me and my boyfriend have just started having sex with each other (we've both had partners before) but already we've come across a problem. we both HATE being on top. his argument is that he cums too quickly on top and just generally hates it and mine is that it hurts because his penis goes in too deep and i just hate it aswel, i don't have the confidence for it really. we try to reach a compromise but he always wants me on top all the time and he's very stubborn and gets quite pushy about it. he will go on top reluctantly if he knows that we won't have sex if he doesn't but he does cum very quickly. what i need really is advice on how i'm meant to enjoy it on top if it's hurting the way it does and how do i make him enjoy it more on top aswel so we can ocassionally reach some sort of compromise without it being a constant battle of who goes on top. i know there are other positions but i think we both want to keep it simple for now. also, what can we do if he eventually does go on top and cums in 5 mins?
thank you =)
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Sex stalemate
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I think upside-down missionary has less deep penetration than woman sitting on top.
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Blimey.. we're both amy and we both how cow avatars! random observation Have you tried other positions apart from one of you being on top???
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i actually er... not paying attention and thought you guys were the same person >.>
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hehe no, did you think I was having a conversation with myself?
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rotfl I figured it out once ya posted... Although, I wouldn't put it past some of the people on here :P
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Try having sex while spooning...it is a great thing to wake up with, and basiclly you both lay on your side with him behind you. You can easily go from this to doggy or "doggy with no legs" (basically missionary but with you on your stomach). Maybe also try condoms with the sensitivity lube inside to make it a little numb for the guy, this will help him last longer.If you find it too painful on top, try leaning forwards or backwards, as the angle of penetration will gauge how far he enters you, and this is controlled by you.You can do lots of things to make missionary fun. Wrap your leg(s)around his waist, pull him into you with you hands or feet, grab his bicepts. With him between your legs try straightening you legs but kinda wrapping them around his legs so even though he is between your thighs, your shins and feet are between his, and then kinda hold onto his legs that way. It will create a different body tension that you both might like.
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Sensory adaptation. If he's on top enough, he'll probably get used to it and it will take him longer to cum.
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dam darkangel we need to hook up it turned me on just reading u desribe that! I LOVE doing it like that.mmmmmmm... get at me.lol