Ack....need help plz

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ok so i really need some advice/help on getting my X back. I really truly lover her sooooo much(my vision of a perfect life would be me and her married w/ kids etc etc, i just cant be happy w/o her), and i know she loves me (maby not as much as i love her)we wer in a long distance relationship (she lived up north and i live in the deep south)she broke up with me because she couldn't handle the long distance relationship(not being able to wake up with me there, hug me, etc).btw im still in high school (although im very mature for my age) and she is a senor (shes two years older than me).so, does anyone have any ideas, advice, anything that would help me get her back?ty

How long ago did she ended the relationship? If she was the one who ended because of the distance, then I'm not sure that she would want to get back with you if the breakup is still fresh. You should call her and she how she feels about it.What worries me though is when you said you love her and she loves you but maybe not as much. This is why you need to talk to her because you can't have a relationship if she doesn't want to be on the same level as you. And she's a senior? That means she's getting ready to live her life and things are going to change.My best advice is to talk to her. You may love her and want her back but you don't know where she stands. Hopefully, someone might give you better advice. Either way, best of luck to you.

week or two ago, weve broken up a few times but shes always realized that she realy wants to be w/ me and all...then we would get back together.

Then you should talk to her, but also give her some time to think it over. I say that because if she's a senior (I'm assuming she's graduating soon?), she's also going to need to think ahead about her future and if she wants you to be in it.

I would think that if she ended the relationship, she has made a serious and no doubt difficult decision. Nothing has changed since she made the decision, so what basis do you have for asking for her to revisit it?I'm afraid, very painful as it is, you're going to have to accept her decision.

sorry bout taking so long to reply, was just taking time and thinking about the sitch and seeing how things might work out....unfortunately the sitch is prety much the same...Ineligible, my basis for asking her to revisit it is because i know she still loves me and wants to be with me...for example the way she acts to me and the stuff she says/how she says it is closer to the way she did when we wer together than she does some of her other friends (who im good friends with also and talk to everyday) like the other day for example her- hey jackson, i thought about you all day...me- realy?:) how so?her-..like about how much i wanted you to hug me and even kiss me ( at the time i didn't think to ask her how she wanted me to kiss her, and just assumed she meant a "caring" kiss or something..like on the top of the head or forehead) and i know she probably wouldnt feel that way or want one of her "friends" to do that...much less admit it to them. She also comes to me for comforting when shes feeling bad ...like she asks me to get on ventrilo (voice chat prog.) with her and just talk or hum to her b/c it makes her feel better and she likes to hear my voice.i guess the point im trying to get at is that she still thinks of/wants and treats me as more than a friend.im also afraid of pushing to much...i want to giver her time if she needs it..but at the same time i dont want to do nothing and end up losing her for good.

It's hard to advise you, not knowing the people involved. However, I should point out that being wanted for hugs and cuddles and comfort does not necessarily mean you are wanted romantically - you could be wanted as a "cuddle bitch", which still counts as a friend, not a lover.

Originally Posted By: Aeum

Ineligible, my basis for asking her to revisit it is because i know she still loves me and wants to be with me
There's a huge line between something you want to happen and reality, honey. If she wants to be with you, then why did she break it off in the first place? After this whole time you've been gone, have you actually sat down and talked to her about your feelings, without giving you the run around?

Originally Posted By: Aeum

for example the way she acts to me and the stuff she says/how she says it is closer to the way she did when we wer together than she does some of her other friends

Originally Posted By: Aeum

She also comes to me for comforting when shes feeling bad
It just sounds like she's playing you and have you wrapped around her finger. I'm sure she knows that you have serious feelings for you and using that to get to you. I'm sorry to say this but you are her cuddle bitch.

My best advice is to either have a serious talk with her. And if she still treats you like this, you have to count your losses and move on. This isn't right what she's doing to you because she's playing with your emotions. You only think she's the one now, but there are other people in the world. It's going to hurt, but things will be better later. Bail out because you're being mistreated and you're going to seriously get hurt more than you have to be.

Can you separate your dreams from the reality and to be honest? Did she really was your GF or you just wanted to think about her like she was your GF? Does she really love you? My dear friend forget her if she behaves like this.

Probably should have told yall this in the beginning...but well hmm where to start...basically im in a very deep depression, im getting help for it but nothing works..not pills not talking...nothing and ive been depressed ever since i can remember even in elementary school..the only time i can ever remember being happy, much less completely content with my life/how things are was when me and my X wer together which is one of the reasons i want/need her back...also, i know her well enough to know she would never use my feelings to get to me or make me feel bad..she just wouldn't do that. and even if im her cuddle bitch or w/e and really am fooling myself into thinking that she really loves me, i am still alot less miserable than if i just let her go and didn't try/hope.btw, ty for the help/advice/listening to me