Sex

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Hi as some of you may know i am a 14 years old "late comer". So i am not fully developed yet. I have a problem because i am in a relationship with a girl who i have found out has had sex four or so times. Now for most this would be "score" lets get it on. But as i haven't fully developed i am worried i am unable to "provide", i can ejaculate and all, but well you know the expectations now a days. So i am worried she will want sex. Should i tell her the truth or just say i don't want sex? Sorry to bug you with such crap. J.C,

Say you wanna take it slow and develop a strong relationship before you have sex. :smile:

It sounds like physically you can do all that the act involves, but mentally you do not feel ready. There's nothing wrong with that. If a girl is 14 and doesn't feel ready for sex, everyone says "that's only to be expected" and no-one feels she should be obliged to have it. I can't see that it should be any different for guys.If you are just worried about size, you should know that males worry about it much more than do their women.

*nodding* or is that an *echo*?

Big penises hurt!

Quote:Big penises hurt!How many times do I have to apologise for that??

Every time you drop it deep!! "bob"ing is fine, you only take what you want but DAMN! lol

Thanks guys.It is rather strange how all my mates who have got into relationships, and have fully developed, have girlfriends that don't want sex and it happens to be me the "developing" who ends up with the sexually motivated one! Thanks for the comments guys, helped alot. Jez,

If you're not ready for sex hon then just don't do it, simply as that, don't give in the feeling like you should etc etc and don't be ashamed of wanted a relationship before sex, its a good thing

Well there is nothing to suggest that she is "sexually motivated". She hasn't made any moves towards you in that direction, has she? She hasn't asked you to have sex with her.I think that she may like you a lot because of your lack of experience and your innocense. If she is as old as you are then I'd probably assume that she wasn't the one who initiated her previous sexual exxperiences, I'm not saying that she was raped or anything, but I just doubt it was her idea! Maybe she looks at you and knows that you won't pressure her into anything.So, if this point of view is correct (which it may or may not be, who knows!) then I don't think that bringing this up would be a great idea. If you start bringing up conversations about sex then she might start thinking that you're just like her previous partner(s).Just my 2 cents.

yeah, it's a good point. and maybe i am being to paranoid about it. I think you are right about most of it really, It is obvious she is sexually motivated. I won't go into any detail, but she is 14 and has done it more than half a dozen times. I think my view is that i feel that at my stage in "development" it would be an embarrassment!, as i said i can do all the process's involved except, i am 4"8 erect and like 1"75 wide, whether or not i am allowed to tell you this, i don't know, but i feel that i wouldn't be able to "provide" and look a bit stupid. especially as i am so late in the development.

Your size is perfectly adequate to do the job, Anothermember. Your width, which probably means more than length, it actually above average. But I stress again that you shouldn't feel you must have sex just because your girlfriend wants it.