heythis is the thing, i'm about to qualify as a Learning Disability nurse, in september (YAY!). i have an interview on monday but its like 70 miles away from where i live, so it would mean moving there and relocating. my boyfriend of 2 years is going to come with, but we've never lived together. so now i'm worried. he has no friends there or anyone, whereas i have some family nearby to the area. so we would be totaly by ourselves. he wouldnt be able to mix well as he doesnt work, doesnt really do much coz of his deafness he finds it hard to interact with other people. if we row, which we do quite a lot, he couldnt go to his mates or see his mum. he still lives at home so its a much bigger deal for him than me, as i have already moved away to do my training.i'm scared, any advice would be appreciatedBecky xx
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Moving
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I'd go nuts, but good luck!Honestly, there really isn't any help other then to dive in and try.
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i'm just really scared of it all going tits up
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well first off CONGRATS!!! moving in together is a very big step in a relationship. he must really care for you, as you do to him, for him to want to live with you and move away. it will probably take a little while to get used to it, but it should work out fine.just be patient, see if he's willing to go out and try and socialize. has he met your family you have out there? do they have any friends he can talk with???
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he's met all my family and stuff, but i think it will just be a civil thing, its my grandparents that live round there. he does love me, so much, and i am so grateful to him to want to move, but its a massive step, after just 2 years. i'll be at work all the time so dotn want him to get lonely. but the job is really good opportunity for me, it will happen if i get it.
maybe we should get a dog, to keep him company, and some fish.he has a load of issues with people coz he's faced a load of bad attitudes with his hearing, although you wouldnt be able to tell he is unless he told you so. so he finds it hard to socialise. he fishes so he'll probably meet people at some sort of club.
just really worried about him, dont want him to get so lonely that he leaves, which he's already suggested, if he doesnt like it, he said we cvan always move back, but ive pointed out i cant do that.
who knows what will happen, big step!!
ARGH! hehescary stuff!!
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He can take up online gaming, that's what my fella does when he gets lonely cause I work so much.
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ok, i'll suggest it, ta!
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o dear i wish i could help you more. all i can say is take a chance things will work out in the long run.
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My GF and I moved in really soon after dating, less than 1 year. She used to live about 50 miles from San Diego in VISTA, and had 0 friends in San Diego. I on the other hand had grown up there and I know a boat load of people. My friends soon became her friends, even my ex GF. That's right, and they get along very nice, though it took a minute for her to even meet my ex (my GF is a jealous one who has 10 years on me)
So I say, if you are mature enough, and he is as well, then just go right ahead and do it. You will meet mutual friends. If he is deaf and does not mingle with the non deaf, there could be an issue there, but other than that, it shouldn't be that tough. Good luck!