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roman955

Porn addiction...

(I hope this is in the right place, and if not please tell me and ill make a new 1)

I have a huge porn addiction, i just cant stop it. When i go to church and im in the stands singing, i feel like christ can give me stregnth but hen i get into a computer, i just cant stop getting on it. I have a girlfriend who says she hates it and its nasty, (she doesnt know i do it) and its agenst my religion, it gives virisus, and if i get caught, id go crazy. Theres so much at stake and i might lose it all if i dont quit, but i just cant stop getting on it! please help me
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Right now, Right this second as you read this DELETE EVERYTHING. Delete the porn, the program with which you download it. Now, go into your browser and set up Parental Blocks on your IE, Firefox, or what ever you use.Now, when you get an urge it'll take a bit of undoing and hopefully you'll find the strength/will power to talk yourself out of it.
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NtroducingMyself

I 100% agree with Java. Good luck buddy!
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damien

I agree with Java. That's a great start. And there are a lot of software type things you can do. You could even connect with Covenant Eyes, which is a free service that let's you choose a sort of accountability partner. Every few weeks are so, they will send to your chosen partner a full list of every - I mean EVERY - website you have been on. That would do it for me!

Definitely the first thing you need to do is put up roadblocks that make it as difficult as possible to access porn. Then you can begin working on the underlying issues that cause you to want to act out. If it's indeed an addiction, the underlying issues are probably not even sexual. If you have a good youth minister/college minister/minister minister (depending on your age), get them in on this with you.

I've dealt with this pretty extensively, both personally and academically. Please let me know if I can help.

You can do this!
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James_Bond

No offense to you and the previous poster with whom you agreed, but if the guy gets in front of the computer, he sees porn. So I don't think he will be able to control himself.

I know my advice will be crap now but I agree with Ntroducingmyself. Throw the bloody thing out. Give it at least six months, and buy a new one. You can manage without it!
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damien

The conclusion you are drawing is based on a statement that doesn't have to be true. Our point is to find ways to use the computer without the temptation of porn. There are a lot of uses for computers. And for some people, they are necessary. So there's no need to throw out the baby with the bathwater.

I've dealt with this before. I've found ways to be able to have my computer and internet without having access to porn. That's what we're suggesting.

That being said...if he pursues ways of doing what we're suggesting and still can't manage to have a computer without porn, then it might be time chop off the proverbial arm that offends.

And I wouldn't at all call your advice crap, I just think it's kind of straining a camel to catch a gnat or however that little cliche goes. Overkill.
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Quote:No offense to you and the previous poster with whom you agreed, but if the guy gets in front of the computer, he sees porn. So I don't think he will be able to control himself.Wtf are you talking about? If he sits in front of it he doesn't just see porn... What internet are you on? And that's why I suggested the Internet Child Blocks. If he throws the computer out he isn't dealing with his problem at all, just masking over it which does NOT solve it. and Ntro didn't suggest that, Helms did.
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roman955

You guys are helping soooo much, its been 4 days and no porn yet =), im doing 3 things, 1\. I have a freind who is a porn addict, he dad has free porn on tv, computer, and mags, i feel soooo bad for him because he has sooo much temptation, We come over ALOT and when one of us gets an urge, the other just makes him masterbate (Our thing is thsat when we orgasem, were not into it anymore, idk if anybody does this either) 2\. I keep coming to this site and this thread, and read all the post about u guys cheering me on, and it gives me power to stop it. 3\. I look at what i call subsitute porn, its like girls in bathing suits, and i also read stories, and i orgasim to that, which also stops the urges
I hope im on my way to becoming compleatly free of porn, ty all so much and keep posting positive stuff, its really helping! bye
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Java_Addict

That's really great! I'm glad you have support and a friend, as well as us here to help you. You can do it You're doing great.
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hey pal, thats great that your not looking at porn, but reading about what you said about it being against your religion, getting off to girls in bathing suits is lust, and not to be preaching, but the bible (im guessing your a christian) says thinking sexual thoughts abuot another girl is committing adultry in gods eyes. So getting rid of the porn is a great first step but im just letting you know iv been thru the same thing, and in order to quit one thing it might take ending other things as well. Keep on man
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makeitlast101

same thing here! i've been without it for about a week now, just make a new addiction to something not porn that isnt a bad influence, i bought like 5 new computer games cuase im also a game freak so im using my time on them instead, and it works just get ur mind off them.
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