I haven't been on much lately (been busy with school etc). Anyways I wanted to get some feedback on my boyfriend.I recently bought a Maltese male (it's a dog btw), with the intention of breeding him to my Female and studding him out when he is of age. I had been wanting a puppy for a while to train etc, so when my dog's pregnancy didn't go through and the breeder offered me a puppy with breeding rights. I took the offer. I had been saving some money for quite a while, for the stud fee for my dog and Dog grooming school, a computer etc. I know a dog wasn't the most effective purchase, I could have bought my computer first etc. As far as Grooming School goes, I haven't even gotten accepted yet. My parents offered to just help buy me a computer when the time comes, for now mine still works. I am working all summer long and I save nearly all my money, so I will have the money back fairly quickly. The point of this post is, that my boyfriend is being pretty nasty about the puppy. He says it will cause problems between him and I, because a puppy will take up so much of my time etc. He keeps lecturing me on how I spend my money. I never lecture him on how he spends his. Even though he has no job and he pretty much wastes his money. We aren't married or living together so I don't feel he has the right to tell me how I spend my own hard earned money. It's not my problem I have that kind of money to spend, because I save and manage my money well and he doesn't. Anyways he hasn't even asked about how to dog is doing or anything like that. Whenever we talk he makes nasty remarks about the money I spent etc. He says he didn't want me to have the dog, so he doesn't care how it's doing etc. Animals are a huge part of my life, my mother runs a cattery and I am actively involved in it. I have always grown up with animals, I have owned everything from hamsters to a horse. I want to attend Dog Grooming school, so I can work as a dog groomer while attending college. He is not supportive of any of this. He thinks the whole Dog Grooming industry is stupid etc and that people shouldn't waste their money having a dog groomed. Basically I don't understand how he can be so unsupportive of any thing I do or any goals I have. I am always supportive of things he wants to do. Such as his computer (he wanted to buy a new one) and all his computer games he plays. I always try to support him in a getting a job etc. Even if I'm not really really interested in his games etc, I always take the time to learn about them. I never tell him he's wasting his money and time. My mother just thinks I should dump him, because he isn't supportive and he's throwing a fit over a dog. The thing is, I don't want to dump him. I really do love him, I just don't understand how he can be so nasty over a dog. Advice any one?
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Advice?
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I don't really have any advice....just an observation. I have read alot of your posts about your boyfriend, and personally, he seems like an ass. You seem like a good girl with a good head on your shoulders. He sounds like a little kid and doesn't seem to respect ANY aspect of YOUR life (IMO, from reading your previous posts).
My boyfriend likes to play pool and is on a league. I don't really care for it, but everytime he has a game, I ask how it went, if he won, etc. and if he lost....I offer encouraging words. And he does the same for me. I think you should really re evaluate your relationship.