okay i dont have an awful lot of close friends, but the ones that i do have are all not virgins now. my best friend lost his, and he kind of looked up to me cause i knew more about sex, but now hes had it its like reversed yknow. ive only had one sloppy handjob as far as experiences go, ive only had one girlfriend. i have confidence issues with women i guess, and this is making me extra insecure. i know the whole thing about whats wrong with being a virgin and blah blah blah, but this is getting to me.
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Friends have lost their virginity
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you're very insceure.you dont need to be in competition with your friends all the time. sex isnt a competition! find someone you care about and have a relationship with. quit comparing yourself. its not helping you at all in my opinion.
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Hey no sweat ive had a simmilar thing happen to me. You will lose your V when the times right... i know that dosnt make it any better but in the mean time dont let it get you down, enjoy yourself, try meeting new girls and stuff. One thing to remember, at some point you WILL lose it, so relax, its no big deal, it dosnt make you any more manly if you have shagged 1 or 100 girls!Confidence wise, well thats tricky. The only thing to do is be yourself, dont act like your a player or try to pretend you know it all. If you start going out more, seeing new people and try and make new friends you should b feeling much better with yurself, try exercising, weightlifting, fell good about yourself and sooner or later that vibe will rub off on others around you.If ya need any more help, just ask, but from the sounds of it, your are fine.
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I know why its getting to you, but it really shouldn't. Just try to keep in mind that even if your group of friends are going through the 'I've-done-more-than-you' stage, you'll all (hopefully) grow out of it soon enough. The usual advice to give girls is "Well a lot of girls don't really enjoy their first time too much and even regret it, so you're not really missing much", but that kinda advice doesn't work here. What I will tell you is that chances are that your friend had shit sex. He may boast about it or he may just act really cool about it, but you should be pretty safe in the knowledge that what you think he has over you was actually an embarrassing and short experience that has probably made the girl reconsider ever having sex again.
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Originally Posted By: ashley69you're very insceure.you dont need to be in competition with your friends all the time. sex isnt a competition! find someone you care about and have a relationship with. quit comparing yourself. its not helping you at all in my opinion. Uh...what? Since when???hehe only joking. Africa don't worry about it. People put "first-time" up on a huge pedestal. Don't do it to fit in, and don't do it for the wrong reasons. Bad things happen when it's done for the wrong reasons.
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lol, well in my experience, sex isnt a competition :Si wish he werent so insecure.
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Lol this is exactly my story, even the sloppy handjob part.
Even though I'm prolly older.
It really does suck.
Especially when you sit back and watch your hell of a dork best freind change to someone cool and happy just because he got laid.
And your still sitting there being a dork.
Life sucks. -
Originally Posted By: Someone young
Lol this is exactly my story, even the sloppy handjob part.
Even though I'm prolly older.
It really does suck.
Especially when you sit back and watch your hell of a dork best freind change to someone cool and happy just because he got laid.
And your still sitting there being a dork.
Life sucks.
Maybe instead of sitting there you should go out and get laid?