Masturbting causes discomfort...

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Hi.... I've never ever been able to cum by hand.. But recently I got a vibrator....
Problem is, that even though it feels great cumming, just a few mins after starting... I get this icky feeling... and I feel like.. depressed and start crying after a while.... I seriously dont know what wrong, but I'd like some advice.

I've heard of this mentioned here before a long time ago. I have no advice except that there's nothing wrong with you. Probably just some surge in hormones that affects you emoionally.

Is it like a guilt?

i dont really know... I dont feel like... guilty. Just this weird feeling of disgust and depression....

yea, that's really common for people to get right after, I don't think there is really anything to fix

i think you have to sit down and realise that there is no reason to feel depressed......or if there is sth you have to solve it...........it is while you are masturbating that you feel like that because that moment you are really alone....you and yourself.....

Yea but.. i KNOW I have no reason to feel depressed.. im all for masturbating and exploring your sexual preferences.. the depressiveness just come automatically... I dont get why though... It just does.... Does everyone get this?

Hormones are released at orgasm and that's probably why your mood changes. There's a saying "Post coitem omne animal triste est" - "after intercourse every animal is sad" - quoted by Freud and others in various forms. The origin is unknown, but a discussion by a classicist suggests it originally came from a comment by Pseudo-Aristotle "After sexual intercourse most men are rather depressed, but those who emit much waste product with the semen are more cheerful." (The last part is doubtless rubbish.)

So.. it's impossible to do anything about it then? Well.... Sux for me then =(

I think in time, you can get over it and better, I'm curious as to the motivation for the discomfort, because I know normally after sex you have this happy contentment, and I don't see why it shouldn't be the same for masturbation if you are...comfortable with doing it.

I read that since masturbation is believed to release endorphins (what makes you feel satisfied and happy), it can also cause a depletion afterwards, making you feel depressed. That sounded like still just a theory though, and would perhaps apply most if you masturbate a lot, really. Also, exercise can get you in a better mood and perhaps it could help out in this case too, after an orgasm. I think a healthy body would help out a lot in feeling better, before and after this. But of course, maybe you already are. shrugBut it's all a bit complex, and varies from person to person a lot. Some can do it to relieve themselves of anxiety or depression. And some masturbate because they have a depression.

I just masturbate because I like it and I love cumming... Sometimes it makes me feel better... but often it makes me feel bad and depressed and frustrated... Maybe it'll pass after some time... I dunno.