my main problem in life, i think (haha) is that i overthink.I am notorious for overanalysing every aspect of everything. I have had experiences with OCD and paranoia- nothing too serious with the ocd, but definetly with the paranoia. To be honest, i have something inside myself which, through all the bad times, keeps me going. It is a certain feeling, i dont know how to describe it or what causes it- but its a resillience. Its a powerful hope that things will get better. Whenever i think i cant do something, i remember the past when i had nothing and remember what ive achieved, and know that if i did it then, i can do it now. One day i will be the person i want to be, and nothing is going to stop me.However, i think the overthinking might hold me back. Maybe it is a blessing as well as a curse- is it a coindidence that a paranoid, overthinking, needy, obsessive guy like me has improved himself greatly from the friendless loser he was, while guys who dont give much thought to anything (and i know these guys) have remained the same through all of high school? Maybe my overthinking is what drives me to look deep inside myself, pick out what i dont like, and work at it. But i feel it may hold me back. Im not sure i want to lose it, and its all very confusing. If you dont have a headache by now, go ahead and comment.
Hi Africa, I am very heartened indeed by your third paragraph. It is both true, and an inspiring attitude. Hold to it!Yes, over-thinking can indeed hold you back. It's not possible to think everything through to a conclusion, and while the under-thinker acts without thinking, the over-thinker tends to think without acting. They need to be kept in balance.However, the habit of thinking things through thoroughly can be very useful, though unfortunately such people tend to be under-valued, as they are seen as negative because they see the problems others don't. Every committee and team should include such a person; too many don't. It is an important requirement for analysts and editors and for the manager's assistant.
hey u just have to relax, u have many posts about depressiona and overthinking. you should take time everyday to just be by urslef and relax, forget about everything and breathe. Hang out with friends and just have a good time.
I once had a problem with overanalyzing. I found that "overthinking", as you put it, was really holding me back from really enjoying myself sometimes. I was always worried about something or some possible outcome that I played out in my head previously.The good news is that you are a thinker. You seem to analyze yourself and you try to change the things you don't like about yourself.Like others have said, you should probably learn a way to relax. It was a slow process for me, but I had to keep telling myself to stop thinking about it so much and to let it go. I realized that anything you do has a positive and negative aspect. Once I was able to accept this, I was able to not "sweat the small stuff".
I'm exactly the same.
From as early as I can remember, I always thought things through to the very end and then made my decicion and yes, that held me back. But in a few events it held me out of trouble and once keep me out of the grave yard..
What I'm trying to say is, keep it cool and try to unwind as it can become quite depressing after a while. By 'unwind' I mean go camping for a weekend or take up some hobby. The stupid thing I went and did was, I begun to smoke but that's part of the past now...
Anyway, best of luck, if you have any more personal matters pm me
I will put my hand up to this one, it can be a killer in social situations. See a girl you like, your brain goes on overdrive with possible results on an attempt to talk to a girl, you think of every way you may get shot down by her, and in the end you play it safe and just move on. As far as you really know she could have been hoping you'd say something.
Overthinking is very much an anxiety reflex undoutedly due to something in your past. I imagine the issue comes from the hard time in High School you had.
Its always good to remember that when overthinking the thoughs your having are not real but as a defense to getting hurt. The best thing to do, and it is hard, is dont give yourself time to have these negative thourghts.
For example. See a girl you like, in 3 seconds of deciding you may be interested, be talking to her. You cant think of a negative outcome in 3 seconds can you!? :P Its a hard approach but the more you do it the better you will be, especially as you find what happened wasnt as bad as you expected.