are put as safeguards in order to protect the greater security of most innocent people. innocent until proven guilty is one of them. the fourth amendment another one? right to due discovery? right to a speedy trial? doble jeopardy? the right not to be witness to your own self incrimination? the right to a lawyer? and if a lawyer doesn't put the best defence because he thinks you are indeed guilty, and conflicts with your interests you should have him fired. if lawyers relied on intuituions i guess they would be disbarred- that is why they have a code of ethics. anyways, some lawyers are taught not to get too much to know about their clients, and many simply ask to a know to basis stuff since they can't knowingly put you in the stand to lie, nor they are allowed to lie in the summations of their case nor they can advise you to do any illegal activities. all lawyers don't work the same.

well, i guess that is his way of doing his job. part of his job is to say the status of the situation. and i understand why he kind of brushes your parents. and one of the reason is not to make any promises. it is a no-no that a lawyer should never do, but it doesn't mean that he can't aspire confidence.i guess it is his approach. a bunch of pressure...are you willing to put your life on the line? how about someone's else life? it is a way for him to be distant, and thus not think about the pressures, and kind of like see things as an observer. zeolous representation yet with perspective. bottom line- i guess you do trust part of the case to your lawyer, so having the right lawyer does help.

I agree I thik lawyers are the best option, although alot of them have no integrity or values, etc, thats a stereotype. Although if he had a lawyer he would probably win just becasue of her instable condition mentally.

HmmmYou will need a lawyer for this. They are preventing your brother from preparing himself for his defense. Since he is being held in a jail, I'm assuming this is based on the criminal charges. Shouldn't the court give you a lawyer?

omg... the last couple days have been hell....but at least things seem to be getting better now ...this is what happened. ok my brother can only call collect (at $2 a pop) from the jail to land lines and he can only talk for 15 minutes then they cut off the phone. so what he does when he needs to talk to us is hang up at 14minutes and call back so he gets another 15 minutes. so on friday, my parents left with my brothers dad and his wife to go to my other brothers house like 2hrs away from my house to talk about what they were going to do about this whole situation. cuz my brother in jail had been calling my house complettly freaking out and flying off the handel about stuff....and scareing the hell out of my mom, who in turn told me all of this shit so i got freaked. anyways they went to my other brothers house (he doesnt have a landline) to figure out what to do. so i was home alone, my brother in jail called me and wanted me to call my mom on my cell phone and put both the house phone and my cell phone on speaker so that they could talk (even when they r on speaker i have to move the phone to a different position when ever they switch who is talking)so i did that and he and my mom start talking and my brother started fliping out so my mom gave the phone to my other brother. (right about this time one of my friends came over so she got to hear all of this family shit)so my brother in jail started flipin out and screamin that my mom is a liar and we dont love him and that we dont care and how he wants us to bond him out. and that he would sell nething that he had to pay us back, and that he would give anything and everything he owns to even be able to spend 2 days with us. and he started saying stuff about killing himself and a wholebunch of other shit, so i was like " we love you so much, we would all give anything for you, please just dont give up, we're all fighting for you" and he started yelling at me and freaking out and i started to cry, and my other brother that was with my parents started yelling at my brother in jail and saying stuff like " i wish i could smack u right now, did you hear wut you just did to your little sister!?! I did! you need to man up and not be screaming at your family let alon your little sister!" so to make a long story short my i got to hold the phones and be front and centre to my brother threatening to kill himself and telling me (and the rest of the family) about death threats being made on him and how hes not gettin his meds and how we dont love him and how were not supportive and how hes beggin us to bond him out (which would take my brothers dad puttin his house up for collateral and all of our saveings, which we need to pay his laywer, cuz seriously if we bonded him out...we wouldent have any $ left for his layer and he would get a shitty court apointed one who would prolly only spend all of 8hrs on his case) so i spent the better part of 2 hrs crying and listening to my entire family flip a gasget and scream at eachother over the phone. the plus is it was kinda a reallity check for my brother in jail, and for his dumb ass of a dad who had up until that little conversation was comfortably vacationing on da nile....and they also finally got all of his meds stratened out. people are starting to get calmer...which is a relief considering we have been running around at red alert for about 2 weeks now. my major regret was that after the shit really started hitting the fan on the phone i was so freaked about everything (including that my friend was hearing all of this) that i decided it was the right desition to raid the liquer cabnet w/ my friend (and to my great sorrow on an empty stomach i mixed a bunch of different types of alchohol) i feel like such a dumb ass! not even because of the barfing and the hangover, but because it was irresponsible and deffinitly not like me at all...(just FYI, i didnt get ne ware close to drinking enough to get alchohol poisening, im just a light weight. i have never been neware close to intoxicated b4, but i managed to get shit faced this time) i really try to aviod doing shit w/o thinking and i really hate doing stuff that im going to regret later and i managed to disregard both of these with one action. my bf wasnt mad at me...he was just sad that i felt i had to resort to that...and i understand how he feels...omg...my pride is very brused right now...i hate feeling ashamed of my self. :'( the thing is my parents and my family feel resposible for stressing me out so bad...and my bf is a bit upset at my friend for letting me drink wile i was histerical...but its no ones falt but my own....yeah i was stressed but there wusent a gun to my head...i just hate that whole night and how stupid i was :'( i just wanna crawl under a rock im so embaresed