So basically I've been planning on going to dog grooming school for a while. I've saved some money, working, and I'm breeding my dog which should pay for a fair amount of it (I'll probably make at least $1,500 from breeding my dog maybe more maybe a little less depending on expenses). The cost of the class is $4,000 So my parents offered way earlier to help pay for it.
I'll be taking the class during my senior year, so that when I do go to college I can have a decent job or something to fall back on etc. I don't have set in stone plans for college. My only plan I used to have was PCC (a community college) stay in the area and then go to OSU (veterinary college. However more recently with in the last year I've been evaluating whether or not I want to go to Veterinary School. I'm thinking I would rather major in Business or English possibly. However I will at least get a Business degree if nothing else. I don't really want to spend eight years in college.
Other than that I hadn't really planned where I would be living. I will stay at home if I do not a have a good place to move out too. I know I won't be able to afford college and full rent. So I'd have to share an apartment with some one. If I stay in the area I have some ideas of where I would like to live etc. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year, and if I am still with him I *may* move out with him or possibly a friend. However there are no guarantees or anything like that. If I stay in the area I will not move out with my boyfriend, unless I am not getting along my parents etc etc. If we both chose to go to college out of state somewhere then I would probably go with him.
I don't get along very well with my parents. It's a so-so relationship which is why I'm not even sure I could handle living at home after 18. Anyways basically this morning my mother told me she would not help pay for dog grooming. If I plan on moving out with my boyfriend or even any one else. Unless I'm going directly to a four year college etc etc. If I have any plans or thoughts of even moving out or moving where he or one of my friends wishes to go she will not support it. And if she does pay for dog grooming and I move away, I will not be able to ask for help ever again.
I personally think this is tad bit unfair. I do see her point about the boyfriend thing, if I did not plan properly or find a college to get into etc. Then I can understand her not wanting to help pay if I'm just going to run off randomly. However even if I am not with my boyfriend (which there is no way to know if I will be - we're young - I'd like to be - but things change) I do not think it is right of her to tell me I can not move out or away if she helps pay for dog grooming. I have a college fund, which is where the money would be coming from. So I think it's unfair of her to tell me I can't use it to go to dog grooming school. The way she words things is like I am going to use it to screw off etc. Well I am not even asking her to give me the college money. I am asking her to help pay for a class which even she will know if I am going to or not. I just don't think it's fair of her to tell me that when I turn 18, if I decide I want to go somewhere other than around Oregon etc. That I can't.
Any input? I'm frustrated.